Mum, 88, moving in, how much rent to charge?

scubajon72

toniq wrote: »

Very sad of her to treat her mother in such a way in her Twilight years.

Maybe your mum should bill her for all the years she raised her?

Quite right, give her a bill for those years. What's the current cost of bringing up a child for the 1st 18yrs, about £6500pa. Multiply that and give your sister the bill! It's disgusting a family member should even consider rent for a parent. I've never heard anything so disgusting. I would never talk to her again.

sulphate

I think it's disgusting as well and would only be remotely acceptable if sister was struggling financially.

By the title of this thread I thought you were going to be the one charging her! Phew.

GobbledyGook

Does your Mum need/want to move in with your sister?

What does your sister mean by 'rent'? If she means charging her what Mum will cost her (my Nana paid a small contribution to food, mainly because she liked specific brands, the cost of the second Sky box as it was in her room and the difference between 'free calls all day' and 'free calls after 6pm' - she insisted on paying as that was what she cost us and she wouldn't have moved in if she was going to cost us, even though we could afford it) then that is fair enough imo, but if she means anything more than that then it's not right to me.

Soleil_lune

xxdeebeexx wrote: »

My sister and her husband want my 88yr old mum to move in with them.
My sister told us that, "of course I will have to charge her rent! "
although she hasn't decided how much yet.


I am horrified.
My sister has an income of £350,000 pa and lives in a house worth £500k plus.

I feel very disappointed with my sister and her family.


I have cared for mum (and dad) for the past 15yrs. Eventually giving up work to do so. I have missed a lot of earning opportunities and have managed to scrape by penny pinching and Ebay. (we do qualify for child tax credit so that has helped)


I think sister and husband see mum as another money making venture.
I'm feeling very, very unhappy .......


dx

£350,000 a year?! :eek: What job does she have??? Is she David Cameron's boss? HE only gets about £150,000 a year.

!!!!!!? :huh:

FTR I think it's a bit tight charging an old lady like this. I agree with gobbledygook that she could contribute a bit towards food and buy the odd takeaway and throw a tenner here and there for petrol if she gets lifts, but otherwise, no.

If it was a young adult who is earning, then yes. But I don't think she should be charging her.

1886

Is your sister a Premier League footballer?

xxdeebeexx

Brighton_belle wrote: »

On the face of it it doesn't sounds great, but...
Does she really earn 350,000?
The value of her house is meaningless - it's not cash she has available and it's possibly mortgaged top the hilt.
By rent does she mean cover costs of food and utilities?
The fact you have chosen to give up opportunities in your own life for 15 years, since your mother was a young 72, shouldn't mean anyone else has to of course.

Sorry- joint income with her husband
No mortgage
I have no idea what she means by rent - mum eats like a sparrow and likes to do jigsaws and gardening


"The fact you have chosen to give up opportunities in your own life for 15 years, since your mother was a young 72, shouldn't mean anyone else has to of course"


Yep, I am beginning to realise this, I was expecting to work 'as a team' with my sisters and brother all taking a share / a turn.


dx

SailorSam

What's the title of that Country & Western song ?
You know the one were the little lad gives his Mum a bill 'cos he cleaned his room; took the dog for a walk and took stuff out to the bin ?
And the Mum comes back next day saying she's not charging him for cooking his meals; washing his clothes and taking him to football and the Scouts for all the years he was growing up ?
You're story reminds me of that. There is no way on earth i would ever have asked my Mum for money. I did all i could to help her, but i only have to look at my own Sister to know people like your Sister exist.
That's so annoying. And sad.

xxdeebeexx

tyllwyd wrote: »

I can't help thinking that the rent is a side issue, and you are more upset about other implications of your mum moving in with them.

You could be right. I need to think it through.


dx

BitterAndTwisted

xxdeebeexx wrote: »

My sister and her husband want my 88yr old mum to move in with them.
My sister told us that, "of course I will have to charge her rent!"
although she hasn't decided how much yet.

There isn't any "of course" about it. Not in families that truly care for and respect each other.

If folks are truly potless you'd be excused for asking for a reasonable contribution towards food but not in a household where the income is counted in hundreds of thousands.

OP: have you thought about giving your siblings a bill for your lost income over the last fifteen years? I would.

Soleil_lune

SailorSam wrote: »

What's the title of that Country & Western song ?
You know the one were the little lad gives his Mum a bill 'cos he cleaned his room; took the dog for a walk and took stuff out to the bin ?
And the Mum comes back next day saying she's not charging him for cooking his meals; washing his clothes and taking him to football and the Scouts for all the years he was growing up ?
You're story reminds me of that. There is no way on earth i would ever have asked my Mum for money. I did all i could to help her, but i only have to look at my own Sister to know people like your Sister exist.
That's so annoying. And sad.

No Charge by Tammy Wynette?

And £350,000 even between TWO people is a lot! Even then, each person is being paid more than the Prime Minister! (Assuming they are earning £175,000 each.)