Pregnancy and Neighbours Car Horn

gunsandbanjos

jewelly wrote: »

Andrew - please get in touch with the PCOS or whoever and let them deal with this. This person sounds like a right di*khead who seems to have it in for you now. Don't retaliate in any way as that would only escalate the situation and take you down to his level.

My sister was actually stabbed to death by her neighbour over this very same issue a few years ago. I'm not saying this would happen to you - but it just shows how things can get out of hand.

This post seems to have got lost in the discussion, wow! I'm so sorry about your sister. It's very easy for these kind of things to escalate out of control, you never know who you're dealing with.

gunsandbanjos

bright_side wrote: »

No time to read whole thread, I assume ear plugs have already been suggested?

I suggested earplugs on page 2 I think, OP hasn't mentioned if they have tried them.

emweaver

AndrewB3 wrote: »

Thank you all for your fast replies.

Putting up with it for 5 months isn't an option, I am really concerned that being woken up sharply and suddenly every day is not good for my girlfriend and our baby, at this point I am at my wits end and will do anything for this to stop. The fact that it is completely unnecessary makes it even worse.

I have a feeling that his wife is going to be exactly the same unfortunately.

Being woken up sharply and suddenly will do her no harm and she will need to get used to this when the baby is born. She can just go back to sleep and chances are she will get used to it and stop waking.

BucksLady

emweaver wrote: »

Being woken up sharply and suddenly will do her no harm and she will need to get used to this when the baby is born. She can just go back to sleep and chances are she will get used to it and stop waking.

A really good point

sulphate

barba wrote: »

A friend of mine was disturbed during her first pregnancy by loud neighbours. She moved to a hotel for a second pregnancy.

Maybe a coincidence but her second child had performed far better academically than the first.

Have you considered moving to a hotel?

You can't be serious.

splishsplash

OP if I were your partner I'd be pretty annoyed with you for trying to fight my battles for me.

If I were your partner, I'd be over to the wife the minute the husband drove off every morning hammering on her door and leaning on her bell. Assuming she answered, I'd politely let her know that her husband woke me and ask her to ensure it didn't happen again. If she didn't answer, I'd have the satisfaction of knowing her husband would get an earful that evening.

I would repeat this a couple of times, then go straight the the police if it didn't stop.

I could never let it slide for five months.

74jax

I also agree it's for you're wife to sort. You aren't even in the house when this happens, I wouldn'twant my oh dealing with this when I'm perfectly capable .

Kaye1

I think some of you are being harsh- OP is a new parent to be, has no idea about what is ok during pregnancy (like most new Dads to be) and saying that people give birth during war isn't helpful. Yes, they do, but I am damn sure they would rather be somewhere else.


OK, somewhat misguided but actually the world would be a better place if all Dads were so concerned with the health of his partner and child.


And crowing 'ah well you will get used to it when the baby comes,' is even less helpful. Coz if you have had 2 hours sleep and just managed to get a screaming child to sleep and that idiot beeps his horn, all hell is going to break loose!

duchy

Eh?
What are you on about ?
Earlier the example of offices starting at 9 or 9.30 was used - and the poster getting up and leaving within 20 minutes.
So 9am start, lets say 30mins to an hour for getting ready (20 mins sounds a bit grubby)- takes us to 8am , an hour's commute takes us to 7am so even allowing a full hour for getting ready for work that still leaves 30 minutes for doing stuff before leaving home-whether that is prep for the evening meal, putting washing on or hanging it out, ironing or taking the dog for a walk..... of course most people don't take an hour to get ready and some start at 9.30 so that leaves even more time.

Simple time management - even if you don't live 10 minutes drive from work (actually I don't know anyone who does).
I did it for years and much preferred getting up earlier to having to do the lion's share when I got home.

Most workplaces don't start at 7am though -in fact a lot you couldn't even get in that early -including schools !

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

And plenty of people have to rely on public transport, cycle or Shanks' Pony to get to work. Not everyone lives a ten-minute car drive away.

My husband used to walk, but the school he taught at is only round the corner. I went on my cycle or walked, it took 10-20 minutes. My son's cycle commute takes about fifteen minutes. However if the weather is too bad to cycle, it takes nearly an hour on the bus. My son's girlfriend's commutes takes only ten minutes in the car, but as she doesn't have a car, it takes forty on the bus and then a fifteen minute walk.

So, if it takes you the best part of an hour or more to get to work and you have to be there by seven, you are going to be up well before 6.30. Lots of people like them around.

As regards the OP, I still don't think it is worth getting into a fight about, especially if they are leaving soon.

duchy

Except that when it was pointed out to him that starting a war with his neighbour would cause stress to his pregnant wife and noted that stress can cause actual harm to a pregnancy- He completely ignored that point.

Kaye1 wrote: »

I think some of you are being harsh- OP is a new parent to be, has no idea about what is ok during pregnancy (like most new Dads to be) and saying that people give birth during war isn't helpful. Yes, they do, but I am damn sure they would rather be somewhere else.


OK, somewhat misguided but actually the world would be a better place if all Dads were so concerned with the health of his partner and child.


And crowing 'ah well you will get used to it when the baby comes,' is even less helpful. Coz if you have had 2 hours sleep and just managed to get a screaming child to sleep and that idiot beeps his horn, all hell is going to break loose!