Just needed to be heard for a little while

seven-day-weekend

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

Thank you! I honestly couldn't have done it without everyone here, you have all been such a great support to me. You have listened, offered good advice, supported me and made me laugh. That was honestly one of the worse episodes for years and you all got me through it. I am so, so grateful.

Now I am slightly worried that I might die but slightly is a massive improvement! I have stopped shaking and my hands aren't soaking wet anymore and I don't feel nauseous constantly. I will be asking for help again in the next few days to put together for a plan for when this happens again, I still think what made it so bad was I had absolutely no coping plan in mind so I was just reeling and grasping at anything all the way through it.

A special thank you to SDW for popping on at night, too. It has been a comfort the last few days to know that someone was there even though I was sleeping. My partner has restless leg syndrome which drives him insane. He isn't medicated for it though, perhaps I need to send him to the doctors (he hates going).

I got to the stage where I was getting no sleep, I had to do something. There are several drugs licensed for RLS. For me I was prescribed ropinirole and the relief was instant. I recommend he visits the doctor.

(ETA: as whitewing mentions above, it can be caused by iron and/or magnesium deficiency. The doctor needs to test for these first. My ferrotin and magnesium levels are fine however, so there is no obvious cause for me ).

elsien

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I hope I have not spoken out of turn by saying this, I will delete it if so, but just wanted to say that this thread has really helped both me and my husband to get some insight into his thoughts.

Please don't delete anything. You really haven't spoken out of turn, that's one of the reasons this thread is here and keeps going from strength to strength, people getting insights from each other and supporting each other. Post away, any time you want. And I hope now your husband has acknowledged there is a problem he is able to get some proper help for it.

whitewing

Quite a few members of my family hate going /won't go to the doctor's. I'm not entirely sure why but I think it is to do with them not coming away on their first visit with a magic solution.

I definitely find it worth having a bit of a google and then asking whether something is relevant to me. I read online when I was pregnant that vitamin K is given when their is obstetric cholestasis to help clotting at birth. I asked in the hospital and they said no, but then a day or two later they had asked another hospital and gave me a prescription. Of course, the downside is overworrying about something.

Waves_and_Smiles

You haven't spoken out of turn at all, SDW. I am so pleased that the thread helped you address how your husband feels. Intrusive thoughts are horrible and very damaging to your self-esteem. If you manage to block one you get another until you are distracting almost all of the time in an effort to stop thinking. My heart really goes out to him, they are exhausting and you feel completely stuck in a circle of thinking with no end.

I had therapy for mine and although they drift in and out during the day they are only really bad in the couple of hours before I sleep. There is a lot of treatments out there for them, it is a question of finding one that works for your husband. As I have said in my case visualisation helps me most, I literally bury or throw the thoughts away in my mind. I send all kind thoughts to him for a good outcome, you can learn to control them and with guidance through therapy he should be able to get some relief.

elsien

I'm a doctor refusenik. When I had stress related depression a few years back, I only went because I was unable to work and needed a sicknote - it took him weeks to persuade me that anti-depressants wouldn't be physically or psychologically addictive. I always feel like I'm wasting their time and if I leave it, things will get better on their own. Which so far, generally speaking they have - depression aside. I've been very lucky healthwise.

seven-day-weekend

elsien wrote: »

Please don't delete anything. You really haven't spoken out of turn, that's one of the reasons this thread is here and keeps going from strength to strength, people getting insights from each other and supporting each other. Post away, any time you want. And I hope now your husband has acknowledged there is a problem he is able to get some proper help for it.

Thanks so much, how kind, it will help if I can talk about things here as I usually have to be the emotionally strong one in our relationship. Not that I mind, I am there for him whenever and wherever he needs me, but sometimes it would be nice just to be able to share things.

seven-day-weekend

WaS, how kind you are to care about my husband. Thank you so much xxxx

Waves_and_Smiles

WaSp had to be forced by me through intense nagging to go to the hospital when he scratched his cornea, he was in agony but still wouldn't go. He is up and down most nights with restless legs, it is very hard for him to settle and has been this way for over a year now. He hates doctors so much that he isn't even registered where we live now, he is still under the doctor we moved away from 6 years ago. I feel a period of gentle persuasion coming on...

You are always welcome to share things here, SDW. We all support each other and just as you have helped me I would always try to do the same for you.

lostinrates

I am iatrophobic. Haven't always been, just over recent years, going and the news always being bad gets wearing. I see it as entirely logical even though I know its not!

So I under stand not wanting to go to the doctors. However, doesn't help much really.

Sdw, I really hope he finds help. Personally, I don't want talking therapy, I had it in the past for a particular reason and didn't find it helpful. Ironically someone close to me is having talking therapy and calls me week
Y to discuss, EVEN though I have told them I cannot really deal with it right now. Its pushing buttons for me on chapters of things I have long since closed and its creating difficulty in the relationship. Every week I have to say no, and then be told the counsellor has said that all their relationships are unsatisfactory and abusive and un giving and unfulfilling and no one cares about them. And every week I feel like writing to the bloody counsellor and asking if they ever wonder if other people have stuff going on in lives too and other takes on these 'traumas' that make them hard to revisit on someone else's schedule.

Woah, maybe my happy pill isn't working so well tonight, eh? I feel fine

whitewing

WaS, I know you said you can't read books because you get too involved in the story.

I wondered if it would be different if you listened to audio books? Whether that would be more like listening to someone tell their story to you so it stays as their story rather than becomes yours?

I know when I am reading, I will put a book down and daydream, but if you were listening to a story, it would go at the pace of the narrator.