Can you invite one and not the other?

Kim_kim

Luella-14 wrote: »

I don't find that odd, the workmates all know each other, presumably the partners don't. Weddings are usually limited numbers so it makes sense to invite those who the couple know.
In the OP's case, an informal family bbq, I think it's rude not to invite partners.

Sorry I should have been clear - some partners were known.

Also it was just a local community hall (they had to clean the hall themselves at the end of the evening - it was no fancy catered event).

74jax

Kim_kim wrote: »

Sorry I should have been clear - some partners were known.

Also it was just a local community hall (they had to clean the hall themselves at the end of the evening - it was no fancy catered event).

Doesn't seem odd to me at all. Like i said I did this.

i don't think it matters if it is 'fancy' or not, i think it may be depends on people's social circles.

To me it and my friends it really isn't an issue.

pleasedelete

I think if space is such an issue then you don't live in a suitable space to be having an BBQ. People don't take up that much room. they will move between house and garden. It might rain anyway.

Have a picnic in a local park instead.

Parking- that isn't a issue for the host. It is the guests responsibility to park legally.Advise guests of the restrictions and they then decide what to do (drive and walk, cab , bus etc)

jackyann

I would like to agree that in principle, parking is an issue for the guest. However, I have often found that no matter how clearly and politely I point out parking issues, some visitors will still park badly, or say they "didn't realise" what was written!

Kim_kim

74jax wrote: »

Doesn't seem odd to me at all. Like i said I did this.

i don't think it matters if it is 'fancy' or not, i think it may be depends on people's social circles.

To me it and my friends it really isn't an issue.

Well there was no catering to x numbers & it was buy your own drinks.

peetj

Kim_kim wrote: »

Well there was no catering to x numbers & it was buy your own drinks.

I doesn't matter (to me, I appreciate everyone's different) if it is for x amount of people so my hubby isn't invited or it's not limited numbers and my hubby still isn't invited.

It really isn't unusual for who I know to just have 'occasions' for one half of the couple.

If it's something I want to go to I will, if its not I won't. Whether hubby is invited or not doesn't really feature in my decision. Its the same with him too, he's away this weekend, I wasn't invited but it doesn't mean anything to either of us.

ska_lover

Kim_kim wrote: »

I was invited to an evening wedding reception, a very simple do in a local hall nothing fancy on my own. About half a dozen workmates were invited to the evening only without partners, I thought that was odd.

There will always be two schools of thoughts on this kind of topic

I don't see any wrong in the example above, for a wedding, inviting 6 workmates, the obviously all knew each other and wouldn't feel alone or left out. However, I do think it is inappropriate to invite a person alone, if they know no one else there

minerva_windsong

74jax wrote: »

We don't mind in the slightest being invited singularly, I also did this for my wedding, just invited people I knew, not their partners if I didn't know them.

Hubby and I have loads of different friends so it really doesn't seem odd to us .

We've also had to implement a 'no partners we haven't met' rule for our wedding because between us we have a lot of cousins and including all their partners would have massively increased the guest list and made it way outside our budget. If we were inviting someone who didn't know anyone except us then I'd be quite happy to invite their partner too, but all of our different groups of friends know each other quite well so that isn't an issue for us.

I wonder if this is a generational thing in parts - I'm in my mid-20s and, of the various friends' weddings I've been to, it's not unusual for an approach like this to be taken. Whereas my parents would almost certainly invite both halves of a couple to a party they were hosting.

Gloomendoom

We also have a very big combined family but we just adapted our wedding plans so that we could afford to invite everybody and their partners, children, dogs, cats etc.

74jax

minerva_windsong wrote: »

I wonder if this is a generational thing in parts - I'm in my mid-20s and, of the various friends' weddings I've been to, it's not unusual for an approach like this to be taken. Whereas my parents would almost certainly invite both halves of a couple to a party they were hosting.

That's a good point.