Baby next door crying non-stop!

thorsoak

Nicki wrote: »

I had 7 months of it nearly 5 years ago thorsoak so I completely get how you feel (then and now). I think like many things in life you need to walk a mile in those shoes to fully understand the toll it takes.

That said I look at my happy healthy 5 year old now and smile every time I see him and those days are over. As for you with your grown up children. Thankfully . xx

I must admit feeling a tad miffed when all three of No 3 son's babies were little angels ....would have been karma if he had had even one night's disturbed sleep - but they all slept like little angels!

GwylimT

thorsoak wrote: »

I must admit feeling a tad miffed when all three of No 3 son's babies were little angels ....would have been karma if he had had even one night's disturbed sleep - but they all slept like little angels!

If my son has any children I think I will be annoyed if he has little angels!

Nicki

Logically jaylee if this isn't a thread which anyone can read and post on, then the only people who should be posting on it are either those who had a baby who screamed a lot, or those who lived next door to such a family, as those are the only two categories of poster who have anything other than speculation and conjecture to offer.

Thorsoak was no doubt drawn to the thread because she had a relevant perspective to offer. It is OP's choice whether to consider that perspective or ignore it.

jackyann

I don't think that this has divided in to 2 camps at all, I think there have been a lot of different perspectives, which is the value of this board. The downside is that people can get a bit vitriolic - at that point, they are best ignored.
And I do think that some issues, especially those around childbirth & tiny babies, can easily surface after many, many years. One may have dealt with them at an everyday level, but a particular trigger will bring them back. Knowing & understanding that is dealing with it.
I too hope Lulu has been able to pick out what is helpful, both to her & the family next door.

Nicki

Do you have kids jaylee? I was a very rebellious teenager and my parents often said when mine were babies that they hoped I got my payback when mine were older. And I also joke now that I have a 14 year old (who thankfully is not a handful yet) that karma is going to get me. It isn't meant maliciously or unkindly I don't think. Just the thing that one generation says ruefully to the next now and again. My mum would be really upset in reality if any of my 3 ended up being horrible teens.

I didn't read thorsoaks comment as being anything other than tongue in cheek and a joke.

FBaby

It proves how much a crying baby can leave one feeling absolutely helpless and unable to cope on anything but the most basic of levels.

I could have written this. My chest will still tighten up in anxiety when something brings me back to those times too and they are now 14 and 11. One day recently, I was talking to a friend on the phone. She'd bought a swing with music which was surprisingly similar to the one I used to have for my DS. The minute I heard the sound in the background, a wave of anxiety got to me just from the memory association taking me back to when the music was on all night long as I was too scared to stop it and my son would wake up and we would have to start the whole routine again.

I think it's one of those things where if you haven't experienced it, you can really understand the implication of it. The utter feeling of desperation is overbearing.

lulu_92

I was going to stop posting as I felt a lot of the posts on here were quite unfair. Thanks to all the well wishes and sympathy.
I appreciate that due to me being childless I lack a certain amount of empathy. I have come back with a question to all those posters who have or have had a rough time with babies and children: during this time of desperation did you ever shout anything at your child that if heard by someone else could be seen as something VERY bad to say?

I heard the mum say something earlier to her baby when it had been crying for ages and I'm not sure whether to take it with a pinch of salt.

mummyroysof3

Said maybe something like why won't you stop crying? Or what's wrong? But never screamed at them. What is it that concerns you?

Reams

lulu_92 wrote: »

I was going to stop posting as I felt a lot of the posts on here were quite unfair. Thanks to all the well wishes and sympathy.
I appreciate that due to me being childless I lack a certain amount of empathy. I have come back with a question to all those posters who have or have had a rough time with babies and children: during this time of desperation did you ever shout anything at your child that if heard by someone else could be seen as something VERY bad to say?

I heard the mum say something earlier to her baby when it had been crying for ages and I'm not sure whether to take it with a pinch of salt.

Oh dear, You're obviously getting more worried. Does she have a neighbour the other side of her? If so, can you have a chat and light heartedly remark that the mother isn't getting much peace or something. She might offer up some info.
Was it like, "I'll kill you if you don't shut up." Or not that bad? Does the bigger child seem to be well taken care of?


You haven't said very much about the family but if like me and surrounded by high fencing, you see very little. Does she take the child out, do they have a car seat thing for the baby, are there any other signs that this is not a normal upbringing?

lulu_92

The thing I heard was "I wish I was f'ing killing you because then you would have a reason to cry"
The neighbours next to them are Chinese and I rarely see them in (although they've had no issue dumping loads of sand in my parking space!)

I only see them go out to take the son to karate once a week