Baby next door crying non-stop!

notanewuser

My bet is she's following Gina Ford (and that baby isn't a Gina Ford baby).

You could pop a copy of the Babycalm book through her door.

Horseunderwater

If you do not want to get involved give social services a call.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Sounds like my eldest.

It's all she ever did. The only time the neighbours wouldn't have heard her crying was when her father was screaming at me for being an incompetent mother for not being able to stop her crying. Which, of course, kept her going even longer.

lulu_92

maman wrote: »

I understand what you're saying but it seems an extreme reaction when OP hasn't even spoken to them about the baby's crying.


It sounds as if they're stressed and not coping well. The older child copying sounds like he's crying out for attention (literally). I think in that situation I'd at least try and speak to them not to complain but ask if there's anything I could do to help. Perhaps just a coffee and a chat.

What on earth do I say though?!

"Oh hi there, can you tell your baby to be quiet?"

I don't see how it can be approached without sounding rude or disrespectful - even over coffee.

I can just see it would be a case of her thinking "who does this girl think she is? she has no kids and is only a kid herself"

PasturesNew

thorsoak wrote: »

If you are at your wits' end - just imagine how the poor parents must feel! Whilst I do feel sorry for you, I feel more for the parents and the baby!

You could ask if there is any way that you could give the parents a break .........

But the parents chose to have one - knowing what they're like. The OP didn't choose to have one and has had it thrust upon them.

lulu_92

PasturesNew wrote: »

But the parents chose to have one - knowing what they're like. The OP didn't choose to have one and has had it thrust upon them.

This is how I feel, and it sounds bad to admit it. I know I'll probably change when I have kids but I imagine that I would apologise if I knew my kids were making noise that the neighbours could hear.

Dashikii

Why don't you make friends with her? Ask her round for a cup of tea? She is probably dying for a break.

lulu_92

Dashikii wrote: »

Why don't you make friends with her? Ask her round for a cup of tea? She is probably dying for a break.

I have tried to befriend her when I see her but she has no interest.

Valli

lulu_92 wrote: »

What on earth do I say though?!

"Oh hi there, can you tell your baby to be quiet?"

How about an opener which invites them to share their concerns/worries.

'You must be exhausted/worn out with a baby and a toddler'

'I'm popping to the shops - do you need milk/bread/anything - I know how hard it can be to get to the shops when you have little ones - my sister/Sil has little ones'

'How are you?'

'How are you settling in?'

lulu_92 wrote: »

I have tried to befriend her when I see her but she has no interest.

Perhaps because she's exhausted. Or embarrassed.

If you REALLY can't cope why not ring your GPs surgery and ask to speak to the Health Visitor and share your concerns. Even if your neighbour is registered at another GP surgery she/he might be able to get in touch with the HV of the neighbour.

savingmummy

It could well be the baby has a medical problem.


Maybe try and catch your neighbour for a "hello how are you finding the area" "Oh how old are your boys/children"
It may then bring up the subject of "my baby is poorly at the moment" IF she don`t mention anything I`d either say I hear the baby crying you must be exhausted or something sympathetic along those lines!
IF you honestly feel the children are at risk in any way it does need reporting BUT I`d rule out any other issues first.
Do you speak to other neighbours? They may know something.


I have a 6yr old who has mental health problems and his currently undergoing assessments.
We have been reported by a neighbour who thought we were harming our son due to his behaviour it could sound like his being killed, unfortunately we try our hardest to keep his noise down using distraction, and are learning how to prevent triggers that start him off but its not easy.
Had that neighbour asked me if I was ok, or needed an ear I could of explained to her.


I can understand how your feeling it can`t be pleasant. Its bad enough when you have a child crying non stop but to listen to someone elses can be worse!!!