I've got myself in a right state to the point I can't reason with myself - help!

codemonkey

OP - contrary to what you were taught in school, it's actually not all that easy to get pregnant, yes, to some people it happens accidentally, but you were on the pill, just as covered on your break as any other time, assuming you took it properly and you took the morning after pill too so your chances are less than 0.5%.

Now, at the moment you have a swirl of hormones from the pill and the MAP causing havoc, and I suspect you have a case of the ohmygodwhathaveIdones and the post sex with someone new hormones and worries, all of which have driven you into a frenzy. We've all been there.

By all means have a chat about protection going forward but from an STI perspective. I would not mention your pregnancy worries. This is a new relationship and regardless of what anyone in here says about being honest and it being his problem too, men are easily spooked. Sometimes, it's best not to be too honest about such things.

hazyjo

Pregnancy is unlikely at any time in your cycle (not just the end). The end bit only applies if you're not taking the pill.

Definitely wouldn't have said 'we need to talk' or whatever was said along those lines. He's probably having kittens (actually over what seems to be nothing).

If you're not ready to have an open discussion in the cold light of day about condoms/protection, you're not ready to be having sex with them. Doesn't have to be made into a big prewarned 'talk'.

FGS don't cry when you start telling him! And please please please don't say to him you might be pregnant (or that you worried about it)!!!!! Really, the odds must be miniscule. (Presuming you've been taking pill correctly, and the morning after pill is really the belt and braces.) Just say it lightly that you both really need to be better prepared next time. tbh, I bet he did bring a condom with him last time - but if you never asked, he wasn't gonna offer. There. Job done, no big deal.

Jx

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To be honest, with a new relationship, I'd be carrying a condom with me anyway on a just in case basis. You don't know him that well, have just as much responsibility as him to protect yourself and I'd just keep it by me.

Or to be a bit more frank, I'd do everything BUT have coital sex. This is perfectly possible to enjoy just as much.

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deannatrois wrote: »

To be honest, with a new relationship, I'd be carrying a condom with me anyway on a just in case basis. You don't know him that well, have just as much responsibility as him to protect yourself and I'd just keep it by me.

Or to be a bit more frank, I'd do everything BUT have coital sex. This is perfectly possible to enjoy just as much.

I had them with me. I completely and utterly accept my responsibility in the situation was to halt and make sure we used them. Hence why I feel wretched about it. I'd look at me like I was stupid too.

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I wasn't saying you were stupid hun. Just saying that there's no point in worrying yourself into a hole about this. Just move on, by changing how you'd react next time and turn it into a strengthening experience rather than a reason to jump into a hole x x x

Chlorine7

IMO you are being slightly over-dramatic but if you don't understand how the pill works and the likelihood of pregnancy nor the importance of condoms, perhaps you shouldn't be having sex at all.

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Chlorine7 wrote: »

IMO you are being slightly over-dramatic but if you don't understand how the pill works and the likelihood of pregnancy nor the importance of condoms, perhaps you shouldn't be having sex at all.

Let me be very clear that I do understand all of the above (I have a chemistry based degree!) hence why i've wound myself up so much over doing something so stupid. I also know i'd be thinking the exact same thing you're saying now to anyone else in my circumstances.

Person_one

[quote=[Deleted User];65751072]I had them with me. I completely and utterly accept my responsibility in the situation was to halt and make sure we used them. Hence why I feel wretched about it. I'd look at me like I was stupid too.[/QUOTE]

So, have you made your appointment at the sexual health clinic yet?

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Person_one wrote: »

So, have you made your appointment at the sexual health clinic yet?

Its something I intend to raise tonight as i'd like us both to go, preferably together.

Person_one

[quote=[Deleted User];65751445]Its something I intend to raise tonight as i'd like us both to go, preferably together.[/QUOTE]

You both need a check up due to the unprotected sex, but I'm sure you realise its too new a relationship to consider not using condoms though.