Mother of the Bride outfit

gingin_2

Is it not safe to assume that the mother discussed with her daughter ( the bride) what she was going to wear and the bride approved of it? I can't think of an instance where a MOB wouldn't discuss what she was going to wear unless there was a massive rift, in which case I would assume she wouldn't be at the wedding?

I'm guessing the bride said "yeah mum, you look great" and no one but you and the registrars made an issue of it.

I genuinely don't get it.

Nicki

I would be mortified if the mother of the bride or groom had to check what I was wearing beforehand to make sure I understood the dress code! Perhaps they took one look at granny in her leggings and biker boots and decided she would have no idea how to dress for a formal wedding...

A year ago maxi dresses were very fashionable, so a floor length purple dress sounds very elegant to me, and it is also very normal for female guests to accessorise their outfits with shrugs and wraps at weddings.

At the end of the day there was a dress code and the woman you are slagging off didn't just know the dress code the bride wanted but was tasked with trying to ensure it was upheld. The fact you dressed down doesn't make her a "chav"! The mother of the bride in any event is supposed to look fabulous on the day. Every wedding I've ever been to both sets of parents have made a big effort with what they wear because they were celebrating along with their offspring.

Nicki

Quick search on the leading British bridal magazine for suggested mother of the bride outfits has a lot of full length purple gowns, most of them stunning

http://www.bridesmagazine.co.uk/fashion/mothers

Tiddlywinks

meritaten wrote: »

In the photos she just looks 'naff'. that's my opinion. I know she 'organised' the wedding, I think she wanted attention on her - not the bride and she got it.
that so many of you think that dress codes should be ignored, that you should turn up wearing any old tatt, and the bride should be grateful you came..............words fail me.

Gosh, do you realise how jealous and spiteful you sound?

By the way, it's not that most of us feel that dress codes should be ignored... it's more that we feel that the MOB had every right to dress to reflect her personality.

Who are you to set yourself above her as her judge in the fashion stakes.

What's it to you anyway? Mind yours and let the bride mind hers!

stebiz

What a load of crap. It's a wedding. An occasion when two people who love each other commit to spending the rest of their lives together. Nothing about bits of cloth we were to cover up.

seven-day-weekend

cazziebo wrote: »

How nasty! Why does it matter to you or anyone else what someone wore to an event. If the MOB liked it and felt happy in it then good for her. It was her daughter's wedding, probably as momentous an event in her life as it is in her daughter's. OP - you should read this article by Sarah Millican and reflect.

As for the scoring, if a civil servant told me that's how they behaved I would have been minded to put in a formal complaint. It's a wedding !!!!!! - a happy occasion, not a b!tchfest.

PS Purple and green - suffragette colours - go together beautifully!

Absolutely brilliant Sarah Millican article.

My friend is soon to be the MOB. She has bought a dress, hat and shoes from Marks and Spencer. She likes them her, daughter likes them. They look nice on. She is still worrying that they are not 'posh' enough.

I told her that as long as she and the couple were happy, what did it matter what other people thought? And I think it is so important that she feels comfortable in whatever she wears. I told her they look lovely.

I don't have a daughter, but if I did, I would want to wear at her wedding something that still enabled me to feel like me (obviously something she liked too). It could possibly be a long purple dress, as I love both long dresses and purple.

No-one else's business. Certainly not the registrar's. How unprofessional.

(ETA: THere you are - I would wear something like this: http://www.dylanqueen.co.uk/a-line-v-neck-floor-length-chiffon-mother-of-the-bride-dresses.html?catid=51 )

thorsoak

When I was about to become "mother of the bride" in 1990, I was told, you help your daughter organise the wedding, you share the joy of choosing everything and the stress of organising it; you choose what colour you wear and you are in the foreground. When you mother of the groom, you were beige and stay in the background!

pollypenny

Meri was asking for opinions. She is not a nasty person as regular posters know.

Her point is that this woman looked out of place. I can see it.

poet123

Maxi dresses for MOB wear are quite common, they are in many of the more upmarket bridal outlets and come from many of the well known designer MOB labels.

I think the OP was quite judgemental, and the officials were way out of line sharing their "game".

I have a part time business and I sell a lot of high end designer MOBs suits and dresses many of them are full length. If the OP shops for wedding outfits on the high street then she may not be aware of this trend.

FBaby

In the photos she just looks 'naff'. that's my opinion. I know she 'organised' the wedding, I think she wanted attention on her - not the bride and she got it.
that so many of you think that dress codes should be ignored, that you should turn up wearing any old tatt, and the bride should be grateful you came..............words fail me

The bold part strikes as bitterness at the fact that she did. What so wrong with getting attention on her. As I've said, my sister certainly got plenty of attention at my wedding but it didn't bother me at all, on the opposite. I don't feel comfortable being the centre of attention, so I loved it that someone else distracted it a bit (and still got plenty anyway).

It didn't cross my mind for a second that she did it to 'steal' attention from me. Giving attention is expandable, you can give plenty to different people or none to anyone.

I find it interesting that in all your posts, not once you have mentioned how the bride and groom felt about it as surely, that's all that mattered isn't it?