Just needed to be heard for a little while

Pyxis

codemonkey wrote: »

Actually, its torture but I'm trying

You can do it, Code!

Tip! Think up, and remember a list of, say, five things you could use to start a conversation/fill an awkward silence. Could be things you've seen on a thread on here, a joke or pic, or something else you heard somewhere. You could even get a game going at the table, like where you have to remember things the previous people have said in a list.
I'll google some table games.......

Oh yes, and if you catch someone's eye by accident, smile! (rather than look away). Everyone likes a smile! Don't worry if they then look puzzled!

lostinrates

Questions......ask people about their stuff.....takes pressure off you and makes people happy.

codemonkey

tea_lover wrote: »

OH has about 12 christmas do's usually - none of them are nice civilised lunches though, and they all involve nastier and nastier hangovers as he gets older lol. Have told him he's too old for playing football and all night drinking now.... think he's starting to believe me.

Ours usually start nice and civilised and end with jaeger bombs and people snogging people they shouldn't.

codemonkey

lostinrates wrote: »

Questions......ask people about their stuff.....takes pressure off you and makes people happy.

Their stuff? Like "nice dress where is it from?" or their stuff as in "how are things down below?":rotfl:

Pyxis

Pyxis wrote: »

You can do it, Code!

Tip! Think up, and remember a list of, say, five things you could use to start a conversation/fill an awkward silence. Could be things you've seen on a thread on here, a joke or pic, or something else you heard somewhere. You could even get a game going at the table, like where you have to remember things the previous people have said in a list.
I'll google some table games.......

Oh yes, and if you catch someone's eye by accident, smile! (rather than look away). Everyone likes a smile! Don't worry if they then look puzzled!

Here's a link to some great ideas!
http://www.dinner-party-genie.com/games.html



And I'm sure you know all this, but there were some things here that I found quite interesting, and others that were validating!..........
http://www.dinner-party-genie.com/conversation.html

Waves_and_Smiles

Well done, Gitdog! We are all proud of you!

It will be fine, code. My routine at office parties used to be a permanent smile and ask people questions, preferably ones that complimented them! People love talking about themselves, if you take an interest in what they are saying they will carry on chatting and all you need to do is smile and nod and make appropriate noises in the right places.

Milliefleur had her first bath for years this morning with her new carers help! She hated having someone with her at first but once she was in the bath the carer stood outside of the open door with her back turned and Milliefleur thoroughly enjoyed soaking for a while. I think she will get used to it.

I got some free samples from Clinique this morning so I am sitting here wearing lipstick, perfume and mascara. WaSp thinks I've lost the plot...

Pyxis

What with the makeup and the creams/lotions, he'll think your flat has turned into a beauty salon!

Waves_and_Smiles

He is making choking noises in the corner again! I currently have on make up, body butter, moisturising cream, scented deodorant and perfume. Even my carer said that I got some lovely creams for my birthday!

Pyxis

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

He is making choking noises in the corner again! I currently have on make up, body butter, moisturising cream, scented deodorant and perfume. Even my carer said that I got some lovely creams for my birthday!

Do you know, I think I can smell it from here! Lovely!

Waves_and_Smiles

Did you ever find a light box, Pyxis? Please let it be you who mentioned it, my memory is shot today so I could be wrong. Example- I was just whining that my pain meds didn't work, I looked at the packet and I haven't actually taken them yet. I swear I remember doing it. This is a day for just sitting very still and touching nothing!