first day secondary not gone well :(

onlyroz

The decision on where to place him might well have been quite deliberate - perhaps the teachers thought that being placed alone would bring him out his shell?

I know that when I went to secondary school I was placed in a different class from my "best friend" because my parents told my teachers to put me somewhere different - they had decided that my friend was a bad influence and wanted me away from her. I didn't find out that they'd done this until several years later, and in retrospect they were probably right.

wendz86

I was put in a class with one girl from school who wasn't really my friend but i made friends with other girls and one was even my bridesmaid last year! I would get him to give it a couple of weeks and see how he gets on.

pollypenny

Yes, the school will move him. That's never been a problem where I've taught.

However, I wouldn't be surprised if he comes home from the second induction day having made friends in his class.

Don't get annoyed at not having an immediate return phone call, though, OP. Teachers are in class and don't have access to a phone all day.

z.n

My DD was put in a class 'on her own' while her two best friends from primary were put together in another class. She came home from the induction day in tears. Frankly, it did take her some time to settle- she made new friends straight away but it took time for those friendships to 'replace' the friends from primary who themselves moved on to other groups. Not ideal but actually all part of the ups and downs of moving to big school. The children move on naturally anyway- and while it is unfortunate that it happens the first day it is unlikely to be a problem for long at all. Good luck to your son on his move.

moomoomama27

I'm dreading this happening to my DD when she goes for her induction later this week, she's a shy girl with no confidence/low self esteem!

I think though alot of it is my fears, so I'm remaining schtum and will see how she reacts should she be placed with no friends.

Sometimes I think it's good for them to be thrown in at the deep end, it prepares them for the many occasions through life this will occur (college/uni.work). It's just hard seeing them get inot a state!!

lulu_92

I'm a July baby and my age had nothing to do with how I felt going to secondary school.

I was put in a form with 2 of my best friends from primary and a boy from another school who was my neighbour.

Yeah it was good but soon enough we all fell out and I was bullied constantly for 5 years by people who were once my friends. When I got to year 9 I moved forms to get away from it.

They might be his friends now but you never know what could happen. Allowing him to have his own independence and find new friends might help him.

jay-jay

I thought I would follow this thread up seeing as you have all been so helpful. My son came home from school a different child today and has been talking to 3 potential new friends so he's really happy. Not to mention a very cute girl hmmm and it starts Haha!! Feeling much happier myself now so hopefully he'll stop worrying over the summer. He is also going to suggest to the boy he's going up with that st try and get together in the summer to help get to know each other more. thought it might reassure other parents going through this transition with their kids x

Spendless

Pleased to hear, it's unreal how they go from 'hating it' to enjoying it in 1 day - my DD did the same.

Next time you speak to the school or if you know an older child already there ask how they do classes, as it seems there's no 'standard' way.

My kids secondary has them doing all lessons with their form except for English and Maths which are ability set but they only mix with 1 half of their year. Yr 8 most lessons are ability set but again with only 1/2 of their year. From yr 9 onwards they mingle with the rest of their year depending on both subjects chosen and academic ability.

balletshoes

Spendless wrote: »

Pleased to hear, it's unreal how they go from 'hating it' to enjoying it in 1 day - my DD did the same.

Next time you speak to the school or if you know an older child already there ask how they do classes, as it seems there's no 'standard' way.

My kids secondary has them doing all lessons with their form except for English and Maths which are ability set but they only mix with 1 half of their year. Yr 8 most lessons are ability set but again with only 1/2 of their year. From yr 9 onwards they mingle with the rest of their year depending on both subjects chosen and academic ability.

yes, i agree, check with the school about this - as my DD's school have always mixed most of the class subjects by ability, even from the start of year 7.

pollypenny

jay-jay wrote: »

I thought I would follow this thread up seeing as you have all been so helpful. My son came home from school a different child today and has been talking to 3 potential new friends so he's really happy. Not to mention a very cute girl hmmm and it starts Haha!! Feeling much happier myself now so hopefully he'll stop worrying over the summer. He is also going to suggest to the boy he's going up with that st try and get together in the summer to help get to know each other more. thought it might reassure other parents going through this transition with their kids x

I knew that would happen! Hope your son enjoys his time at high school, as much as I enjoyed teaching there.