Just needed to be heard for a little while

DUKE

lostinrates wrote: »

My alarm is set for six ( when I do birds and dogs ATM)

I will check in then. And one else up we can have a morning cup of whatever we drink in the morning together.


How is Dibuzz??

Whatever we drink in the morning reminded me of breakfast time on a trip to Austria some years back, one woman helped herself to a beer at 7am thinking it was orange juice :rotfl:

DUKE

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

Oh, and amusingly mindfulness techniques were a total disaster.

Focus on your body and feel its sensations-pain! liver failure!

Focus on your thoughts-sheer blind panic that I am about to die!

Focus on your breathing-can't breathe! dying right now.

Focus on the room around you-everything is spinning because I am dizzy! Dying again!

And so it continued...

I actually laughed to myself how utterly useless that was. It goes to show that you need varying techniques and therapies for different times!

elsien wrote: »

Your mindfulness post did make me chuckle. I've tried mindfulness a couple of time and both times I think I spent the (short) session wondering how long until the alarm to tell me I'd done my time would go off. And wondering what Gitdog was up that he shouldn't be in my absence.

Oh don't get me started on mindfulness & breathing .... I too completely forget after a very short time as my mind wonders/wanders off onto completely useless thoughts

DUKE

Soz about all of that, had a bad experience with multi-quote

Hope everyone's as well as can be today.

Hi & welcome to newTEAMWaSSERS Or should that be TEAMWaSerliques? Ignore me I'm confused.

Feel a bit off today, was going to google but feel too weak. At least I've been able to sit quietly & catch up, again.

Thanks everyone for Harry's welcome, you're all so very kind. I had to laugh when we were having our meal on Friday, he said that it was noisy in the place but he didn't mind as it was giving them (points to head, talking about the voices) a taste of their own medicine. He looked quite triumphant too:)

I prefer counselling to meds, what do others think? Although I understand that some people really do have to take their meds, or both. I do quite enjoy counselling, does that sound weird? But sometimes I go in feeling normal-ish & come out thinking that I have all sorts wrong with me. I've been told that I can have trauma counselling once I've managed my breathing & mindfulness, but, I'm scared. Some things I believe (for me) are best left. I don't even think that I have trauma to be honest. Any thoughts on the matter will be gratefully received.

lostinrates

I think Harry was brave. . Hope he visits again soon.

Waves_and_Smiles

As far as counselling goes, Duke it is always your choice. Counselling doesn't work for everyone as I have said. The only time someone really needs a talking therapy is a) If they are willing to do it (that is a big one, the best therapist in the world can't help someone who isn't receptive) b) Their life is being changed in a way that they don't like by their thoughts and/or actions c) If they wish to understand more about themselves. If someone's day to day life isn't being affected by what they went through in a way that they would like to change then there is no need for therapy no matter how big their trauma.In my case I needed both therapy and medication, one for the emotional PTSD and one for the Biochemical imbalance. I also quite enjoyed counselling, I have always been curious about how the mind works hence my degree.

It can be scary at the beginning but a therapist can only work with what you give them. The client is in control, and you don't have to tell them anything that you don't wish to discuss. Obviously sometimes this might backfire if you have something ruining your life and don't share it but even in my case for my first 9 years of therapy I never shared my OCD symptoms. I told someone later when I was more willing to face it so the control was always mine. You don't have to tell them anything you don't wish to, Duke. It is entirely in your hands.

Good on Harry! Drown those voices out!

Aww, thank you for your kind words, I feel better now (and I am drinking a glass of water Solar!). I love the idea that everything is connected and moves onto other forms, that does make me feel better.

Part of the giving personalities to inanimate objects is years of conditioning from my parents and also as whitewing said it is also connected to never having a friend as a child. I didn't form relationships with real people so all of my toys became the ones I would imagine as my friends, all my feelings about learning to socialise as a child went onto them. Most children grow out of this as they find real life friends but as I never had any I kept it up. Now I have done it for so long that it is a part of me.

I could get frustrated with myself about how easily the childhood things still trigger me but I try not to. Other than my teacher friend and my therapist I had almost no interaction with anyone else outside the family until I was 15. That is a long time to be conditioned into believing often odd things. It is a lot better than it was back then but there are still triggers and scars and to an extent there always will be.

Waves_and_Smiles

Ok, don't whether to laugh or cry (I am opting for laughing). It seems my way of giving personalities to things has now been reclassified from a quirk to a recognised condition.

"For some people, in addition to numbers and other ordinal sequences, objects are sometimes imbued with a sense of personality. Recent research has begun to show that alphanumeric personification co-varies with other forms of synesthesia, and is consistent and automatic, as required to be considered a form of synesthesia.

Funnily enough I do see numbers in my head in colours and 3D patterns which is another symptom of the same condition.

whitewing

I took DD to the park today. It was so windy that the clouds were racing across the sky and it was impossible to think. It was warm still though. I know you can't go out WaS, but I am wondering if these kind of weather conditions would help Harry.

Proper blow-your-cobwebs-away weather. It was wonderful.

I am amazed at how much difference playing in the park every day is making to DD's social and emotional development, let alone her physical skills. A lot of it is to do with being there with such an age range of people. Having me or DH with her gives us the chance to discuss behaviour with her at home too.

I know you lot will know this already but it still surprises me. It makes me sad too for the children that miss out.

haybel19

Hey *waves* at everyone.

Sorry for being AWOL. Little miss is still quite poorly and feeling sorry for herself. Debating taken her back to GP tomorrow. Lots of mummy cuddles, dvds and a prescription to sleep in the big bed (mine and daddy's) along with all her medicines seem to be helping however. No one is getting much sleep, as little one waking often as feels so rubbish bless her.

Max is feeling very sorry for himself. He could not go to vets yesterday as they had a an emergency on so no appointments. (Limited crew on a saturday) as not an emergency he is booked in tomorrow morning for the earliest possible appointment. He too wants mummy and daddy cuddles. He is eating and drinking well, just needs some magic medicine for his ear.

I am doing ok - overtired and fragile and still suffering a little bit with the PTSD but that will fade. It would have been far worse if I had to return to the wards concerned - rather than just the hospital itself.

Hope everyone is doing ok.

Waves_and_Smiles

That's wonderful whitewing, she sounds like she is doing great! Well done to you, too for keeping up the daily visits. Socialisation is hugely important for children, DD will be learning new things every day.

We had lots of storms, rain and wind here and it was wonderful. I was happily in bed enjoying the sounds and the breeze from the open window. Then I got disturbed by a huge "OUCH!" from WaSp as our metal blind in the living room apparently blew inwards and whacked him around the head. He has a tiny cut on his forehead and I didn't giggle too much, honestly.

Aw, hang in there, haybel. You are doing such a good job at caring for your little one, you must be so exhausted by now. Please give her and Max a cuddle from me and have a hug for yourself, too.

whitewing

My husband loves slapstick comedy and always laughs if I fall over or bash myself. I'm sure he'd still laugh if I cut my arm off.

haybel, hope little one and max feel hugely better tonight. I chug along okay now most days but a few nights of disturbed sleep take me downhill very quickly.

DD has actually got a double bed (not on purpose at the time). It does mean at least one of us adults would get a reasonable sleep, depending on work schedules etc.