Pregnancy and Neighbours Car Horn

thorsoak

Tigsteroonie wrote: »

And I know more people who are up at 6:30am than are not, and most of those work.

We could continue this debate until all MSE posters have responded, if you want ...

Is a beep to say goodbye acceptable at any time?

Just because you've managed to work close to home doesn't mean that the majority of posters are in the same situation as you!

PenguinJim

Tigsteroonie wrote: »

Is a beep to say goodbye acceptable at any time?

No. Of course not. Apart from being prohibited in the Highway Code (which you should know if you have your license), it's selfish and unnecessary noise pollution.

Take out your phone and send an instant message saying "goodbye" if you've somehow already found yourself in the situation of having left a house and started your car without saying goodbye to people in the house.

Why wouldn't you consider other people when making unnecessary loud noises? :eek:

seven-day-weekend

duchy wrote: »

Eh?
What are you on about ?
Earlier the example of offices starting at 9 or 9.30 was used - and the poster getting up and leaving within 20 minutes.
So 9am start, lets say 30mins to an hour for getting ready (20 mins sounds a bit grubby)- takes us to 8am , an hour's commute takes us to 7am so even allowing a full hour for getting ready for work that still leaves 30 minutes for doing stuff before leaving home-whether that is prep for the evening meal, putting washing on or hanging it out, ironing or taking the dog for a walk..... of course most people don't take an hour to get ready and some start at 9.30 so that leaves even more time.

Simple time management - even if you don't live 10 minutes drive from work (actually I don't know anyone who does).
I did it for years and much preferred getting up earlier to having to do the lion's share when I got home.

Most workplaces don't start at 7am though -in fact a lot you couldn't even get in that early -including schools !

My son works in a supermarket and his girlfriend works in an Old Peoples' Home. They frequently start at 7. Also, hospitals? Emergency Services? Security Work? Cleaners?

Lots of people with unsociable working hours.

Georgiegirl256

Kaye1 wrote: »

I think some of you are being harsh- OP is a new parent to be, has no idea about what is ok during pregnancy (like most new Dads to be) and saying that people give birth during war isn't helpful. Yes, they do, but I am damn sure they would rather be somewhere else.


OK, somewhat misguided but actually the world would be a better place if all Dads were so concerned with the health of his partner and child.


And crowing 'ah well you will get used to it when the baby comes,' is even less helpful. Coz if you have had 2 hours sleep and just managed to get a screaming child to sleep and that idiot beeps his horn, all hell is going to break loose!

Are you the partner by any chance?!

All of the things you mention above that were mentioned to the OP were indeed factual. You reckon they weren't helpful, but people mentioned them to show how much the OP was overreacting.

Yes, it's lovely how concerned he his for his OH. However, he came on here asking if it would affect the pregnancy, he was told it wouldn't. He was given advice ranging from ignore it to call the police, none of it was good enough. It seems he's now wanting us to validate his vigilante method of solving the problem.....which IMO is the wrong way of going about it.

lulu_92

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

My son works in a supermarket and his girlfriend works in an Old Peoples' Home. They frequently start at 7. Also, hospitals? Emergency Services? Security Work? Cleaners?

Lots of people with unsociable working hours.

That isn't exclusive to 7am though, is it?

Can it not be agreed that OPs neighbour is being ridiculous and whether it was 7am, 7pm or the middle of the night , if you were asleep and were woken day in day out by some obnoxious berk and his car horn you would be understandably miffed.

duchy

lulu_92 wrote: »

That isn't exclusive to 7am though, is it?

Can it not be agreed that OPs neighbour is being ridiculous and whether it was 7am, 7pm or the middle of the night , if you were asleep and were woken day in day out by some obnoxious berk and his car horn you would be understandably miffed.

Many shift workers suffer this as routine and manage to not get into strife though or want validation to start a war with the beeper.

lulu_92

duchy wrote: »

Many shift workers suffer this as routine and manage to not get into strife though or want validation to start a war with the beeper.

I used to work unsociable hours so anything before 10am to me was night time! I knew I couldn't get annoyed about my neighbour playing the drums but it was still a massive pain.

I think if you're looking at a general consensus of people that 6:30am is not a reasonable hour for excess noise. Some people might be up and about but some people might not be. It's all about consideration for your fellow humans

catkins

gunsandbanjos wrote: »

This post seems to have got lost in the discussion, wow! I'm so sorry about your sister. It's very easy for these kind of things to escalate out of control, you never know who you're dealing with.

The sad thing is you just never know nowadays that you won't be hit or stabbed if you complain about something. In this case the OP is lucky that they are going to be moving. I feel sorry for any neighbours being disturbed that won't be moving.

emweaver wrote: »

Being woken up sharply and suddenly will do her no harm and she will need to get used to this when the baby is born. She can just go back to sleep and chances are she will get used to it and stop waking.

These are the sorts of post I find very annoying. Being woken up sharply may or may not do harm but I don't find it pleasant at all and lots of people cannot just go back to sleep. Once woken it can take me hours to get back to sleep or, often, I cannot get back to sleep at all.


I don't see that keep saying she will have to get used to it when the baby is born is of any use at all. I know babies that have slept through the night almost from the day they were born. Even if they have a baby that does cry a lot in the night that cannot be compared to an idiot honking a horn. A baby cries for a reason - that !!!! honks his horn for no valid reason.


I know how tired, stressed and angry I would be if I were be woken every morning by the moron.

gunsandbanjos wrote: »

I suggested earplugs on page 2 I think, OP hasn't mentioned if they have tried them.

Not everyone can sleep with earplugs. I can't and I have tried them all - I wish I could

Person_one

duchy wrote: »

Many shift workers suffer this as routine and manage to not get into strife though or want validation to start a war with the beeper.

I'm a shift worker.

I had a neighbour a couple of years ago who played ridiculously loud music at odd times. I can guarantee you there was no way I was putting up with that as 'routine'!

There's a huge difference between the unavoidable everyday sounds of people getting on with their lives (traffic, sirens, voices, doors slamming, dogs barking, babies crying) and the sound of a neighbour being massively inconsiderate and deliberately antagonistic.

pinkteapot

The pregnancy thing is completely irrelevant here. I wouldn't be happy with a horn regularly beeping at 6.30am either! I think the local council are your best bet as they're more likely to do something than your PCSO. They'll get you to keep a diary of the noise and will usually then write to the person telling them to stop it. Doesn't sound like much but something official might be enough to nip it in the bud.

Please don't stoop to his level and start beeping at 3am. Then your neighbours' sleep will be disturbed twice instead of once and that really is grim for people. You'll also risk getting a PCSO or person from the council turning up on your doorstep.