child paying keep/rent

Catherine_:]

I am 22 and still living at home. I pay £220 per month and earn £1038 after tax per month, I get food, washing and ironing done. I pay for my toiletries, my phone contract and all my clothes. I also pay and run my own car. I think what I pay is enough and don't begrudge it. Living on my own would be a lot more expensive!

KxMx

schwam66 wrote: »

couldnt thank you enough for this post, its no wonder this country is the way it is...how can kids save for a house or a wedding or higher education if the parents are looking to hussle them as soon as they get a job!?! people cant seriously think they are 'helping' their children by taking a 1/3 of their wage when they are 18 if you seriously wanted to help you would make them save it......

thanks again! all the best to you and your family

My mother couldn't afford to keep me on her wage even if she wanted to. So how does that compute in your world?

Thus she needs the money I give her for my keep. Needs come before wants such as house, wedding or higher education.

I pay my way at home then do what I can with the rest of my money. My wants do not come first I am not that selfish thanks!

Oh and by the way I would not want to be kept for free. I have pride in paying my way- like an adult and like I would have to if I lived on my own.

jaylee3

^^^ I wouldn't pay too much attention to Schwam66's posts KxMx. They are obviously a wind-up merchant. That much is certain.

jaylee3

'Catherine_: wrote:

;65967871']I am 22 and still living at home. I pay £220 per month and earn £1038 after tax per month, I get food, washing and ironing done. I pay for my toiletries, my phone contract and all my clothes. I also pay and run my own car. I think what I pay is enough and don't begrudge it. Living on my own would be a lot more expensive!

:T Good for you. A sensible responsible young adult, with sensible responsible parents by the sound of it.

Even if my parents HAD said to me that I could live board-free, I wouldn't have dreamt of it. It's taking liberties!

paye

Until about six years ago , i use to pay my mum £250 every month for about 7 years. As I use to work part time I could afford it and still have some money left over for uni during the week. Anyway When I left home 7 years ago my mum gave me a cheque for £26k and told me that the money I was giving every month she use to put it in a saving account for me.

Maybe you could do something similar. The money came in very handy when I bought my first home.

Person_one

paye wrote: »

Until about six years ago , i use to pay my mum £250 every month for about 7 years. As I use to work part time I could afford it and still have some money left over for uni during the week. Anyway When I left home 7 years ago my mum gave me a cheque for £26k and told me that the money I was giving every month she use to put it in a saving account for me.

Maybe you could do something similar. The money came in very handy when I bought my first home.

Do you not think it would have been beneficial for you to learn about saving/investing/planning ahead with that money yourself though, rather than having your mum do it for you?

paye

Not really as during college and university It was very hard for me to save as working in a supermarket earning £6.45 p/h there was no chance I could save even my mum knew that. Any spare cash I had I use to spend it. It was only after I finished uni and got a full time job I could save on my own. I did well in my first year. I saved up quiet a bit of money which went towards buying a house together what my mum saved up for me in my teens.

lazer

Why is there an assumption that parents want their children move out?

My mum dropped subtle hints for years after i moved out, that i should move home again, and I did for a year or so while i was looking for a house to buy. (After getting a job Locally)

Did they charge me keep - no, did I offer to pay - yes. Since they wouldn't take any money, I bought things, brought them out for dinner etc.
I loved living at home, and my parents loved me living me living at home - even when i did move out, i still went back and stayed maybe once a week

Mojisola

paye wrote: »

Until about six years ago, i use to pay my mum £250 every month for about 7 years.

Anyway When I left home 7 years ago my mum gave me a cheque for £26k and told me that the money I was giving every month she use to put it in a saving account for me.

paye wrote: »

Not really as during college and university It was very hard for me to save

If I was your Mum, I'd have taken a bit less for keep and hoped that you would learn to save some of your own money rather than doing it for you.

Lily-Rose_3

paye wrote: »

Until about six years ago , i use to pay my mum £250 every month for about 7 years. As I use to work part time I could afford it and still have some money left over for uni during the week. Anyway When I left home 7 years ago my mum gave me a cheque for £26k and told me that the money I was giving every month she use to put it in a saving account for me.

Maybe you could do something similar. The money came in very handy when I bought my first home.

So she kept you for 7-8 years (or more,) for nothing, right up to your mid 20s, not using a PENNY of the £250 a month towards your keep? You just lived board-free, rent free, with free electric, free heating, free cable tv, (possibly,) washing done for you, all food included, even though you were a healthy, young, working adult earning presumably a full time salary?

I am sure you think this is very noble of her, and I expect that you think everyone else will think that too. I don't. There's something about it that doesn't sit well with me. Did your mother think you weren't capable of making your own decisions? Sounds a bit control-freakish to me. In addition, there's something slightly sanctimonious about it all too IMO.

Most people I know (including me,) could never, ever dream of letting their kids off board and lodgings, and as for putting £26K away over 7-8 years for them, that is completely impossible for most. Some people that DO let their kids off their board and lodgings (supposedly,) are coming across as a bit holier-than-thou, like they are somewhat superior to people who do charge their kids board and lodgings. Not EVERYone can do it.

And to the posters who always put the 'inverted snob' comments: save it. It's getting old now.