School Changing Trip Destination 3 days before travel

esmerelda98

moomoomama27 wrote: »

You have not been bullied. You just don't like to read opinions that differ to yours! There's a big difference.

Actually I think there has been a lot of nastiness in how those opinions have been expressed. As my mother used to say, 'Yes tell the truth, but in love.'

cazziebo

mossstitchmama wrote: »

School secretary suggested I drop son off at 8.30 and go to my course. What part of "I am going to see my son off on an trip do you not understand?".

This is the only bullying I can see on this thread...

As Globetraveller says, serious over reaction.

Spendless

I for one, would like to know how everything turns out. If the kids enjoy Norfolk, if anyone cancels. What happens about the course.

I wouldn't have been happy about being told I could only drop my child off mid-morning, as it's a bit last minute to change working arrangements.

My yr6 child is in a school that was deemed inadequate a few months back. I know some of my frustration with her school stems from their disorganisation and lack of communication, and it makes it hard to untangle when things go wrong, which was really out of the schools control and what could have been easily remedied had the school been more organised.

Re sats, when my eldest sat his, I worried about them. I had no idea how his Secondary school used them, and no-one with an older child was able to explain it to me properly. Meanwhile all you get from the Primary school is how important they are (which they are, to them), spending most of yr 6 practising them, providing booster classes, sending home revision papers that are several hours long to be done in the Easter school hols. If it's your first experience of them as a parent no wonder you stress! Having gone through it all before though, I haven't worried about youngest recent sats.

Seanymph

I have learnt, as I get older, to work out what I want to achieve from things.

In this instance the IOW trip was a goner. The refund was available - the issue about travel was accommodated by the school agreeing to take child in earlier.

The waving off could be achieved by missing the course and not taking him in earlier.

Taking 'what do you want to achieve' as a starting point for your post - generally people post an issue and look for a resolution or constructive suggestion here - what did you anticipate from other posters?

There is nothing you want addressing - you are unhappy and dissatisfied with these teaching staff who are sacrificing their time to accompany children and give them a life experience and opportunity some will not get.

Someone made an error, but there is now no changing the error - so surely before belittling secretarial staff you have to know what you wish to achieve and work out how best to go about it?

As my counsellor used to say, do not try and reason with a bully, they do not respond to logic.

I lift this from your post - often we replicate behaviour without awareness, or see in others the aspects of ourselves we don't like. Could there be room to learn from this? That many people have been logical, and reasoned - but you won't hear them because somehow you just want 'someone to pay' for your disappointment, and you are prepared to be mean and highlight people's mistakes to make yourself feel better?

The disappointment of changing venue to a child, who will still be with his friends, is minimal. The feelings of disappointment he will be learning from you, and how to react to a change appropriately, and how to be tolerant to people who make mistakes, and how to manage expectations and learn to roll with what life throws at us. Those are the important lessons he will get from this.

Sometimes as a parent we have to shelve our emotions and look to the bigger screen.

Taking our anger out on people is rarely constructive - and not a good thing to teach children.

And that is whether we are doing it by belittling people in their offices, or joining in with a 'gang' on facebook.

I wish your son a lovely trip - Norfolk is a super place, and I've yet to meet a child who didn't love a residential trip.

GobbledyGook

Both of my parents were manipulative. My father was an evil bully. As a result I'm quite over protective of my children.

That doesn't mean when people tell me I'm being over protective or over reacting they're wrong.

FatVonD

esmerelda98 wrote: »

Actually I think there has been a lot of nastiness in how those opinions have been expressed. As my mother used to say, 'Yes tell the truth, but in love.'

I agree. Some posters have been far nastier than usual on this thread, I blame the retrograde Mercury :rotfl:

mossstitchmama

Not being ignorant. Broadband cut off yesterday when next door had work done. Am piggybacking on oh' s phone. Will post update when virgin pull finger out and get us reconnected.

pollypenny

I've only read start and end if thread as I've been away.

It's understandable that parents want to wave kids off, as most did as we left school at midnight for the long drive to the ferry and Germany or France.

However, not so many parents were keen to spend a minute on a quick thanks to staff.

pinkladyof66

Well i have just taken the time to read all these postings and I must be the only one who would also agree with poster... If my child had to switch at late stage from IOW to Norfolk I would be pretty @rsed too...
We had a rather upsetting experience at my sons school recently it was his 1st class photo... he is in reception. proof came through all other children in his class had full head and shoulder shots. smaller children on seats at front and on floor had full body shots. My son one of the smallest in the class has only a 1/4 of his face showing... the only child... I was livid... surely it is the job of the photographer to ensure that she captures all the kids. I did not buy one and waste my money.. I made my point to the school that I was very upset. Sometimes things upset parents more than others so I can see why op would be annoyed with change of plans.. There has been very harsh words to her and it is certainly not acceptable.

Janepig

pinkladyof66 wrote: »

We had a rather upsetting experience at my sons school recently it was his 1st class photo... he is in reception. proof came through all other children in his class had full head and shoulder shots. smaller children on seats at front and on floor had full body shots. My son one of the smallest in the class has only a 1/4 of his face showing... the only child... I was livid... surely it is the job of the photographer to ensure that she captures all the kids. I did not buy one and waste my money.. I made my point to the school that I was very upset. Sometimes things upset parents more than others so I can see why op would be annoyed with change of plans.. There has been very harsh words to her and it is certainly not acceptable.

Seriously? Perhaps you should try to group a bunch of 30 four year old kids together and try and take a photo of them all looking at the camera at the same time and see how you get on. Still, never too early to make a name for yourself with your child's teachers!

Jx