Just needed to be heard for a little while

hanc

Just a quick one to wish everyone a very Happy Christmas and I hope you all had a nice and peaceful day xxx

Pyxis

Hope you and WaSp have had a very Merry Re-Christmas Day today, WaS!


I fell asleep halfway through Downton yesterday evening, so am trying to finish seeing it at the moment, before dinner!
Then it's home tomorrow after breakfast!

seven-day-weekend

I hope it's Ok to post this. If not, I will delete it.

I have been given a Health Advisor on the NHS because I am overweight, I have my first appointment on Tuesday .

I know what I need to do to lose weight, but seem unable to do it at the moment. I know it's because my head is not in the right place.

I'm hoping this advisor will be able to help me get motivated so i can start the New Year gradually losing weight. I have been going to WW on and off for years, (although I am not going at the moment) and have lost three stone twice, but have put it back on again. I can't get my head right to lose weight at the moment and am hoping the one-to-one sessions with this advisor will help me do that.

I've posted here because I got a bit upset when someone on another thread said I should just have willpower and it was a waste of NHS money. Do they really think I would still be overweight if it was just a matter of willpower? I know from experience that criticism will make it worse, I need gentle help and support and am hoping I will be able to get it from this advisor. Please think of me on Tuesday.

jobbingmusician

I had a colleague who lost something really amazing like 20 stone - I forget the details now but know that the thing she had which made her able to do it was psychological support. We're all rooting for you, 7DW! Here's hoping a 1-1 adviser will be exactly what you need.

(Personally I am totally in love with the 5:2 diet. It's the first time in my life I have been on a diet which I can happily continue for the rest of my life. It gets easier with time, and however miserable you are on the fast days, you know you can eat whatever you like tomorrow!)

Waves_and_Smiles

Evening everyone! Well, Christmas is officially tomorrow. We both felt great last night, not at all great today. We both have coughs and streaming noses and a pain in the centre of our chests along with nausea and headaches so another day in bed.

Tomorrow shall be Christmas! (We hope). It is lucky that I celebrate everything because we are used to odd days for celebrations!

SDW I would never judge anyone for needing help to lose or gain weight, it isn't just a question of willpower. I do understand what you mean because I saw a dietician for a long time when my ED was at its worse and people judged me too. (Obviously I didn't tell them that an ED was the cause). You are being pro-active to improve your health, that is to be commended! We will all be with you at your appointment (crowding out the advisor's room like sardines), you are doing a good thing! You will be on my thoughts on Tuesday, please feel that you can discuss your treatment any time you wish and we will support you.

lostinrates

Glad people had a good Christmas, whichever day it was on;). Pyxis, your hotel break sounds especially lovely to me.

Ours has been a bit stressful with family input ( honestly feeling I wish I never had to do it again). On Christmas Eve I felt emotionally assaulted. The thing is I truly know the people do not mean to do it, and the stress of raising it or challenging it would also be immense and tbh, probably not worth it because I don't think change is possible.

If it were not for our animals and my health we would definitely go away next year!

Waves_and_Smiles

I'm sorry, LIR. How hurtful and frustrating for you. I can relate a little to how you feel because with my family it was pointless raising anything that was said that was hurtful because it wouldn't change a thing, it would just make the whole situation far worse for a while and then once it all quietened down again things would resume just as they were before.

I hope that you and FIR can spend some happy times together now between Christmas and New Year, enjoy each other as much as you can.

Pyxis

7DW I agree that it is not just a question of willpower. There are all sorts of other things tied up with food. The NHS would not be 'wasting' its money on you if it didn't think you needed the support. You've proved you can lose the weight, so what is needed is the help in not reverting to old patterns. I know just what it's like, believe me!

Like JM, I have found that that the 5:2 suits me very well, as a lifestyle choice, not just as a way to lose weight. The science behind it is very good too, as are the additional health benefits. It is hard initially, but only on the fast days, and the relief of knowing that you can eat normally the next day is very powerful. Psychologically it is wonderful!

LIR, so sorry you have a had family stress. Families can be wonderful things but some can be nightmares. Having had the latter sort, I do feel for you.
I know some people who one year said that they were going away, and had made arrangements for pets etc., but then they didn't! They stayed at home, but had no-one descend on them, and so had a lovely peaceful time! Yes, it was a lie, but it saved their sanity!

Poor WaS! I wondered why you were so quiet and hoped it wasn't 'cos you were ill, but you were!
So Merry re-re-Christmas Day tomorrow!

lostinrates

The thing is I feel annoyed with MYSELF because I know We will do it again , because the idea of them being alone and miserable also doesn't sit well. There will be holidays we spend just us again, and saying they cannot come soon enough is awful.

No one was intentionally mean, to be absolutely clear, just thoughtless or utterly self absorbed. An example. I don't do gifts,....I have never been particularly gift orientated and expect nothing and actually ask not to be given anything and get a bit nervous when this is ignored by family because they never get me things I like. This year was useful, one parent wrapped the phone they had already promised to give me when they have finished with it. This was great as I lost mine a few weeks ago. They didn't turn it off so I knew that's what it was as I could hear the alerts coming through in the morning and thought "wow, that's really useful, brilliant' and said thanks, and then was told....yes, but not yet because not finished with it, and it was snatched back, unwrapped and that one disappeared. The other gave us a portrait of themselves. I mean, its not a bad portrait, I like the artist even. But it just feels such an odd gift. I really do prefer to have nothing and one day inherit the portrait maybe. Parent then went on for about three hours about how one day we'd miss them and be grateful for it. And I said I liked it and it suited one of my rooms well...but, it wasn't really for me, or for fir, or for the house or the pets even.

lostinrates

Seven, I agree, take the support and don't feel guilty,

Fwiw worth though, I read the comment as less personal, using your situation as an example of a pov ( to which we are all entitled) rather than having a go at you personally. Please understand, I'm not belittling your feelings, just that I don't want you to feel too vulnerable or sensitive.

I like five two aswell, though have been unable to do it properly for a while.

Because I am feeling a lot healthier ATM I am planning to return to intermittent fasting imminently, but that also means having to eat a little more regularly on the non fast days. . Planning the low cal days is surprising ly easy those who aren't used to it find ( I've been doing it for years because I have to eat much fewer calories than most people, I only wish it looked like it!) and there are SO many recipes available for the fast days now its ridiculous ly easy to find good low cal recipes.