Just needed to be heard for a little while

dibuzz

Happy Birthday JM, can't believe you are 40

oystercatcher

Haybel, I am sorry, I read your post and didn't comment. A lot of the time I find it really difficult to think straight, due to a combination of depression, dizziness and medication that makes me sleepy and extreme tiredness.
i was very interested in the EMDR as weird eye movements are part of my dizzy condition and I wonder if there is a connection with my mental health problems too. However it is very difficult to explain all this and I often don't have mental energy to try explain things.
I often feel really guilty that I haven't followed up on comments and questions here but thought there might be a bit more understanding here. of course we are all fighting with our own problems and so of course now you are upset and I am so, so sorry,
I'm not sure this even makes sense but I will post it anyway to show I have tried this time.

oystercatcher

Happy Birthday JM.

whitewing

Happy Birthday, JM!

Pyxis

Happy Birthday
Jobbing Musician!

-0 years old today!

haybel19

oystercatcher wrote: »

I often feel really guilty that I haven't followed up on comments and questions here but thought there might be a bit more understanding here.

Just to quickly touch on this- of course I understand that for various reasons people do not post or comment however I am not talking here about individuals but as a COLLECTIVE where not one of you actually engaged and commented or discussed a long detailed post which took considerable time and thought preferring instead to instantly revert to chat. Of course there is a time and a place for chat but now when genuine mental health posts are overlooked which is or perhaps WASthe purpose of the thread. As I have already mentioned this is the second time in days this has happened to me.

Now Id like you to consider for a moment you had spent considerable time and thought on a post which was an emotive subject for you- but you wanted to really do the question justice- and then NOT ONE PERSON actually acknowledges that. How do you think you might feel? Ignored? Invisible? Surplus to requirements? Unimportant? Unwelcome? Especially when the topic of cheese/bread and fancy dress animals is deemed more worthy of discussion than the post you worked hard on.

As I have said it is not about anyone as an individual but how you as a collective group responded and not for the first time.

I am going to leave it there and am not going to comment further on this.

whitewing

haybel,

I think you are being oversensitive.

ETA: I feel offended by your latest post.

Pyxis

Dear Haybel, I do understand, because similar things have happened to me, and it does feel a bit hurtful at the time. However, I tried to see the bigger picture, which is that, on this thread at any rate, the people who post regularly are very kind and supportive and accepting.

I do, though, know what it's like to take things to heart and be hurt by them, even if deep down I know that the other person didn't mean to hurt.

However, on here, I found that when I asked directly for help, it came in swathes. I was so grateful. I haven't come across another thread on here that is so unconditional.

I hope you can see that we are very sorry for upsetting you, and that yes, maybe we overdid the chat on this occasion. A lot of that was my fault.... I can overfocus on things at times, and get a bit hyper, but I do still read every thread.

And I know you were worrying about little one and her speech, so our thoughtlessness didn't help at all, did it.
Please let us know how you got on with the health visitor. We are all concerned for you, and would like to help if we can. Whitewing is very good at researching articles and things that might be useful, and WaS is a fount of knowledge on a myriad of subjects.
I hope you were reassured. :A



Whitewing, everybody is different, and what touches one person may not touch another. We all have our different hidden ways of being hurt, based on our individual previous experiences. Could we just accept that if someone is hurt by something, that hurt is valid? :A
I'm sad that you have your own worries, too, at the moment, but I'm sure that you don't need to worry unduly, because, as has been said before, if anything serious had shown up in the tests, you'd have been hauled in long before now. Easy for me to say, though, I know. Keep strong, and don't think about posting on here until you're rested. You've got a busy week ahead. We'll be rooting for you. xx




Now, we need to know what JM is doing for her momentous Birthday.
(It's got a 0 at the end. 20?.....30?.........100? )

seven-day-weekend

Haybel, you are obviously feeling fragile about this and I'm sure people do understand and many have apologised for being insensitive.

I really do think that you should now, for the sake of your own well-being, accept their apologies and move on.

People make mistakes and I'm sorry you were on the receiving end of this one.

whitewing

pyxis,

I totally accept that haybel feels hurt. What I object to is that she has not even bothered to acknowledge any of the apology posts that anyone put on and still gave the thread a 'telling off'. We are (as far as I know) all individuals sitting at computers at home. I don't believe any of us should be feeling obliged to check that every single post is acknowledged positively in some way within a very short timeframe. I feel bloody depressed about the whole thing now.