Just needed to be heard for a little while

codemonkey

At the risk of taking this thread to Carry On levels of innuendo....

...That's a big instrument!

whitewing

codemonkey wrote: »

At the risk of taking this thread to Carry On levels of innuendo....

...That's a big instrument!

You took it right out of my mouth!

codemonkey

whitewing wrote: »

You took it right out of my mouth!

Ooh err missus.

System

If there was ever a quote for the thread about innuendo in the arms I think that one qualifies :rotfl:

Ah, just quickly before I go into a possibly long rant about insecurities I am very happy right now but I'm still quite insecure.

I find it hard to beleive when good things happen to me, I feel sometimes like I don't deserve this things and that in the end I will always lose everything and it will always go wrong. I think this is not only due to past relationships but draws on the period when I was at my illest and everything seemed to be going wrong in life. So when good things do happen I find it hard to accept them

I tried to explain this to the beau the other day and bless him, he held me there as I was a bit of an embarrassingly tearful insecure mess, and reassured me that I do deserve good things to happen to me, and that he's going no where so that's one less thing I can try and stop worrying about. I was surprised by how understanding he's been of my "issues", in comparison (not that I'm comparing per say) my most recent ex refused point blank to even talk about or acknowledge my mental health problems and the effect it can have on me, which at times left me feeling very isolated and unable to open up to him when I needed too. I Feel right now I can actually be honest and have someone who not only listens and reassures me but is also happy to comfort me if I need it.

Not sure where I'm going with this. Just wondered if anyone else gets insecure and if anyone has any advice with trying to deal with it and not beat yourself up over it?

elsien

I think insecurity is part of the human condition, some people just seem to hide it better than others. No really useful advice, other than trying to live in and value the moment. (Which is a bit rich coming from someone prone to a good bit of catastrophic thinking.) Otherwise you can get into the self fulfilling prophecies of giving up because it'll all end up the same way anyway,
And working on your self esteem. You are most definitely worth good things happening to you, you just have to start believing it yourself.
My new mantra is "I'll give it a go" whereas before I'd avoid things in case they went wrong. You're braver than me, you're already taking chances and seeing where it takes you, so give yourself credit for that as well.


And in other news, a pain free 25 minute run. Courtesy of the zombie apocalypse, and mentally planning my survival strategies (guess who's been reading the when !!!! happens thread.) Word to the wise, I'm moving in with codemonkey and her baseball bat - I've seen Sean of the dead, I know how it works.:D

seven-day-weekend

codemonkey wrote: »

Hello everyone. It's a gorgeous Autumn day here, my favourite kind and I'm feeling bleurgh.

Penguin (for me anyway) involving body image issues and infertility



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End penguin.

I do understand what you say about your weight and have felt the same. Won't say any more because of the penguins, but rest assured there is someone here who understands xx

codemonkey

MU, I think everyone gets a bit insecure in a relationship sometimes. I know I do. I wonder why DH is with a chubster like me. It doesn't help that he works with a cheerleader, an ex lap dancer and several girls who are model gorgeous. In turn I'm sure he also gets insecure about me (maybe less so at the moment).

Its all down to the bag of crazy that everyone has. In early relationships you're on your best behaviour and you keep control of your bag and your SO doesn't get to see inside. It's all about finding someone who still loves you once he's seen your bag of crazy spill all over the place. Remember, he has his own bag of crazy too.

It sounds like you have a good one there you accepts you for you which is half the battle.

DH just asked if the doctor would prescribe me weightloss pills.

codemonkey

elsien wrote: »

And in other news, a pain free 25 minute run. Courtesy of the zombie apocalypse, and mentally planning my survival strategies (guess who's been reading the when !!!! happens thread.) Word to the wise, I'm moving in with codemonkey and her baseball bat - I've seen Sean of the dead, I know how it works.:D

Me too. Take car. Go to Mum's. Kill Phil - "Sorry." - grab Liz, go to the Winchester, have a nice cold pint, and wait for all of this to blow over.

And its a shovelglove if you don't mind. :rotfl:

whitewing

codemonkey, he may well have asked because he senses how bad the weight makes you feel.

codemonkey

whitewing wrote: »

codemonkey, he may well have asked because he senses how bad the weight makes you feel.

I know. Just a bit sensitive. Am trying to take it in the spirit in which it was intended.