How to diplomatically tell someone to suck it up?

luxor4t

CH27 wrote: »

Jen I think you should ask for this thread to be deleted as it gives away a lot of info.
Who knows who reads this forum & you don't want to end up in bother because of it.

^^^^ I agree.


You have vented your frustration, but this is getting a bit too 'informative'.


I really hope the situation is sorted soon btw, as a toxic workplace is soul destroying.

GlasweJen

I've actually made a major geographical move recently so what I'm posting would take a lot of work to guess who A is and where I am located now (nowhere near Glasgow).

I'm on a career break from my own job for family reason and for my own health, at the moment I'm not fit to practice in a high volume opticians like I usually do and I am considering a total career change as I've been diagnosed with yet another illness that's going to severely limit me in the not so distant future.

This job is in the charity sector but they receive a good bit of government funding as the charity replaces NHS services in the area - it's the weirdest set up I've ever come across to be honest.

This employer and my actual employer know about each other, my old colleagues think I'm waiting for a full time post to become available in my new area and my current work colleagues think I'm giving a year like a lot of professionals do.

The user group for our team is people who are visually impaired, we deliver low vision services across a large geographical area.

For me it's the sort of thing you'd need to be really keen on doing because the job is emotionally tough and even with my experience in an opticians practice who offer run of the mill low vision tests this is tough. We share space with loads of different services and some of what I see is harrowing. Again this is charity groups delivering social/NHS services and sharing space and some general admin staff to keep down costs.

The charity are very positive on offering jobs to disabled people (hence my mish mash of work mates) and take a lot of people on ESA on on min wage to see if they gel and can cope with the work before offering the person training, a salaried post and a pretty good base for a permanent job. In general it's a great place to work, it's not for me hence me wanting to maybe get into the hospital eye service.

Errata

This job is in the charity sector but they receive a good bit of government funding as the charity replaces NHS services in the area - it's the weirdest set up I've ever come across to be honest.

It may seem weird to you, but it will unfortunately be very familiar to those who've been involved in charities / not for profit organisations which replace services a LA previously provided. Dysfunctionality seems to be par for the course for many of them which is what's happening at your organisation - from top to bottom.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Two things - the flipping out is common at school with the kids who have been brought up as invalids/babies by their parents and they finally realise they've been caught out pulling a fast one. Homework not being done or being late in for three mornings (both attracting a detention) are the most common causes. The only way they stop is when they realise it just doesn't wash anymore.

Secondly, if they aren't kept on, they'd be able to do a rapid reclaim within the first six months after coming off ESA. So it's nowhere near as bad as being made permanent, then getting fired after nine months for something far worse, like throwing a tantrum in front of vulnerable service users or causing a newer employee to suffer a needle stick injury due to a refusal to use a safe area for injecting.


This doesn't sound like the condition - this is the person. So you'd be doing them a favour by letting them go in the long run, as mummy's little precious needs to learn that they're all growed up now.

Grumpelstiltskin

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Two things - the flipping out is common at school with the kids who have been brought up as invalids/babies by their parents and they finally realise they've been caught out pulling a fast one. Homework not being done or being late in for three mornings (both attracting a detention) are the most common causes. The only way they stop is when they realise it just doesn't wash anymore.

Secondly, if they aren't kept on, they'd be able to do a rapid reclaim within the first six months after coming off ESA. So it's nowhere near as bad as being made permanent, then getting fired after nine months for something far worse, like throwing a tantrum in front of vulnerable service users or causing a newer employee to suffer a needle stick injury due to a refusal to use a safe area for injecting.


This doesn't sound like the condition - this is the person. So you'd be doing them a favour by letting them go in the long run, as mummy's little precious needs to learn that they're all growed up now.

This 'mummy's little precious' is going to get worse over the next few years.


http://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/11075151/More-infants-being-labelled-with-special-educational-needs.html


So at the height 20% special needs, that's one in 5. OK we all agree that special needs is great but are we going to get 1 in 5 school leavers being brought up as being 'special' and wanting the same treatment in the workplace? You just can't run any business like that.

coolcait

GlasweJen wrote: »

I've .....

Why, oh why would you add so much more identifying information, after having been warned about the risks?! That just adds to the risk of you being identified!


In my time on the internet I've seen quite a few people give away enough information to identify them in real life. Some of them were/are regular posters on MSE.


Why take the risk that you will add yourself to that kind of list?