pregnant with no home

hickles69

This week I discovered I'm pregnant at 32 for the first time.

My current situation is that I live in my boyfriends parents guest room as I couldn't afford to private rent for both of us anymore. I have since discovered that we cannot stay until March as initially planned.

So I suggested looking for a small home to mortgage as I thought we were both saving. I have managed nearly 12k altogether but he has only managed £100 and nothing off of his debts. I am angry because now I have to go back to private renting with a partner and child to pay for.

I am really do not want an abortion. I just don't see where I'm going to go from here. My family are as bad with money as my other half so no help there.

Any advice I would be grateful for but I get there's no way out at all is there.

Caroline_a

Why are you paying for him?

WantToBeSE

hickles69 wrote: »

This week I discovered I'm pregnant at 32 for the first time.

My current situation is that I live in my boyfriends parents guest room as I couldn't afford to private rent for both of us anymore. I have since discovered that we cannot stay until March as initially planned.

So I suggested looking for a small home to mortgage as I thought we were both saving. I have managed nearly 12k altogether but he has only managed £100 and nothing off of his debts. I am angry because now I have to go back to private renting with a partner and child to pay for.

I am really do not want an abortion. I just don't see where I'm going to go from here. My family are as bad with money as my other half so no help there.

Any advice I would be grateful for but I get there's no way out at all is there.

How many weeks pregnant are you?
The good news is that you have the remainder of your pregnancy to find a suitable private rent that you can afford. Also, your boyfriend can use the remaining time to pay as much as possible off his debts and maybe even save some.

tea_lover

Can you get a mortgage on your own?

jaylee3

Are you on any housing list hun? (social housing) Or if you want to buy but can't afford it just yet, have you tried something like a company that lets you rent a property for a while, with a view to buying it later. Like

http://www.ewemove.com/rent-now-buy-later/

OR

http://www.inreach-homes.co.uk/

OR

http://www.irwellvalleyha.co.uk/content/1240/rent-now-buy-later.aspx

It depends where you live of course, but most counties in the UK have some organisation that offers something like this.

Don't have an abortion if you want the baby, just because of this situation.

Good luck

hickles69

Caroline_a wrote: »

Why are you paying for him?

He contributed when he could but I thought he was clearing his debts.

hickles69

WantToBeSE wrote: »

How many weeks pregnant are you?
The good news is that you have the remainder of your pregnancy to find a suitable private rent that you can afford. Also, your boyfriend can use the remaining time to pay as much as possible off his debts and maybe even save some.

I'm not sure but think about 5 had trouble registering with a gp. I have to be out of this house by end of November. Rent is about £800 a month here so all my savings will be gone in no time. He wouldn't even let me have a £2 coin yesterday cos that will render him skint apparently.

PolishBigSpender

Does he work, and if not, why?

hickles69

hickles69 wrote: »

He contributed when he could but I thought he was clearing his debts.

I don't think so as a 2 bed here is £200k and now I'm pregnant with the new rules it would be a no I imagine

hickles69

jaylee3 wrote: »

Are you on any housing list hun? (social housing) Or if you want to buy but can't afford it just yet, have you tried something like a company that lets you rent a property for a while, with a view to buying it later. Like

http://www.ewemove.com/rent-now-buy-later/

OR

http://www.inreach-homes.co.uk/

OR

http://www.irwellvalleyha.co.uk/content/1240/rent-now-buy-later.aspx

It depends where you live of course, but most counties in the UK have some organisation that offers something like this.

Don't have an abortion if you want the baby, just because of this situation.

Good luck

thank you I have never heard of this. I've been on social housing list since 2010 I'll have a look. Thank you. I am not sure what I want baby wise so panicked about the housing situation.

kev25v6

Sounds like he not worth hanging around for to be honest. I'd be looking at options of moving out without him and claiming csa from him. Single working parents get a lot more benefits wise than as a couple.