Just needed to be heard for a little while

Waves_and_Smiles

Aw, don't worry MU. I do that myself. Sometimes I barely say 5 words to WaSp in a day. I bet it isn't anything that he or you have done or often anything that has happened, if he is like me I just need some time to withdraw for a while and be inside of my own head. Also it is often better that I do that than babble incoherently if something is stressing me, it is easier to work out what I am thinking first. A lot of people do that, just be there for beau if he needs you and eventually he will work out whatever it is, not that there is necessarily even a cause. Keep telling yourself that it isn't anything to do with you, he just needs some time to close off for a while.

haybel19

Taken down as despite writing an incredibly detailed and thought provoking post- not one person with the exception of WaS actually even acknowledged its existence.

System

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

Aw, don't worry MU. I do that myself. Sometimes I barely say 5 words to WaSp in a day. I bet it isn't anything that he or you have done or often anything that has happened, if he is like me I just need some time to withdraw for a while and be inside of my own head. Also it is often better that I do that than babble incoherently if something is stressing me, it is easier to work out what I am thinking first. A lot of people do that, just be there for beau if he needs you and eventually he will work out whatever it is, not that there is necessarily even a cause. Keep telling yourself that it isn't anything to do with you, he just needs some time to close off for a while.

Thank you WaS

Being a natural born worrier who worries about literally everything, its been a little difficult not taking it personally or worrying its my fault.

You're right, he just needs some time

Pyxis

MessedUp, I have something that means that I sometimes get overloaded and just have to switch off/be alone/zone out. At minimum I just fall quiet and observe. At maximum I have to go home and be alone for a couple of days, sometimes also I need to stay in bed for a day. It's due to too much input.
Inbetween situations might see me going into a daydream, or getting home and having to sit down with a crossword, to shut everything else out.

I don't know what job beau does, but if it is very demanding intellectually, he might just need to shut the world out, to recharge.

Waves_and_Smiles

That was a perfect explanation, haybel! What worked for me was my therapist tapped on my knees alternately, the same regularly rhythm to remove the blockage caused by the PTSD. You are completely correct that the amount of detail you can recall is amazing, often people with PTSD can recall their dreams very vividly, too. As you said it is because the brain doesn't file the experiences away, they remain in the main focus of the concious mind as if they just happened yesterday with the memory completely intact.

I agree with you that there is no cure for PTSD. It can be improved through a variety of therapies but the triggers still exist, they just hopefully lessen. I am far more able to cope with my PTSD symptoms than I used to be but they will never leave entirely, it is a question of learning to adapt to them and knowing what might be a trigger.

Waves_and_Smiles

Ok, that's annoying. Celebrities got to cuddle Santa at Hyde Park Winter Wonderland. They are adults and got to see Santa! I am going to go off and sulk now...

System

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

Ok, that's annoying. Celebrities got to cuddle Santa at Hyde Park Winter Wonderland. They are adults and got to see Santa! I am going to go off and sulk now...

A guy came into work yesterday and had an amazing father chriistmas beard, i had to stop myself from asking if he was actually father christmas! :rotfl:

Waves_and_Smiles

I would have asked and made an idiot of myself, MU! Might have told him my Christmas list, too...

oystercatcher

Husband has a wonderful Santa beard I quite often call him Santa jokingly .

Waves_and_Smiles

Can I borrow him please, oyster? I just need him dressed in red and turning up Christmas Eve preferably with accompanying sleigh bells and I'll be happy?