Old style birthday party:)

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Mado wrote:

Party bags are a tragedy!!!

Last year Everyone had a go and they all had a mini notepad, fancy pen and a couple of sweets. After THIS one asked as she left... " and where are the party bags".
Rotten bratts!

I think referring to five year olds as 'rotten bratts' is a bit strong!

Some children are used to going to birthday parties where there are party bags.. todays society has conditioned them to think that this is the norm. When it doesn't happen, then they question it. I have a five year old; he like most others of his age, is a lateral thinker. Party......no party bags?....then ask why .

Yes, I as an adult, know it is bad manners to do so, and if he ever did, I would explain to him, immediately afterwards, that this was not a nice way to behave. I would hope that he would then know not to ask the same question next time he went to a party. This is how children learn.

They most certainly do not, having made a social faux pax, at five years of age, deserve to be called Rotten bratts.

Sorry for the rant,

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Edinburghlass_2

Oh well I still don't understand why its worth mentioning that "maybe I made them feel guilty;)"

It strikes me that a birthday party is to celebrate the day a child is born and for that child to have fun with their friends in whatever way they/you decide to do it and not to compete or make other parents feel guilty.

Queenie

My d9yo received a party invite recently ... he told he simply did not want to go!

It's being held at a main Amusements Arcade

I've discussed it with him and even encouraged him to go - but he just doesn't want to go to that environment!

Maybe kids are more savvy then we think :rotfl:

Sarahsaver

Edinburghlass wrote:

Oh well I still don't understand why its worth mentioning that "maybe I made them feel guilty;)"

It strikes me that a birthday party is to celebrate the day a child is born and for that child to have fun with their friends in whatever way they/you decide to do it and not to compete or make other parents feel guilty.

i didnt mean it in a bad way in fact i suppose i didnt have to say it at all, but i also didnt have to start the thread either.
If you dont think its worth mentioning then please dont get a 'thing' about it! Just let it drop!
I didnt hold a party for the sole purpose of making other kids' parents think 'OMG i dont do all this, how does she do it...' if that happens (and it does believe me) then it isnt my fault.
In fact the parents who have the bouncy castle/macdonalds/magicians/barges on the canal/hire a gym...THEY are the competitive ones.

Glad

Sarahsaver wrote:

In fact the parents who have the bouncy castle/macdonalds/magicians/barges on the canal/hire a gym...THEY are the competitive ones.

so every parent who has chosen a party from your above list is only doing it to be competetive..........


well I object to your statement, my children have had home parties, tennis/swimmimg/football parties, some cost very little some cost more but each party has been planned with the sole aim of giving my child a happy birthday and never just to compete with other parents

Curry_Queen

Sarahsaver wrote:

In fact the parents who have the bouncy castle/macdonalds/magicians/barges on the canal/hire a gym...THEY are the competitive ones.

Sorry, but the way you've come across sounds just as competitive as the parents you're accusing of being so.

Mado

Pink-winged wrote:

I think referring to five year olds as 'rotten bratts' is a bit strong!

Some children are used to going to birthday parties where there are party bags.. todays society has conditioned them to think that this is the norm. When it doesn't happen, then they question it. I have a five year old; he like most others of his age, is a lateral thinker. Party......no party bags?....then ask why .


There is a bit of irony in the term, I sometimes refer to my own like this.
I am not particularly resentful of that child.
However I would say she didn't ask "Do we get a party bag", she really said "Where are the party bags ?" like it was her due. During the party I had another one asking what the prize was for a game...

I sincerely hope none of my kids would go to an adult they don't know and talk like that, and I can assure you that as a child I MIGHT have made a comment after leaving the party but not ask directly.

barksavingmad

I've been saving the free books you get on shreddies boxes over the last year, for my daughters birthday. They'll all be wrapped and in a lucky dip box for them as they leave.

Sarahsaver

Curry_Queen wrote:

Sorry, but the way you've come across sounds just as competitive as the parents you're accusing of being so.

so many people have got me totally wrong

Be offended if thats what suits you.

I couldnt have afforded an elaborate party anyways, I made that quite clear, people were wishing me luck at the beginning and now Im a baddie. :rolleyes:

catznine

Don't let it get you down Sarah! This is a great thread in that it is giving parents great ideas for their kids birthday parties and letting them know that they don't have to spend a fortune!

The trouble with a chat forum like this is that it is not easy to make yourself understood in the way that you would like in just a few typed words! I am sure that we have all at some time been taken the wrong way when it was not what we intended at all!

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Let's all be friendly everyone - I get such a lot from this site - friendly support and great advice - what it is all meant to be about really.