Frump to Fab - Onwards and Upwards

sweetcheeks33

Aw LL things just keep piling up... Glad you have had some pamper time to cheer you up. The project sounds right up your street, as difficult as it will be it would be lovely to have a home you love and have created from scratch...

Lizxie.. LL offers great advice I think you need to retreat from the world to gather your thoughts and rest a little. Please take care of yourself.

Nothing much happening here apart from working loads as having next week off. Looking forward to a holiday for 7 days with oh for some time together. Dd is through staying and is as funny as ever. No word on the flat yet so it hasn't sold... Another stress still in the background! Feel guilty for booking a holiday but sometimes you need to live a little!!

lizzie157

Hi,

Thank you LL, Rummer and Sweetcheeks for your kind words.

You are all right I need a break. I did take to my bed about a week ago for the day and they did indeed manage without me so I need to get them all to help more. You are right LL they aren't babies.

We don't really have any debt it's the day to day living that is difficult but what we can't afford we don't have which is why I've found it difficult to understand how DD1 has buried her head for so long about her debts. It has had a knock on effect with her home hunting. She now thinks she may have found somewhere but it's in the next city away from her friends and work, so not ideal. The problem is she only tells us so much and only when she's feeling overwhelmed... the rest of the time she carries on as if she has no worries. I have decided she needs to know how this affects me- worrying about getting a call to say she's done something silly (as she has threatened in the past.) I've been through this before with a friend who committed suicide after a year of threats and unsuccessful attempts. Unfortunately the nature of the illness does make sufferers self centred.

I have told H that I can no longer go on like this. He made all the right noises but tbh I've heard it all before. We'll see....

I've also told DS1 and 2 that I'm at the end of my wits... the problem is they have always seen me cope and I'm not sure they take me seriously although I stressed i meant what I said. DS2 is making a meal for us all on Monday.

I'm also going to look into a couple of nights away from it all just me and the dog but it will have to be when prices drop after the schools are back. I need to think...it really is time my family realise that I'm not a machine. In the meantime i'm taking a step back and taking it easy.

I've taken it fairly easy the last couple of days. I need to break the cycle.

Thank you LL for taking the time to advise me with all you are going through. Sorry about the leak probably the last thing you need atm. Hope all goes well with the funeral if I don't get on again before the day. I'm having a break from the internet too -I'm going to read and rest.

Thanks again.

Bitsy_Beans

Hugs Lizzie, take some time to gather yourself and put yourself first xx

lessonlearned

Take care Lizzie.

lessonlearned

Cellar leak fixed. Had no choice but to use emergency plumbing services because my lovely pet plumber was just too busy.

£150 for a ten minute job. :eek: the bulk of that goes to the agency not the plumber himself.

Still he was a nice guy and gave me lots of free advice and tips for a couple of improvements I want to make to the house. I was dead cheeky and asked if he was prepared to work direct with me on a couple of projects, bypassing the agency. Said he'd be delighted...

He even gave me a couple of disposable haz mat suits for when we come to strop out the cellar for free.

Amazing what a cup of tea and a couple of chocolate biscuits will do. You can't beat a bit of bribery and corruption:rotfl:

Used the time I was waiting in constructively by doing some paperwork. It's nice and sunny here so I'm going to walk to the little shop and then have a potter in the garden. Get a bit of Vit D. Might see if there are any more blackberries lurking around. Picked some the other day. They are in the freezer.

Still feel dreadfully tired and getting woozy spells so just pacing myself. All the funeral arrangements are done, it's on Thursday so just going to take things easy for a few days.

Hope you all enjoy the bank holiday.

tru

[FONT=Verdana, sans-serif]Morning :hello:[/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, sans-serif]Rummer Yes, definitely look after you too! X[/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, sans-serif]lizzie157 I hope things start looking up for you soon x I don't know all the details of your situation (will read back later) but putting yourself first is difficult to begin with. Once you do it you'll find things a bit easier, I promise x[/FONT] That was in reply to a previous post, just seen your latest two. The problem with mums - and we all do it - is that they cope. It's what we do because we have to. Trouble is, I think we start to look a bit less human because of it. Our feelings get pushed to one side, sometimes we have to do that in order to get things done. Others in the family get used to that and keep piling stuff onto us. That's when we realise we should've stopped 'coping' about six months ago. Hindsight is wonderful. I've found that when I stop coping, the others take it personally and try to make you feel guilty for not caring :mad: I won't put up with it anymore, but it took quite a while to get there.

[FONT=Verdana, sans-serif]Julie Thank you I have to say though, I get my inspiration from other people. What pushed me through the dentist's door when I wanted to run away, was a friend who was about to have a major op. What made me give in and see someone about my leg, was you! You and the other person needed an op, I didn't. You both had to go through more than me so I should count myself lucky, stop worrying and just get on with it.[/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, sans-serif]Bitsy How's your toe?[/FONT]

[FONT=Verdana, sans-serif]I've been a bit lazy the last few days. PMS I've just done the 'musts' – showers and hairwash. I've used moisturiser on my legs (always have, very dry skin) and used leave-in conditioner on my hair, but that's it. I've crocheted some scrubbies out of cotton yarn for my face, but I don't want anyone else using them so I hid them. I keep forgetting to get one on my way to the shower so they're still sat in a pretty stack in the corner of my drawer Must get in the habit of taking them to the bathroom with me.[/FONT]

lessonlearned

Hi Everyone

Been a productive morning, done lots of fabbing, mini manicure and pedicure, face mask etc Cant find my tweezers so couldn't tidy my eyebrows. They will turn up, if not I'll have to lash out and buy some more in the next couple of days.

Had a bit of a clothes sort out this morning, got a few of my warmer things out just in case. It has turned quite autumnal here. Hope its not the sign of an early winter. I will have to crack on with getting the house insulated and carpets down asap or its going to be very cold. I've had to have the heating on a few times already. Not even September yet.:eek:

A lot of my stuff is still packed away. After the funeral I will get going, will get a carpenter round to build me a couple of wardrobes and some storage then I can start getting straight. It does feel rather like camping out at the moment and I'm not really a camping kind of girl. :rotfl:

I'm wearing my new shoes around the house to break them in and Ive got all my clothes ready for Thursday. We've finished preparing the photo montage so its just the flowers now which I will buy on Wednesday and then make up on Thursday morning. I think we are all set.

I spent most of yesterday making a start on the paperwork, will have a spot of lunch and then do a bit more. A little each day to stop it all getting on top of me.

Always remember the elephant.

Did a big shop so we are all stocked up with healthy foods.

I decided to open a bottle of wine last night. Thought I'd opened a bottle of red, turned out to be mulled wine so I heated a glass up and curled up nice and toasty with the cat and a stupid Bruce Willis film. Cant even remember what it was called, it was that good.

Dreamt of my OH last night, first time in years. We were at a party with some friends, we were all young, handsome fit and healthy. Those were the days…..

Lots of happy memories. DS2 spent last evening tweaking the film montage which of course I had to vet. I guess that's what triggered the dream.

Time for lunch. Still raining.

Bitsy_Beans

tru wrote: »

[FONT=Verdana, sans-serif]Bitsy How's your toe?[/FONT]

Still swollen, bruised and feels odd, prob because they didn't straighten it. As long as it's straight enough for footwear they leave well alone I am trying to get stuck back into yoga but it's very gingerly
I am in second week of hair transition.....driving me a little bit nuts but am trying to power on through. I may have to break out the cornflour tomorrow to help with the oil :eek: still doing the hair brushing twice a day and I am quite enjoying the indulgence of sitting there preening
Not much other fabbing going on, sort of plodding through at the mo.

LL glad you had such a nice dream xx

Tru if your family are anything like mine put your crochet cloths next to the bin if you have one in the bathroom......no one will ever find them there. I have proof since the cardboard inner tubes never make it to the bin, they just sit on the side and multiply......

Hugs and high fives all round xx

alec_eiffel

Not much official fabbing going on, just maintaining the routine. I haven't slept properly in ages so as a desperate measure I bought an aromatherapy sleepy time roll on. I don't know if it will help but it does smell nice which is better than nothing.

Loads of housefabbing went on at the weekend, so I feel very positive about that for a nice change. Hope everyone is not too bad.

lessonlearned

Is autumn here already:rotfl:glad I dug out some warm clothing yesterday

Remember there is no such thing as bad weather - just the wrong clothes. Yeah right.:D

Got a bit of running about to do today so will need to get cracking. Sooner I get going sooner i can get back and curl up on the sofa.

I had planned to,do something salady tonight. I think a nice warming casserole might be better. :rotfl: