One thing I cannot stand :(

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39sparkle wrote: »

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Is this a new thing? I've never come across it. How rude! I think a sharp rap across the knuckles with the back of my knife would be my response!
It's nice to see that it's provoked a lot of responses so obviously we have much better manners
(Off topic. I can't seem to add smiles lately by clicking on the little pics, can anyone advise please?)

madnotstupid

I'm so happy to see this isn't just me!!!! OH thinks I'm weird, cos I won't do sharing food. I have explained - this food is on my plate that means it belongs to me, the food on your plate is yours, it belongs to you. I don't want your leftovers, and no you can't have just one or two of my chips.

We were out with a friend of hers for coffee and the friend ordered a big slab of chocolate and Bailey's cake, which she expected all of us to eat, off of the same plate. What's that all about? If I wanted cake I'd order it. (having said that I don't remember why I hadn't ordered cake for myself)

kizzie

This is a bit of a problem between my daughter and her husband. He thinks its fine to always take a bit out of anything he buys or prepares for her and the children. If the kids get up from the table he will eat their dinner without asking if they have finished. She has asked him many many times to stop it and he says OK but then still does it.
His eldest daughter has started to guard her food and is scared to go to the toilet in case her food is eaten. Its really not nice to watch

He gets it from his mum who thinks its fine for everyone to just dig their fork into other peoples food. I bought my granddaughter a lovely rice pudding in a restaurant and her other nan (his mum) just kept eating spoonfuls of it., saying Oh she wont eat all that.. Then have what she leaves!! Not what she might eat.

VJsmum

Gissa chip

I will nick of OH's plate, or the kids, but not without the above being said / asked. They would mine too.

Never off a colleague or a friend unless we had agreed to share.

pablakeman

My girlfriend will take a bit out of any food I have! It's always the same ... I ask her if she wants anything, she says no. I say are you sure, because if you do I will get/make you it. She says no she isn't hungry. That is until she sees my food and then a massive bite is taken out of it! I am used to it now (I guess...) but would rather it didn't happen

dumpling

My dad used to steal food off my plate whilst I was growing up and we were really poor so there wasn't much food to begin with! I learnt to eat mega fast and now, years later I still always finish my meal ages before everyone else as I can't slow down. I think it's disgusting to take food from someone else's plate without being offered. I'm sure it's part of the reason why I am fat now :mad:.

LandyAndy

kizzie wrote: »

This is a bit of a problem between my daughter and her husband. He thinks its fine to always take a bit out of anything he buys or prepares for her and the children. If the kids get up from the table he will eat their dinner without asking if they have finished. She has asked him many many times to stop it and he says OK but then still does it.
His eldest daughter has started to guard her food and is scared to go to the toilet in case her food is eaten. Its really not nice to watch

He gets it from his mum who thinks its fine for everyone to just dig their fork into other peoples food. I bought my granddaughter a lovely rice pudding in a restaurant and her other nan (his mum) just kept eating spoonfuls of it., saying Oh she wont eat all that.. Then have what she leaves!! Not what she might eat.

In our house if you get up from the table you have finished.


Comfort breaks excepted of course. (although 'go before you eat' is good advice)

LameWolf

I am totally amazed that there are so many disgustingly rude people around!

shelley_crow wrote: »

I'm happy to share food by prior agreement. If you were to take something off my plate without invitation, well lets say it would the the last thing you'd ever do with that hand.

I agree with this; my DH and I share food by mutual consent - I have a tiny appetite, and rather than waste a lot of food, he orders one meal and two sets of cutlery. If I'm actually hungry, I sometimes have just a starter - if it's garlic mushrooms, I give him mushroom (I was going to say "give him one" but thought it might be misconstrued):D so that we both have some garlic, but it is agreed that we do this. Neither would ever pinch food off the other's plate without so much as a by-your-leave.
Oh, and if we're having a celebration meal, and have dessert, it's always one dessert and two spoons.:D

alfsmum wrote: »

Reminds me of a course I went on for work a few years back, one of the rare occasions when lunch was provided. I had ordered a vegan option and maybe the chef enjoyed the change as I was given a lovely selection of nibbles, dips, slices of fresh fruit etc. I am a notoriously slow eater and like to enjoy my food - I had no chance of getting to the fruit as everyone else was digging in to my lunch because 'it looks so nice' without a thought that I wouldn't be sampling theirs to make up the difference!

I've had this sort of thing - I'm vegetarian, and one time many years ago we were at my ExH's cousin's for Yule dinner; cousin's wife had cooked a veggie dish for me to have in place of turkey, (it was something delicious make with pumpkin, as I remember) and everyone else was "oh, that's something different, gotta try that!" Luckily cousin's wife spotted what was about to happen, and told them all in no uncertain terms that Wolfy was supposed to have first dibs on it.

I was always taught that the signal that you have finished is to place your knife and fork together on the plate, tidily; if you put them down separately, ready to pick up again, for instance to go for a comfort break (sadly, with some illnesses these are necessary several times during a meal:() then you intend to resume eating.

moneyistooshorttomention

I must admit to being curious what way people "ask" the food thieves to stop doing it.

Are people saying "Please stop" in a gentle tone of voice or telling them "Do NOT touch my food. I know you apparently think its okay. But it ISNT. Keep your hands OFF" in a very firm voice with strong expression on face.

Is that the problem here? That is, that people who experience this aren't being very clear and totally firm with the food thieves and hence they tell themselves that the "request" isn't really serious?? I'm just wondering because I know I've seen supervisors at work before now phrase "requests" in a very soft "would you mind ever so pretty pretty please" sort of way when they didn't really mean it, as far as I could see and sure enough, the person "asked" usually did precisely nothing.

BAGGY

I'd have stabbed them with my fork. Rude bu@@er!