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  • System
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    So, the doctors appointment went ok

    She's signed me off for a week to clear my head and said I should go and see my family for some respite/support of sorts. Called work and they were actually surprisingly understanding :o

    Dr said I was doing well to have gotten through the last week and I need to find the strength to keep on going, and that I need to go back in 2 weeks, and also to make an appointment with the iAPT team to discuss the best of of help they might be able to give me.

    Going to have a bath and read my book, then call my mum as I think I need a bit of a heart to heart and to ask for some support :o
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  • Sounds as if your doctor was really on the ball! Good luck with your mum - here's hoping some family support makes you feel loved (you are loved in this family, by the way x)

    Whitewing - your original 'possible penguin' link doesn't work for me, which might be why no-one's commented on it! :)
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  • I am so glad the doctors appointment went well, MU. Some comfort and support would help a lot, try to spend the week pampering yourself and doing your favourite things. Make a list of them if it helps!

    While we were discussing feet earlier I thought of something that someone may have the answer to. Basically, I can't wear shoes. I never wear them indoors and have left the house less than 35 times in 6 years and everytime I do after 10 minutes my shoes are rubbing, my feet ache and are sore and it is very painful to walk. Plus my feet swell quickly due to water retention. The problem is that my feet are now very soft where they aren't used to shoes. Even the seam of socks rubs on them and makes them sore. WaSp jokes that I have babies feet as there is no hard or skin or roughness because I am always barefoot indoors but any shoe is agony. Short of buying woollen booties for adults I am not sure what to do, even slippers cause blisters and sore toes. Help anyone?

    The link doesn't work for me either, whitewing but it isn't a penguin for me, I watch a lot of documentaries about schizophrenia, some are very sad. But thank you for highlighting a possible penguin for others!
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
  • whitewing
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    edited 19 August 2014 at 12:30PM
    See if this link to my American penguin article works

    http://edition.cnn.com/interactive/2014/08/health/mental-illness-treatment/index.html?hpt=us_r1

    PS I scroll down under the video to the text - I rarely watch videos online

    ETA: I will have a word with my friend over the next few days about the shoes WaS. She has problems with her feet and I remember her telling me about some very comfy shoes she'd bought once.
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  • Waves_and_Smiles
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    edited 19 August 2014 at 12:43PM
    It works, whitewing, just watching it now. Thank you.

    I won't discuss the article as it is a potential penguin but how terribly, terribly sad for everyone involved. That is heartbreaking. For those who don't feel that they can read it there is a bit about the look in the persons eyes while they are psychotic. I know that look so well from my mother and it used to terrify me. I have never seen it in anyone else, her eyes used to become glassy, fixed and cold. It was like the real person had left her body. It is almost impossible to describe but it was terrifying to witness. Apparently I don't have a scary look when psychotic according to WaSp, but I still look as if I am not there. Not a cold look, more of an unfocussed, day-dreamy one.
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  • System
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    Aww jm, thank you for that, its nice to know you consider me part of this family :)

    and thanks WaS, shall take this week as easy as i can, and then try and get back on my feet. can't really think of any shoe advice, i find my furry not ugg boots quite comfy though they don't give much support to my feet, other than that i live in my slippers when i'm at home :o

    I was thinkng last night, about all the times i have felt bad before, all the times i struggled, all the hard things ive experienced, the times i was hurt. But you know what? I got through them, i survived them, all of them. So if i can get through those things, i can get through this. I just need to give myself time to heal :) Even at my weakest and most desperate moment, i fought back. I found hope, and that is what i need to find again.

    Sorry rambelling a bit :o
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  • lostinrates
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    whitewing wrote: »
    Still interesting though LIR. What do they do?

    (There is a new group near us that has requested donations of old-fashioned equipment eg old dial phones etc for helping prompt memories amongst Alzheimers sufferers. I'm not sure if dementia and Alzheimers are the same or not).

    Well, she's an academic, ( although she is a good artists too) but she works with lots of artists and goes into care homes and they do art and look at art too and talk about it) lots of the patients are quite far gone. Beyond that I'm not that sure.

    Alzeimers is a type of dementia, of which there are several types. :)
  • This sentence from the article deserved a post of its own.

    " A bee buzzing by his head felt as loud as a jet."

    YES! This is my problem with sounds, everything is magnified by so much so I sit in silence. Being in a group of people talking is an absolute nightmare because I will hear their voices, their breathing, background sounds around them and they will all be of equal pitch? There is no switch to fade bits out and make others more obvious as most people have where they can focus on the main sound and ignore background noise? It makes being outside terrifying, there is far too much auditory stimulus.
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
  • lostinrates
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    I am so glad the doctors appointment went well, MU. Some comfort and support would help a lot, try to spend the week pampering yourself and doing your favourite things. Make a list of them if it helps!

    While we were discussing feet earlier I thought of something that someone may have the answer to. Basically, I can't wear shoes. I never wear them indoors and have left the house less than 35 times in 6 years and everytime I do after 10 minutes my shoes are rubbing, my feet ache and are sore and it is very painful to walk. Plus my feet swell quickly due to water retention. The problem is that my feet are now very soft where they aren't used to shoes. Even the seam of socks rubs on them and makes them sore. WaSp jokes that I have babies feet as there is no hard or skin or roughness because I am always barefoot indoors but any shoe is agony. Short of buying woollen booties for adults I am not sure what to do, even slippers cause blisters and sore toes. Help anyone?

    The link doesn't work for me either, whitewing but it isn't a penguin for me, I watch a lot of documentaries about schizophrenia, some are very sad. But thank you for highlighting a possible penguin for others!



    Well, this happens to me when I am not wearing shoes a lot, and now my feet swell I have shoes in three sizes :(

    First thing, is you need to buy shoes bigger than you think you need.

    ( did you know that one should never buy shoes in the morning but rather at the end of the day, because our feet are always a little swollen and bigger at the end of the day so a comfortable shoe and nine or ten am after a lie in and first shop of the day, can be a murderous shoe ant eight or ten pm after a full day?)

    Secondly, when you go put athletes foot powerder or something in the shoe, and wear a pop sock or tights, for maximum slippery ness. Two pop socks are more slippery that one thick sock IF the shoe isn't rubbing them to ladder them.


    It would be good to wear the shoes for a little time every day, starting with twenty minutes a day, then forty, then an hour , then maybe building up to two hours a day. If you could get used to pottering around in them for four hours a day your skin would get 'a bit tougher'


    Baby soft feet are lovely. Blisters and pain are NOT.
  • Thank you, LIR! I do love the fact that I have feet as smooth as a child's but I do not like the agony from even slippers! I didn't think of buying shoes a size bigger or using powder and pop socks. I shall give that a try. The state of my feet after the last hospital appointment was atrocious and I had only worn shoes for a couple of hours and was mostly sitting down. My toes were bleeding and I had blisters on both heels, and I have another appointment in 2 weeks so need a solution!.
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
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