Just needed to be heard for a little while

Pyxis

WaS, let it all out with the crying, but remember, none of that was your fault! You ARE a very kind and loving person, you have not hurt anyone or anything.

Sponges can't be hurt by having a bit stuck in a drawer. Why? Because they bounce back! Squeeze a sponge and let go...... It bounces back! It positively revels in being squeezed, because it loves to bounce back! It is what sponges do! You can't hurt them, you just give them a good time!

The balloon doll is the same. What is better for a balloon? To deflate slowly over time, diminishing bit by bit, ending up a shrivelled parody of its former self, or to go out with a BANG! magnificently! Making everyone look up and laugh!

The toys that went to a jumble sale were overjoyed to be going to new homes, to be played with all over again by new children, and making money for charity on the way! They much preferred that to being stuck in the toy cupboard doing nothing because you'd grown a bit older. Your mother was wrong. She didn't understand them at all.
The toys thanked you!

Your father and mother dying was NOT because of you. Definitely, definitely not. All people die eventually. And never because of you. Trust us when we tell you that.

Big hug for you!

DUKE

haybel19 wrote: »

Yes I did - I would love to post it but I do not know how.

Haha that sounds like a great plan when it comes to cake. Do you hide the Christmas chocolates too?

oldestgnome wrote: »

Haybel to add a picture you need to save the picture on one of the free picture sharing sites (like photo bucket) then on advanced message there is a picture icon at the top under the smilies icon that looks like a postcard you select that and add the link to your picture. Hope that makes sense!

Pyxis wrote: »

For multiple quotes you click on the little balloon icon next to the 'quote' button. Do that for the posts you want to quote, and then press the 'post reply' button.

I've found I can't do more than three quotes at a time, don't know why!






With all these things on WaS's cake, it's going to have to be HUGE!

Oh yes thanks it works, just testing

My husband eats them all haybel.

jobbingmusician

Yes, another reminder here - when you let things go, they are going to another new life, full of opportunities And being compressed, if you're a sponge, is like going to the gym for us - good exercise.

Yours, damply - JM

(When I went to the shower this morning, the tent took the opportunity to show me where it would drip on my bedding if I left it as it was. Not a major leak but it would have been nasty if left like that. I have now moved all my bedding into the smaller bit of the tent [it has 2 rooms, touch of the glamping] and made sure every zip is securely fastened. I will sleep in my 'dressing room' tonight if the main room shows me it leaks even with zips fastened, which I don't think it will.)

Pyxis

Oh dear! Poor you, JM! How much longer will you be there?
Is the worst over?

Solarjunkie

Oh WaS, how cruel of your mother to look on the negative so much! Oddly, she seemed to be more concerned about inanimate objects than her animate daughter. I love Pyxsis' explanation, it is certainly the way I see things, inanimate objects don't exactly have feelings, more maybe a place in the cosmos? Everything is somewhere on the wheel of life, everything evolves into something else, seashells into limestone into marble into statues into sand into sandstone into building blocks! Passing on your toys to another home is definitely enabling them to continue on that wheel. Think of maybe a rag doll, from plant to thread to fabric to dress to rag doll to cushion stuffing to compost to soil to plant ..........

I love the idea of a sponge gym! :j

(drink!)

DUKE

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

Ok, soppy moment everyone. I have been thinking for a while about changing the first post. This thread is no longer just about me (bit of a relief, I am not a centre of attention type person) but is about everyone who posts and lurks. We have become quite a team (that includes you lurkers!) and I think we all deserve acknowledgement for that. So I have edited my first post to make it OUR thread, to make it hopefully more welcoming to new people and to thank you all for all the times you have been there for me.

Hugs and warm handshakes to everyone xxx

Aaaw that's lovely WaS, I actually er removed some of my early posts as I was thinking that I'd turned it into all about me .... Also like I said before I didn't want it to make Harry (he's my brother, & he ain't heavy, soz can't help it) feel worse if he was on here & reading about himself.

Racing to catch up, must keep up!

whitewing

I particularly love your post, solarjunkie, about the circle of life.

And Harry being your brother, Duke, it feels like such a family on here.

DUKE

adindas wrote: »

I am listening and keep reading your post. Please keep talking ...

Hi adindas, soz for the delay I'm always 2 years behind everyone else

elsien

jobbingmusician wrote: »

Yours, damply - JM

(When I went to the shower this morning, the tent took the opportunity to show me where it would drip on my bedding if I left it as it was. Not a major leak but it would have been nasty if left like that. I have now moved all my bedding into the smaller bit of the tent [it has 2 rooms, touch of the glamping] and made sure every zip is securely fastened. I will sleep in my 'dressing room' tonight if the main room shows me it leaks even with zips fastened, which I don't think it will.)

Think of it more as an ensuite (en-tent?) shower - you could have had a wash there and then instead of having to head over to the shower block.


WaS, hope you wake up feeling better and pointing that warm handshake right back in your direction.
What knitting did you used to do? I used to like doing baby stuff because it looked quite impressive quite quickly! Doing a cardy for myself took far too long and I'd get bored with it whereas knitting for the nieces and nephews when they were little made me look as if I was super knitter.
Although I can just picture the looks on their faces if I offered to knit for the teenage nieces now. I'd have to nick a superdry label or something and sew it in. :rotfl:


I have vaguely thought of doing some knitting to pass on elsewhere and to get rid of some surplus wool - maybe that's something you might consider further down the line if you get back into it? There's a thread on here somewhere - knit your square to do your share, or something like that. Would be good to see my bits of wool getting some use instead of sitting in the bottom of a drawer. So far it's only got as far as a vague thought though. I haven't yet tested Gitdog and balls of wool in the same room although I have a fair idea of how it is likely to turn out.......

whitewing

I wonder if the giving feelings to inanimate objects was simply part of a very sensible survival strategy for you, WaS.

Obviously it was prompted by what your mother and father said. You incorporated it into your views (I did similar, but not to your extent). It would make sense to me that humans are primed to develop as social beings. If that socialisation is interrupted for any reason (isolation, loneliness etc), then we would compensate by building that social environment the best that we can, and it would reflect the thoughts and feelings that we were having at the time. You also have to be creative to be able to do it.

Apart from your autobiography, I wonder if you could write a shorter, simpler children's book - maybe about hearing voices. What would you say about it to your younger self? (Not necessarily the child hearing voices - maybe an adult close to them).