Pregnancy and Neighbours Car Horn

AndrewB3

Hi All,

I'm not sure if this is the right place to be putting this, but I really would like some advice on this.

We've recently moved house into quite a nice road, and also my partner has recently become pregnant. All good so far.

However we have a problem in that our neighbour opposite leaves for work at between 6am - 6:30am. Also no problem.

The problem lies in that he uses his car horn to say goodbye to his wife at this time. Also what should be a relatively straight forward problem to fix.

I went over to explain that his horn was waking up my pregnant girlfriend and it is a very sudden waking up to a car horn.

However the problem lies in that he actually does not care, I explained that my girlfriend is pregnant and really needs her sleep and that it is actually against the law to do so. His reply to this was, call the police, I need to say goodbye to my wife in the morning and i'm going to carry on doing it.

He agreed it was unreasonable and agreed that it is the same as if i were to ring his doorbell at 3am (when i go to work), but he was still going to do it none the less.

Now he is doing it louder and now during the day whenever he is in his car.

Usually I would just start waking him up when I go to work at 3am, but I have other priorities now and that is making sure my girlfriend gets all the sleep that she needs during her pregnancy.

We are only going to live her for the next 5 months and my experience of getting the council involved with something like this, is that it will take a lot longer than that for them to sort the problem out.

Anyone been through a similar situation and can advise me is greatly appreciated.

tom9980

Talk to his wife?

After that community police.

PasturesNew

If you're only going to be there for 5 months then I'd bide my time .... and either ring his bell at 3am every morning in the final month, or - as revenge is a dish best served cold - wait until you've moved out and make a detour each morning to do it

gunsandbanjos

I wouldn't play the pregnancy card, it is simply not on to do it full stop!

What a knob.

NoAngel

I don't think being pregnant is relevant at all, this would be irritating regardless. I would just put up with it though as starting to do it back won't actually make things better and 5 months isn't very long.

vegasvisitor

We have neighbours who have visitors who do this regularly. Our other neighbour has mentioned how annoying it is....I also find it an odd way of saying goodbye! Different if you are picking someone up and do a quick pamp to alert them that you are there. I just don't understand the need to do it when leaving. That said, this isn't at any early hour, but it's still annoying. We live in a quiet street, so it makes you jump up to see what it is (as there are only 4 houses).

I think it's weird that you have mentioned to the guy yet he insists on still doing it. You'd think maybe he hadn't realised it was annoying, but just doesn't care!

Likewise I'd be tempted to ring the bell at 3am, but given that he's being arrogant about it I'm not sure what he'd do to you!

AndrewB3

Thank you all for your fast replies.

Putting up with it for 5 months isn't an option, I am really concerned that being woken up sharply and suddenly every day is not good for my girlfriend and our baby, at this point I am at my wits end and will do anything for this to stop. The fact that it is completely unnecessary makes it even worse.

I have a feeling that his wife is going to be exactly the same unfortunately.

jetplane

Your going to live there for 5 month, how exactly do you stop this man beeping his horn as he has already increased his output? I may be in the minority here but while it is annoying I think making a bigger issue out of it is overreacting.

Your partner is woken at 6.30 am by a car horn, what time does she go to sleep, does she work unsociable hours, what difference does it make if she's pregnant? Do you not wake her more when you get up early, can you not pop her earplugs in on your way out?

And when you can be bothered, I'm with pasturesnew ring his doorbell every morning at 3am

Vicky123

I wouldn't have mentioned pregnancy as it's irrelevant, looks to him like you wouldn't mind otherwise. The man is a pest, just count your blessings it's temporary and pity the other neighbors who are stuck with it.

pmlindyloo

Problems like this escalate really quickly.

You are there for relatively a short time so rather than getting your revenge and/or involving the police I would suggest you hot foot round there asap and apologise for 'getting off on the wrong foot'. Just say that you are sorry that you appeared aggressive/similar (blah blah blah) and that you would like to be good, friendly neighbours. Invite them round for a drink. It is so much more difficult to be nasty to someone when they are your 'friend'.

Yes, I know this goes against the grain and takes an enormous amount of swallowing your pride but in this instance it is really worth it.

I cannot begin to tell you how many neighbour disputes can arise which begin with a minor thing and then quickly progress to real problems. Does your partner really want the stress of future altercations?

In the meantime get some ear plugs for your partner. She's not ill, just pregnant. If you go to work at 3am then she doubtless wakes at that time so being woken again at 6am I can imagine isn't much fun but that is hardly your neighbour's fault.

jetplane

AndrewB3 wrote: »

Thank you all for your fast replies.

Putting up with it for 5 months isn't an option, I am really concerned that being woken up sharply and suddenly every day is not good for my girlfriend and our baby, at this point I am at my wits end and will do anything for this to stop. The fact that it is completely unnecessary makes it even worse.

I have a feeling that his wife is going to be exactly the same unfortunately.

You cant be serious? How can it be sharp or suddenly when you know its going to happen? Mothers and babies have survived much more trauma than this. If you find this a challenge then you need to steel yourself for the shock of a new baby :eek: