child paying keep/rent

steeeb

Kimberley wrote: »

My son has just started a full time job £16,500-£18,000 a year. According to the income tax calculator on here his take home pay would be £292 so would £50 rent be fair for me to charge him or lower? He still needs to pay his train fare and I'm not sure if he should pay for his own food or not.

What is included in the 'rent'? Anything like mobile phones, a full shop including treats for him etc..

If it's just the basics, and he does his own washing and if theres anything that's a luxury food-wise he gets his own then it seems fair enough.

There is a post earlier on whereby there parents don't charge rent, but rather 50% of what they earn go into a savings account and they nearly have a deposit for a house.

If you're able to afford not to charge them rent, then perhaps something like that might be a good incentive where they can see the reward of working and also setting themselves up for a brighter future, or sharing the cost of bills or paying for a bill, they then get to see what it all costs.

Buzzybee90

Kimberley wrote: »

My son has just started a full time job £16,500-£18,000 a year. According to the income tax calculator on here his take home pay would be £292 so would £50 rent be fair for me to charge him or lower? He still needs to pay his train fare and I'm not sure if he should pay for his own food or not.

Take home pay £292.... What?

Kimberley

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Take home pay £292.... What?

A week, that's what came up on the income calculator

mehak_327

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Take home pay £292.... What?

I think the poster meant £292 per week. Annual salary of £16,500 translates to £1,180 monthly

Kimberley

steeeb wrote: »

If you're able to afford not to charge them rent, then perhaps something like that might be a good incentive where they can see the reward of working.

I like that idea, will try that, see if I can afford not to have the money myself and put it in a savings account. I don't think he will like me taking 50% though. He pays his own mobile phone bill, does his own washing, and I feed him when I have dinner with my youngest.

I don't buy food especially for him as he is planning on staying at his dads 3 days a week because his work is close to him and would save on train fare and he will travel to work from here the rest of the week.

Do I tell him what I plan to do? The thing that worries me is if I tell him he may nag me to loan him some of the money because he does borrow from me.

Thank you for that tip though x

whodathunkit

Kimberley wrote: »

I like that idea, will try that, see if I can afford not to have the money myself and put it in a savings account. I don't think he will like me taking 50% though. He pays his own mobile phone bill, does his own washing, and I feed him when I have dinner with my youngest.

I don't buy food especially for him as he is planning on staying at his dads 3 days a week because his work is close to him and would save on train fare and he will travel to work from here the rest of the week.

Do I tell him what I plan to do? The thing that worries me is if I tell him he may nag me to loan him some of the money because he does borrow from me.

Thank you for that tip though x

If he's only there half the week, £50 would be more than enough. If he's there more than that then I think he should pay more.

If he doesn't like it, on that salary he'll have various alternatives which may make him more appreciative.

Mojisola

Kimberley wrote: »

The thing that worries me is if I tell him he may nag me to loan him some of the money because he does borrow from me.

whodathunkit wrote: »

If he's only there half the week, £50 would be more than enough..

£50 a week and stop lending him money so that he learns to live within his means.

mehak_327

lazer wrote: »

Why is there an assumption that parents want their children move out?

My mum dropped subtle hints for years after i moved out, that i should move home again, and I did for a year or so while i was looking for a house to buy. (After getting a job Locally)

Did they charge me keep - no, did I offer to pay - yes. Since they wouldn't take any money, I bought things, brought them out for dinner etc.
I loved living at home, and my parents loved me living me living at home - even when i did move out, i still went back and stayed maybe once a week

^^^^ This ... I stayed at home till I got married. My dad wouldn't take any money from me. He encouraged me to put it in savings.

Kimberley

Mojisola wrote: »

£50 a week and stop lending him money so that he learns to live within his means.

I told him I won't no more, not now he has a job, thank you

Robisere

whodathunkit:

JSA isn't given so that young people can run cars.

If he was at home during the day one would expect him to muck in and do work as well as contributing financially.

Being a close family doesn't make either of the above points irrelevant.

* He was using the car (which originally cost him £50 and fell apart shortly after he started work) to find work, and he did!

* He still carries out jobs for his parents and his sister when asked, often when not. And he is a single working parent of 2 teenagers, living 6 miles from us.

* And no, it does not make either of these points irrelevant, although I think you mean to say relevant.

If anything is irrelevant here, it would be your comments. But I am not returning to this thread, so save your bitter vitriolic words for someone else.