Baby next door crying non-stop!

Gigervamp

Of course it would be a different story if it was loud music causing the problems! Loud music can be turned down or off, a baby crying is a baby crying. They don't come with remotes!

lulu_92

catkins wrote: »

Over 30 years ago we bought a new house and our neighbours were fairly newly married, the same as us. They were really lovely and we got on well with them.


After about a year and a half they had a baby and that baby cried and screamed non stop. I felt so sorry for them and I used to hear her sometimes screaming at the baby to shut up. I also used to hear her crying.


I never thought there was anything suspicious - they just had a baby that kept crying. I know me and OH found it really annoying although luckily we were both out at work all day. She did used to apologise but obviously there was nothing she could do.


It did get a bit better after about a year and then they moved.


I do sympathise with the OP but there is not really anything you can do. It's a shame houses are not built a bit better with better soundproofing rather than what could be cardboard between houses.


I will say that although me and OH had already decided we did not want to have children that baby would have made our minds up for sure! We used to say it would be a great advert for contraception

I know deep down I can't do anything about it, which makes me really sad.

I feel sad for them because nobody wants a screaming child, regardless of reasons behind it. I hear screaming from both kids and the mum. I did lose respect when I heard her calling her young son every name under the sun and using some colourful language towards him, which I believe should never be said to a child.

I want to be able to enjoy being at home but feel like I can't and the solution is out of my control.

If they apologised for the noise I think I would be more accepting.

lulu_92

Gigervamp wrote: »

Of course it would be a different story if it was loud music causing the problems! Loud music can be turned down or off, a baby crying is a baby crying. They don't come with remotes!

Okay, you have me there:rotfl:

ripplyuk

I sympathise with you. Could you maybe sell the place and rent for a while until you find the right house? Other other option I can think of is to spend your evenings out most of the time!

lulu_92

ripplyuk wrote: »

I sympathise with you. Could you maybe sell the place and rent for a while until you find the right house? Other other option I can think of is to spend your evenings out most of the time!

We're absolutely against renting and don't see the point when the money from rent could be paying off the mortgage and give us more equity (possibly) as opposed to essentially being dead money.

Yeah unfortunately I'm not well at the moment so as soon as I get home from work I don't even have the energy to go out!

Plus all of my friends work with my OH at a bingo hall so don't get out of work til gone 10pm, which is fine at weekends but when I have to be up at 6am for work it's not so fun. (I used to work there too and have since left)

balletshoes

lulu_92 wrote: »

I am disappointed that "because babies cry" is a perfect justification. If it was loud music it would be a different story.

but your neighbours could do something about loud music affecting you - they could switch it off/down.

What can they do about a baby who cries all the time? If you have a solution for this for your neighbours, I'm sure they'd love to hear it - because if its annoying you, it must be driving them completely up the wall!

If your thread is a rant OP, then I have quite a bit of sympathy for you, noise nuisance of any kind, when its continual, can be very stressful to deal with. But in reality, what can your neighbours do?

Tiddlywinks

Gigervamp wrote: »

Of course it would be a different story if it was loud music causing the problems! Loud music can be turned down or off, a baby crying is a baby crying. They don't come with remotes!

Babies are mobile though so perhaps it could be placed in a room furthest from neighbours with other doors closed to dampen the noise.

lulu_92

balletshoes wrote: »

but your neighbours could do something about loud music affecting you - they could switch it off/down.

What can they do about a baby who cries all the time? If you have a solution for this for your neighbours, I'm sure they'd love to hear it - because if its annoying you, it must be driving them completely up the wall!

If your thread is a rant OP, then I have quite a bit of sympathy for you, noise nuisance of any kind, when its continual, can be very stressful to deal with. But in reality, what can your neighbours do?

I do understand that, which is why I don't say anything but I have a small feeling that they could be doing a bit more when she cries (hey, I could be wrong about this - don't shoot me, guys and girls!)

It is a rant. Of course I would love the perfect solution but obviously there isn't a suitable one for this situation. I had considered writing a letter but thought it would be a bad idea.

If I'm honest it has upset me that people think I'm being selfish when I'm well within my rights to be annoyed by this.

The only way I can describe it is if you imagine you're on a flight and there are two kids behind you, screaming and shouting and you turn around and the parents are nowhere to be seen, or they are there and don't say anything about the behaviour. Now, imagine that flight is six months long.

I know I'm only 22 so many of you may be thinking that I'm too young and naive to understand how babies are and that I should be worshipping these parents because of the fact they have had a child and put my feelings to one side.

However, I do agree that having a baby is by choice. If you choose to have sex, you agree to accept the potential consequence, planned or not.

balletshoes

lulu_92 wrote: »

I do understand that, which is why I don't say anything but I have a small feeling that they could be doing a bit more when she cries (hey, I could be wrong about this - don't shoot me, guys and girls!)

It is a rant. Of course I would love the perfect solution but obviously there isn't a suitable one for this situation. I had considered writing a letter but thought it would be a bad idea.

If I'm honest it has upset me that people think I'm being selfish when I'm well within my rights to be annoyed by this.

The only way I can describe it is if you imagine you're on a flight and there are two kids behind you, screaming and shouting and you turn around and the parents are nowhere to be seen, or they are there and don't say anything about the behaviour. Now, imagine that flight is six months long.

I know I'm only 22 so many of you may be thinking that I'm too young and naive to understand how babies are and that I should be worshipping these parents because of the fact they have had a child and put my feelings to one side.

However, I do agree that having a baby is by choice. If you choose to have sex, you agree to accept the potential consequence, planned or not.

I don't think anyone has suggested you should be worshipping your neighbours as parents or anything else.

Your example of kids on flights - again, its not really comparable with a baby - you can tell a child to stop, you can withdraw their treats etc until they behave. You can't do that with a baby - it doesn't work.

Lets say, in a few years time, you have a baby, and its a cryer (for medical reasons say, or maybe because of the way you've chosen to parent that baby (Gina Ford for example)). What will you be able to do to reduce the impact of your baby's crying on your neighbours?

Georgiegirl256

DomRavioli wrote: »

You will be able to tell rather quickly if they are stressed, and surely if they are, they don't need social services and a nosy neighbour adding onto it.

You seem awfully focussed on your problems, but not what the family might be going through - get real, and stop being so selfish.

It may sound harsh, but it needed to be said.

Totally agree with all of the above.

As others have said, the baby might have something wrong with it, some health problems that causes it to cry so much. The last thing your neighbours are going to want is a neighbour giving them grief and a visits from Social Services.

Judging from some of your other posts (OP), you're thinking of having a baby yourself pretty soon. If that's the case, you'd better get used to it. If you can't live with the neighbours baby screaming, how on earth are you going to deal with a screaming baby of your own?

Our walls are pretty thin, you can here next door when they sneeze or raise their voices, and also when they have their grandchildren during the day. The youngest is a baby only a few months old, and yes it cries a lot, but nothing the tv doesn't drown out.

I know it's awful and wears you down getting a constant noise from neighbours, but with a crying baby, there really is very little you can do about it.

As has been said already, it's the parents I feel sorry for.