I've got myself in a right state to the point I can't reason with myself - help!

tea_lover

The pill covers the pill-free days just as much as the others, am a bit confused about the need for the MAP. But anyway... you already know you should be using condoms at this stage of the relationship so no big panic... you both got carried away, it won't happen again.

There's no need for the conversation to be a big dramatic one - just a quick note to each other that it was a mistake not to use protection (against STIs) and that you'll both be more careful in future.

moneysniffer

As far as I know, the way the pill works is by preventing eggs being released, so there shouldn't be an egg there to be fertilised. You are as protected in your 'off' week as your 'on' week. I really wouldn't worry about being pregnant - but perhaps follow the pharmacists advice for peace of mind I agree with everybody else though, it's not pregnancy you should be worried about, it's STD's, and this is something the two of you should talk about.

stir_crazy

cakeforbrains wrote: »

Absolutely. I totally agree with this, but there only seems to be one person worried about it here. And not only worried about it, but worried that she'll upset him by being worried about it.

Mind you, for all we know he could currently be just as concerned and anxious about how he's going to bring it up when they next meet.

I agree, the OP hasnt mentioned if he has been thinking about it. Although I got from the OP that she was worried about mentioning pregnancy so early on, rather than using condoms going forward (could just be me reading it wrong, I'm reading this at work).

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duchy wrote:

I'm a bit confused
When you say you are on the pill- Do you mean you were already on the pill and this was the normal 7 days out of 21 break OR you've just started and this was your first cycle before starting the Pill ?

Frankly the odds of you been pregnant are tiny but regardless of this I'd be more concerned he made no mention of the fact you didn't use contraception than anything else.

I wouldn't let on you've turned this into a huge drama - but I would be having a talk about what precautions you should be taking ( and responsibly that means even if you are on the pill using a condom as well in such a new relationship)

Sorry its the normal 7 day break. I know I continue to be protected due to the fact the pill has done its job in making me an unhospitable environment and I think i'm taking on board the comments that I shouldn't raise this with him, I completely see all the reasons why (i'd freak out too if I were him) but I feel so very alone in all of this.

Morglin

Well, haven't you got a girlfriend you can confide in?

Taking the morning after pill is pretty common now, and the hormonal effects will wear off shortly.

You feel you made a mistake, so all you can do is make sure you don't do it again, but it's not the end of the world.

Lin

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stir_crazy wrote: »

I agree, the OP hasnt mentioned if he has been thinking about it. Although I got from the OP that she was worried about mentioning pregnancy so early on, rather than using condoms going forward (could just be me reading it wrong, I'm reading this at work).

Honestly I don't know if he has been thinking about it, I was busy being in a state yesterday but obviously he's coming over tonight to talk so he knows somethings up.

I'm worried about both those things and will be insisting on condoms going forward.

I fully accept 50/50 blame here.

cakeforbrains

[quote=[Deleted User];65749924]Sorry its the normal 7 day break. I know I continue to be protected due to the fact the pill has done its job in making me an unhospitable environment and I think i'm taking on board the comments that I shouldn't raise this with him, I completely see all the reasons why (i'd freak out too if I were him) but I feel so very alone in all of this.[/QUOTE]

Of course you should raise it with him - it's his sperm! He can't just go splashing it around and not expect at least a conversation.

You don't have to go in saying 'woah, I thought I was pregnant' (because you won't have been) but actually he's had a pretty lucky escape with that given that he didn't actually know if you were on the pill.

You should at least raise it in relation to STIs, though.

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Morglin wrote: »

Well, haven't you got a girlfriend you can confide in?

Taking the morning after pill is pretty common now, and the hormonal effects will wear off shortly.

You feel you made a mistake, so all you can do is make sure you don't do it again, but it's not the end of the world.

Lin

Most of my friends are blokes (who are likely to get very protective of me and I don't want the social awkwardness in future) and out of the three girlfriends, one is a devout Catholic who is currently abroad on a charity mission (i don't doubt she'd be supportive), one is currently on her second course of ivf (i think it would be inappropriate and insensitive of me) and the third is married to my bloke's cousin.

So here I am

Morglin

Why make a drama out of things?

All that needs to happen now, us that a condom is used in future (I don't think men worry, after a sex session, what they are splashing about where!).

Or, perhaps being a 'youth of the 60's' , I just take a more laid back view of 'casual sex'!

Lin

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[quote=[Deleted User];65749924]Sorry its the normal 7 day break. I know I continue to be protected due to the fact the pill has done its job in making me an unhospitable environment and I think i'm taking on board the comments that I shouldn't raise this with him, I completely see all the reasons why (i'd freak out too if I were him) but I feel so very alone in all of this.[/QUOTE]

There is no "all of this" to feel "so very alone" in.

The pill protects you during your 7 days break just as much as normal. It is there specifically to prevent pregnancy! Millions of women in relationships use the pill as their sole contraception. You have close to zero chance of becoming pregnant. AND you took the MAP on top of it, so really - nothing to worry about on this aspect.

I would understand the worry if you had had unprotected sex without being on the pill - but really, you are being a massive drama queen here!

What you should worry about is STD's, not pregnancy. Get a test asap for peace of mind. And don't have sex without a condom again until you have both been tested and are committed to a monogamous relationship.