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Is it reasonable to be upset about this?
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I think I get upset easily but even this is beyond me.0
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What? Unless she built the place herself for her exclusive use then what is she on about?? Was she expecting the venue to close down once she'd finished with it?0
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Seriously?
"she had put in a lot of work to finding it" and that means no other members of the family can use it, because...........?
An apology, for what exactly? She really needs to get over herself.Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence and face your future without fear0 -
This is a situation that happened to a friend's sister. The sister is a moneysaver and for her wedding picked out a venue.
She had researched it and managed to find somewhere
-with parking, with outdoor play area for children, not too expensive, looks good in pictures, within a 10 mile drive of home, would allow you to bring own drinks/food. would accommodate 200 guests.
She spent a lot of time over a few months visiting dozens of venues which could tick those boxes within budget. She had a big wedding with over 150 friends and family. About 3 months later one of the guests at the wedding who is a cousin hosted her husband's 60th at the same venue.
The friends sister was invited to the birthday party but only knew the venue the day before (there were no formal paper invitations - just free this date for the party). She was a bit upset that the cousin had not mentioned to her they were going to use the same venue.
That venue had never been used for a family get together before as it is a bit out of the way but she was upset that they did not even bother to mention it to her beforehand or even at the party because she had put in a lot of work to finding it. I can see her point but on the other hand it is a public place and does not 'belong' to her.
I said to just get over it but she wants an apology.
How do you see the situation?
Is your friend known as the fruitcake of the family?====0 -
Friend's sister needs to get over herself, and very possibly get a ruddy life too while she's at it.
I've never heard such nonsense0 -
I would be flattered that people had enjoyed the venue so much that they had chosen to use it again for another event. It would tell me that I'd done a good job in chosing my venue. She should take it as a compliment!!!SPC7 ~ Member#390 ~ £432.45 declared :j
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Her Serene Highness the Princess Atolaas of the Alphabetty Thread as appointed by Queen Upsidedown Bear0 -
And what would she do if the cousin turned around and said she'd had the venue for the party booked for a month before the wedding invitations went out - apologise to the cousin for using the same venue? Daft woman.0
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If the 60th had been after the wedding invites went out but before the wedding I could understand her miffed-ness .
As it is she is nuts !It's a huge compliment that the family member thought it was so special that she chose it for another event.
Your friend's sister needs to get over herself.......and consider herself incredibly fortunate that she is so blessed with a good life that this is all she can find to get upset about !!
Are they one of those families who thrive on big family rows over stupid trivial things......or is she just a bit odd ?I Would Rather Climb A Mountain Than Crawl Into A Hole
MSE Florida wedding .....no problem0 -
She is being completely unreasonable, like a child having a tantrum because someone else is playing with a long-ago discarded toy.Life is a gift... and I intend to make the most of mine :A
Never regret something that once made you smile :A0 -
This is the wedding industry folks, now managing to convince women that its ok to be a bridezilla even months after the wedding!0
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