Removing father from birth certificate

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marisco wrote: »

I cant imagine what possessed you to come onto a thread, with the sole intention to try and stir up bad feeling and cast doubt over the OP being genuine. Seriously what exactly do you get out of being so downright spiteful?

I can to a point.
The facts: op left ex 8 years ago, but is only now being called as a witness?
Despite having no contact for many years and no child contact.
He's being convicted of multiple serious crimes, but the nature of these is a mystery, as opposed to the fact the child has autism, which is ok to share.

I'm not saying this is lies. But perhaps a stretch if the truth.

The short answer is no, at the time if birth, he was the father and someone you chose to have a child with, that space and time point is fixed and cannot be undone.

Whether the court allows a name change, or an adoption, is not easy to say.

The reality of it is, your son is 14, 4 years from adulthood, and whilst autism can be very serious, he clearly has some understanding of what is happening. Protecting your children is rule 1 as a parent, but I think what you are suggesting is hiding the truth, and lying to your child is hugely disrespectful.

No matter the crime, he is his own person and knowing the truth will likely serve him much better than believing, or worse doubting, a lie.

A two year old may forget, a 6 year old may learn differently, but a 14 year old, even with autism, will likely remember a lot more than you are giving him credit for.

Now changing the name to be a family is a nice thing, don't get me wrong. But give your done credit, lies just breed more lies.

mountainofdebt

further to my earlier post, you don't have to download the programme its on iplayer (http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b047bvj5).

Alot of it may not be of interest, its only the last 10 minutes or so that is, but the programme itself puts it all into context.

(I've found the series quite an eye opener and won't look at Nigel Lawson in the same light after listening to his programme)

GlasweJen

OP as a Scottish person who has been through this in the family let me outline my mums case before you waste money on a lawyer.

Mum married my dad and took his name, they were Mr and Mrs A. They had 3 kids together.

Dad was convicted of !!!!!philia against his own kids. Sent off to Bar L.

Mum filed for divorce, dad rejected the divorce, it went to court - ongoing saga for 9 years.

Meanwhile mum met new man and in time had a child. As mum was still married child HAD to be registered as baby A even though the biological father was Mr B.

Mums divorce finally came through and her 5th child was registered as baby B - mum eventually got remarried and became Mrs B.


My brother (the one who was Mr Bs child abut named master A) was always known as Alan B (not real first name) came across his birth certificate at age 11 and asked questions. Mum and Mr B went to a lawyer and outlined the situation. Lawyer explained we need Mr A to relinquish patental rights despite the fact that Alan wasn't his biological child, mr A was in jail at the time of conception, birth and onwards and could not have possibly been related to Alan in any way, shape or form.

Mr A being a controlling @@@@@ refused to declare that he wasn't Alan's father.

It took Alan until after his 16th birthday and the B family thousands of pounds in legal and court fees before his birth certificate was declared invalid and reissued to show he was the son of Mr B.

Meanwhile of my siblings, one got married and changed her name, one kept the surname A and I changed my name by applying to the registrar general when I was 19 to Ms B.

GlasweJen

I should also add that a social worker recommended that the 3 abused children have their surname changed but the courts refused to allow it - hence us waiting until we were older.

You shouldn't under estimate the legal advice and help that someone in prison can get, particularly if that person is "notorious" and has the PC "oh diddums how sad, he must have had a bad child hood what about his human rights" brigade in their corner.