Just needed to be heard for a little while

Waves_and_Smiles

Therapy doesn't work for everyone. Different things help people cope with things, WaSp, for example would never go to support groups or therapy to cope with being a carer. He finds talking through things just depresses him and makes him dwell on it more plus he finds it very intrusive. He finds making lists of what needs to be done and working systematically through them works much better for him. He is very practical and prefers to deal with things in that way with a more black and white approach rather than therapy which is all about the grey areas.

How frustrating with your friend, LIR. Some people do attend therapy and then feel the need to discuss it with the world. That is actually damaging in some respects to the work that they are doing, therapy is meant to be the individual working out how to process and approach things by bouncing ideas off of the therapist, not getting others opinions on whether they are heading in the right direction or not. One thing I was taught when I has psychotherapy was to keep what was said in the session between me and my therapist, others with differing views could have undermined the work that we were doing.

You are totally correct to keep saying that you can't deal with it right now. One of the biggest things most people learn in therapy is how to build boundaries for themselves and with others. Although it sometimes feels as if we have the biggest problems in the world particularly when revisiting them in a therapeutic environment in fact everyone has a story. We all have bad bits in our lives that have caused us pain and if someone is willing to listen we all can talk about something that has affected our lives negatively. Part of the therapy process is to learn to respect that everyone has times when they don't have the energy to support others and that isn't rejection or abusive in any way.

Waves_and_Smiles

I used to listen to audio books quite a lot. They are safer for me than reading, with fictional words on a page I will just drift into my imagination and start believing the story is really happening. With audio books I have to pay attention and there are no pauses for me to drift so it used to work better, of course there are non-fictional audio books too. I don't actually have anything to play them on right now but it is a good idea for the hours before sleep as long as the voices don't drown them out. Thank you, I think I need to save for a cheap Mp3 player and try it again.

whitewing

I've never done it, but you may be able to download audiobooks from the library onto your PC for a small fee.

Pyxis

LIR, you can't give someone a drink of water from your cup, if your cup is empty.
Sometimes you just have to step back from others, so that you can recharge yourself. You can't help anybody when you are depleted yourself.
You have to conserve your strength for yourself and your OH. When you are feeling less fragile, that's when you'll be able to help that person, so don't feel guilty that you are trying to get yourself well first. :A

System

Pyxis wrote: »

LIR, you can't give someone a drink of water from your cup, if your cup is empty.
Sometimes you just have to step back from others, so that you can recharge yourself. You can't help anybody when you are depleted yourself.
You have to conserve your strength for yourself and your OH. When you are feeling less fragile, that's when you'll be able to help that person, so don't feel guilty that you are trying to get yourself well first. :A

This has really struck a chord with me tonight, won't bore you all with the details but shall be in the corner, lurking under a blanket as i'm feeling a bit fragile

Waves_and_Smiles

Aw, MU. Have a hug or a warm handshake, whichever you prefer. Sorry you feel a bit fragile, you can share Sir Pugliet if you wish, he has enough comfort for two!

Pyxis

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

Aw, MU. Have a hug or a warm handshake, whichever you prefer. Sorry you feel a bit fragile, you can share Sir Pugliet if you wish, he has enough comfort for two!

Yes, and you won't even have to share your blanket with him, 'cos he's got his own!

Waves_and_Smiles

Hahahahahaha, I am really going to see if my fingers will still knit. He really does need a little blanket of his own, did I mention that I took him to my last hospital appointment? He has to have a blanket for the car!

Pyxis

Seems he's not alone! (I told you blankets are the latest fashion trend!)




And it even looks like dog dog is joining in!

Waves_and_Smiles

Hahahaha so cute! I do love your photo's Pyxis, I go back and look at them quite a lot and they either calm me or make giggle, either is good!