Better off Financially living apart or as a couple?

Graham_Devon

Tell you what Craig.

How about YOU look after and pay for your son instead of ME and every other taxpayer.

Good enough answer for you?

Your charachter will be assesed regardless, this is not financial advise you were asking for, it's how to best play the system to gain more money. OUR money.

Move in, work, and sort yer temper out instead of saying 'poor me, I have a problem'.

I do not want to be paying for your mum and kid while your living in another place also taking from the system thanks.

poppyscorner

Craig,

My answer to your question is quite simply I don't know as I dont know any of your circumstances you may be best advised to see a CAB officer and ask them your question.
What I will say though is that I think you have had a bad deal in this post from lots of posters your initial query was vague but by no means did it indicate to me that you were wanting to cheat the system.
I think you have done an excellent job at being a father and partner so far as you have left and live apart to solve your own issues before rejoining your family this is quite possibly the best thing you could have done for your family as it will be much better for your son to be raised by a mum and dad who love each other deeply and also adore him which comes accross to me strongly in your posts.
I want to wish you well and congratulate you on the birth of your son.
My experience of people commiting the fraud in the benefits system (and i do know of some that have done it) is that they don't ask anyone it is kept top secret and I have known people get away with it for years my own cousin being one of those people thankfully it does not run in the family and I have never needed to claim anything.
However that is not to say that should the need arise like it has for Craig that I wouldn't do it after all what the hell is the system for if not to be a backup when things go t*ts up in your life.

Like I said Craig good luck to you and your partner.

Poppy x

djdoc1975

I can see how presumptive i was in thinking that this forum was the place to ask for advise and info about a possible entitlement to tax credits.

thanks to those that helped, i feel a bit more informed.

Craig

Edinburghlass_2

djdoc1975 wrote: »

I can see how presumptive i was in thinking that this forum was the place to ask for advise and info about a possible entitlement to tax credits.

thanks to those that helped, i feel a bit more informed.

Craig

Not presumptive at all Craig and the users who have posted otherwise on this thread would do well to read Martin's post again..

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.html?p=4196589&postcount=1

Good luck to you and I hope you get it sorted out for you and your family.

djdoc1975

poppyscorner wrote: »

Craig,

My answer to your question is quite simply I don't know as I dont know any of your circumstances you may be best advised to see a CAB officer and ask them your question.
What I will say though is that I think you have had a bad deal in this post from lots of posters your initial query was vague but by no means did it indicate to me that you were wanting to cheat the system.
I think you have done an excellent job at being a father and partner so far as you have left and live apart to solve your own issues before rejoining your family this is quite possibly the best thing you could have done for your family as it will be much better for your son to be raised by a mum and dad who love each other deeply and also adore him which comes accross to me strongly in your posts.
I want to wish you well and congratulate you on the birth of your son.
My experience of people commiting the fraud in the benefits system (and i do know of some that have done it) is that they don't ask anyone it is kept top secret and I have known people get away with it for years my own cousin being one of those people thankfully it does not run in the family and I have never needed to claim anything.
However that is not to say that should the need arise like it has for Craig that I wouldn't do it after all what the hell is the system for if not to be a backup when things go t*ts up in your life.

Like I said Craig good luck to you and your partner.

Poppy x

THANK YOU

I wanted peoples help and advice, this is what you have given. I felt i had been interrogated and judged before everything was known by some of the other people i mentioned things i would have rather kept private and still people see it as a go at beating the system. I choose to get a part time job so i can see my son and concentrate on building the business.

once again thank you for your kind and helpful words
Craig

Graham_Devon

Yes, you choose. Therefore we pay?

DenBo_4

Having just read all these posts, I'm appalled at the way the OP has been treated! He just asked a question and WHAM! personal insults are thrown at him. What's going on, is the sun getting to people? Lighten up everybody, its got NOTHING to do with you as to why the OP asked this question, poor bloke is probably completely shellshocked :eek: :eek: , I can't believe what I'm reading! Don't get personal!!!! we're here to help each other :beer:

poppyscorner

DenBo wrote: »

Having just read all these posts, I'm appalled at the way the OP has been treated! He just asked a question and WHAM! personal insults are thrown at him. What's going on, is the sun getting to people? Lighten up everybody, its got NOTHING to do with you as to why the OP asked this question, poor bloke is probably completely shellshocked :eek: :eek: , I can't believe what I'm reading! Don't get personal!!!! we're here to help each other :beer:

I totallyagree:D

healy

Graham_Devon wrote: »

Tell you what Craig.

How about YOU look after and pay for your son instead of ME and every other taxpayer.

Good enough answer for you?

Your charachter will be assesed regardless, this is not financial advise you were asking for, it's how to best play the system to gain more money. OUR money.

Move in, work, and sort yer temper out instead of saying 'poor me, I have a problem'.

I do not want to be paying for your mum and kid while your living in another place also taking from the system thanks.

Graham is right. It does not matter how many excuses and hard luck stories we are told it still boils down to playing the system to get the maximum benefit. The OP said he would move back if it meant more money and has said he is quite happy to take the extra cash if he can.

djdoc1975

healy wrote: »

Graham is right. It does not matter how many excuses and hard luck stories we are told it still boils down to playing the system to get the maximum benefit. The OP said he would move back if it meant more money and has said he is quite happy to take the extra cash if he can.

Healy I apreciate your view on it and agree it could be interpreted that way, it was the way you put it and not being nasty about it as other people have been.

For everyone,

If someone offered you a set amount of money each week would you not accept it too?

I wonder if things would have been different had i said

I'm moving back to be with them but the added money is a bonus, and would help out where it was needed.

Craig