Can you invite one and not the other?

Person_one

I don't really like the argument that it's ok not to invite partners if you don't know them or haven't met them. Doesn't it send the message that you're not particularly interested in meeting them and don't really want to get to know them, not if it means paying for their meal anyway.

Homeownertobe

Person_one wrote: »

I don't really like the argument that it's ok not to invite partners if you don't know them or haven't met them. Doesn't it send the message that you're not particularly interested in meeting them and don't really want to get to know them, not if it means paying for their meal anyway.

Not to me. If I wasn't invited as a plus one to a wedding/party of someone I've never met I wouldn't think like that at all. It seems rather self-pitying and paranoid to me.

wiogs

Person_one wrote: »

I don't really like the argument that it's ok not to invite partners if you don't know them or haven't met them. Doesn't it send the message that you're not particularly interested in meeting them and don't really want to get to know them, not if it means paying for their meal anyway.

That may well be the case. Just because I work with someone I see no reason to get to know their partner.

I know a few couples where I would happily exclude one from a party but not the other.;)

74jax

Person_one wrote: »

I don't really like the argument that it's ok not to invite partners if you don't know them or haven't met them. Doesn't it send the message that you're not particularly interested in meeting them and don't really want to get to know them, not if it means paying for their meal anyway.

i've never thought of it like that, it really isn't an issue for us.

pickledonionspaceraider

If you work with someone, you might not be that fussed about meeting their partner, as in inviting them to your wedding or something. You may never encounter the partner again as long as you live, so why should you invite them to something as personal as a wedding for example

picklekin

You invite them because the person you DO want there wants their partner to be there. I find things like weddings often agonizingly awkward and just wouldn't cope without my OH, so I wouldn't go!

I know if your doing the inviting you have the final say, but you should want your guests to be happy and have a good time, I'm sure lots of people (even without social anxiety disorder) have a better time with their OH there...

Person_one

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

If you work with someone, you might not be that fussed about meeting their partner, as in inviting them to your wedding or something. You may never encounter the partner again as long as you live, so why should you invite them to something as personal as a wedding for example

Maybe because, if you think your own relationship is important enough that your friend should spend a day celebrating it and buy you a present, it might be nice to acknowledge their relationship too?

There's a definite irony in excluding your friends' husbands and wives from your wedding!