Just needed to be heard for a little while

oystercatcher

It's soggy here too.

Full-of Beans-Dog keeps bouncing and giving me meaningful looks. I think it's walkies time but I have No Energy

elsien

Can you keep Full-of Beans-Dog occupied with games indoors - mental rather than physical exercise?
My training class set an exercise to teach Gitdog a new trick by Thursday. As he has an attention span of about a minute, it's not going well.

lostinrates

Can the trick be a physical one...work with his strengths?


All my dogs ever...apart from kiwi....( sad shake of head) have had a com m and for ' all right...go run your hearts out now' Its was only ever for fun capitalising on their natural strength and desires. Now on days I don't have energy its incredibly useful, I can tell a pottering dog, ' nah, I'm not walking far today....go run ' .( that's not my command word)

I tried to teach kiwi, but its failed so far. He thinks the command means turn around and kiss me. Luckily the others run and he chases them. But its not really a substitute.

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Long post two subjects!

Pain.

I get pain from tension. Whether its just bracing against other real pain in other parts of my body or feeling tense.


This morning I had a pain in the part of my abdomen that made me slightly aware it could be appendicitis. But neurological pain can be confusing and I felt perfectly well, so I just continued along my day. I feel fine now, so it was just either one of those things that happens to everyone, maybe a nerve thing but in any case its nothing serious. I have things like that an awful lot......is it a heart attack? No.....its my nerves twanging......one day it might me something serious and I'll miss it because I'm quite relaxed about it. I almost think, oh hello sore part of my body, nice to know I can feel you, sorry you were feeling left out!

I saw my body worker yesterday who pointed out my hands and feet were too tense simply because I am always too tense, My fingers never lie straight out in a neutral position ( my husband pointed that out to me, I'd not noticed, and my arms are tight. Ironically, my body worker pointed out you cannot really work on relaxing, just try and promote an environment where you feel more able to, and a situation of body and mind health where practically you can. It might be the nerve thing fires in my arms more than I notice and tightens my muscles there, it goes in my legs all the time, my calves are like rocks, so why not my arms?

whitewing

Talking of kisses on command, how is Beau, MU?

Waves_and_Smiles

Aw, LIR! You did make me laugh, I bet Kiwi looks adorable really! Please do feel that you can talk about big dog, I tend to be ok with animals aging and all that comes with it. I lost that fear after nursing my cat and being with her at the vets at the end, it was the first time and the only time that I have felt that it was time and there was nothing else that I could do and I had no guilt. She really did heal me a little even her illness and passing and I even remember the end in fondness.

It's funny that you should say that JM. The professionals that stay in mind are the ones who blurred boundaries. Sterling who told me about his own OCD and made it feel ok and then tried therapy after therapy until we found the right one and told me it was his fault that some didn't work, Pam my first therapist at 13 who worked with me for free for 3 years as a teenager to complete our therapy even though funding ran out (she didn't tell me that until the end, no wonder we swapped from the clinic to her house!), Jane my CBT therapist who cried when I talked about my past and told me that it was ok that she cried for me, Natalie another CBT therapist who when my hoarding was so bad came to my house and tidied dirt and clutter for me for weeks while all I could do was watch, Peter the newly trained psychiatrist who spontaneously hugged me after a difficult session and Zelpha the psychiatrist who held my hand and said "I wish I could make it go away love" and of course this present psychiatrist who gave me his arm at the car and walked me to our appointment. They helped me the most, they were human and they showed they cared. I am lucky that I had these people work with me who weren't afraid to go that little bit extra, I gained more from them as a result.

Well done JM! Keep at it, you will make it!

Elsien, after my dad died and I 'got back' from the missing 9 months I felt no grief at all, I didn't cry for him, I just felt nothing. But I began to get the most awful stomach aches that would have me doubled over. Shortly after those began I developed migraines so severe that they made me faint. These went on for the next 3 years. My therapist told me that they were psychosomatic and told me that we would deal with them through talking. I thought that idea was ridiculous, this was stabbing pain and I remember being very offended that she thought that I was 'lying' despite her explaining repeatedly that psychosomatic means of the mind and body and doesn't mean that the pain wasn't real! But the more I talked about my dad's death the less frequent they become, by 16 I was able to cry for him and they totally went away. Pam was totally correct, they were indeed psychosomatic. I wouldn't/couldn't allow myself to feel the pain of his death so it came out as physical agony instead, when that returned to its emotional state I became better.

I have had 3 hours sleep, I was awake a lot coughing. This is either nasty tobacco products being cleared from lungs or yesterdays upset stomach was the beginning of a bug. Plus, I missed WaSp. I got used to him sleeping next to me after his week here (Now he is here and talking non-stop as he does when he's tired and driving me mad, I love him really).

Pyxis

whitewing wrote: »

Talking of kisses on command, how is Beau, MU?

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liR, forgive me if you've already said this.... Sieve again!.....but have you tried hypnotherapy? Even if you just do it for the relaxation element, it might be worth a try? I've found it very effective.


Elsien, this is what I used to do with my untireable muttling....

I would stand at the top of the stairs and call her excitedly. She'd come racing up.
Then I'd make as if I were rushing down and let her go first, while really staying at the top. Then excitedly call her up again.
Etc. etc. etc.

Now, she had a Brussels sprout brain, so after a while she cottoned on that something wasn't quite right, but by then she was a bit out of breath!
As Gitdog's brain is pea-sized, he may carry on for longer, especially if you introduce titbits for each upward run!

lostinrates

Pyxis wrote: »

:rotfl: :rotfl:


liR, forgive me if you've already said this.... Sieve again!.....but have you tried hypnotherapy? Even if you just do it for the relaxation element, it might be worth a try? I've found it very effective.

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I use hypnotherapy recordings quite a lot.

I tried real hypnotherapists twice. Was not effective for me sadly. But using the recorded things I find relaxing and somewhat addictive.

Waves_and_Smiles

Reasons why I am very lucky and thankful-

Everyday I have 3 people who tell me that they love me. They never miss a day.
I have had a successful 25 year relationship that makes me happy everyday. That speaks for itself.
I have everyone here, I feel accepted, cared for and appreciated. I have never had that before. I have made some wonderful friends from this thread who I would hate to be without now.
I have had some wonderful professionals who have tried to help me and who have been incredibly patient with me.
I have had wonderful pets who have brightened my life every day and left their love in a paw print on my heart.
I have my independence even if it is isn't other people's normality, I am thankful for that everyday.
No matter what illness has taken from me it has never removed my sense of humour, I rely on that so much.
I am far better off than many people with similar complex conditions. I am deeply thankful that I am able to express clearly the help that I need.
I have a roof over my head and enough money to survive, many do not so I am very lucky indeed.
I can still achieve small goals for myself, even if they are things others can do easily.
I finally learnt how to be a child and I love every minute.
Despite my past being hard I learnt from it, it made me the person I am today and I'm not so bad.
I haven't had a real cigarette for 9 days and I love how things taste now.
I believe that I can still help and teach people. It is all I have ever wanted to do.
No matter what my past was I got out of it and got my degree and worked in a job I loved against the odds. No matter the outcome that can never be taken away from me.
I have Sir Pugliet to comfort me. As silly as that sounds I take him everywhere and probably pat him hourly. He is a reminder to me that I am not alone.


Don't mind me, I am counting my blessings today. I do have a lot to be grateful for. Feel free to join in if you would like, no pressure!

jojo-baby

WaS
What a wonderful post (the one above this one)
I find it so humbling that people who have much bigger challenges in life have such a positive outlook.
I find it all too easy to get bogged down in things that bother me, when i should just be thankful for all that I have.
I am really am quite lucky!

jobbingmusician

Absolutely brilliant post, and I feel humbled that Sir P has made the list xxx