Pregnancy and Neighbours Car Horn

AndrewB3

pmlindyloo wrote: »

Problems like this escalate really quickly.

You are there for relatively a short time so rather than getting your revenge and/or involving the police I would suggest you hot foot round there asap and apologise for 'getting off on the wrong foot'. Just say that you are sorry that you appeared aggressive/similar (blah blah blah) and that you would like to be good, friendly neighbours. Invite them round for a drink. It is so much more difficult to be nasty to someone when they are your 'friend'.

Yes, I know this goes against the grain and takes an enormous amount of swallowing your pride but in this instance it is really worth it.

I cannot begin to tell you how many neighbour disputes can arise which begin with a minor thing and then quickly progress to real problems. Does your partner really want the stress of future altercations?

In the meantime get some ear plugs for your partner. She's not ill, just pregnant. If you go to work at 3am then she doubtless wakes at that time so being woken again at 6am I can imagine isn't much fun but that is hardly your neighbour's fault.

No but it is my neighbours fault for continuously breaking the law with no regard for anyone else, to achieve something that is completely pointless. With regards to being woken up twice, I actually sleep on the sofa now, so that waking up at 3am doesn't happen.

I do disagree with the view of just leaving it and letting people get away with things like this. What kind of society would we live in if everyone is just allowed to do things like this.

jetplane

How does your partner feel about your neighbours horn and you sleeping on the settee?

mummyroysof3

I'm sorry but you are making too much of a big deal of this. She is pregnant not ill and if you think a cat horn outside is bad then you got a shock coming when baby arrives

comeandgo

Why are you using your girlfriends pregnancy as an excuse? If she was not pregnant would it be ok? How you going to stop her hearing any unexpected loud noises for a further seven months. Great real, women still give birth even in war zones where there are rather more noises than car horns.

Vicky123

AndrewB3 wrote: »

I do disagree with the view of just leaving it and letting people get away with things like this. What kind of society would we live in if everyone is just allowed to do things like this.

Sometimes you have to pick your fights, arrogant people usually get what's coming eventually.

pmlindyloo

AndrewB3 wrote: »

No but it is my neighbours fault for continuously breaking the law with no regard for anyone else, to achieve something that is completely pointless. With regards to being woken up twice, I actually sleep on the sofa now, so that waking up at 3am doesn't happen.

I do disagree with the view of just leaving it and letting people get away with things like this. What kind of society would we live in if everyone is just allowed to do things like this.

I absolutely agree with you but what are your options?

Report him to the police/the council? You yourself recognise that this kind of behaviour does not resolve itself in a matter of days. neighbour disputes far worse than yours can take years to resolve.

What I was suggesting was a way to perhaps stopping it by being the 'bigger man' and trying to get on friendly terms with your neighbour.

The alternative is to report him, escalate things and sit back and wait for the sh*t to hit the fan.

If you think that not letting him get away with things is more important then go for it.

AndrewB3

This is the first time I have any experience of pregnant women, so i have no idea what harms/doesn't harm the baby. I am just assuming that being woken up is bad.

I'm not using it as an excuse, I was just hoping for some empathy that this is a stressful enough situation as it is.

I don't think I am making a big deal out of this, maybe I should come to your house and ring your doorbell every morning at 3am? then you can tell me whether it's a big deal or not :rotfl:

Thank you for your suggestions anyway.

rach_k

A car horn is of absolutely no danger to your partner or your unborn child. The child is well protected inside and waking suddenly is nothing more than annoying. Honestly, being woken at 6.30am isn't that big a deal when you consider that you're going to be woken three times a night every night for the first year or two of the baby's life, maybe longer! Your partner will probably be getting up a couple of times a night anyway as the pregnancy progresses. The pregnancy card isn't relevant here, although I'm sure it makes things a whole lot more annoying. If you're moving in 5 months, at least you can be glad that the horn won't be waking the baby every morning (probably after you've spent an hour trying to get him/her back to sleep!).

What is relevant is his disregard for the law. Call the local Police and ask them to have a word. Talk to his wife - maybe she will be a bit more considerate. Or start going out at 3am and ringing their doorbell to say goodbye to his wife.

Georgiegirl256

AndrewB3 wrote: »

No but it is my neighbours fault for continuously breaking the law with no regard for anyone else, to achieve something that is completely pointless. With regards to being woken up twice, I actually sleep on the sofa now, so that waking up at 3am doesn't happen.


Are we talking about one pip of the horn here or virtually playing a tune on it? If it's the former, then tbh with you, I think you're being abit of a drama queen. Yes, it is against the law, and there's no need for it, but it's that bad that's it's disturbing your life to such an extent? Really?

I do disagree with the view of just leaving it and letting people get away with things like this. What kind of society would we live in if everyone is just allowed to do things like this.

Well why did you ask for opinions then? If you disagree, then phone the police, problem sorted.

gunsandbanjos

Being woken up is not bad, pregnant women are not delicate flowers.

I understand first pregnancy can be stressful but please try not to over react.

Your wife's pregnancy is neither here nor there in this situation, your neighbour needs to learn to be more considerate but unfortunately as you are discovering he is a bit of a !!!!!! so you need to manage the situation some other way.

Would earplugs work for your wife?