Feeling lonely

tayforth

rosie_78 wrote: »

Still getting used to it. Though it's been ages now. I like sitting on the big sofa now which I wasn't able to before.

That's a nice novelty, isnt it? I sit anywhere I want now. I sleep in the middle of the bed. It's a kind of freedom xx

rosie_78 wrote: »

yes it is weird how our minds work. I think locking up the house also scares me. though I have no issue with walking around in the dark, sometimes im scared of it?


hope you're ok Tay xx xx

Thank you, rosie xxxx

And thanks also for the sorbet recipe, which I am going to try out at my mum's this weekend. It looks so good!

TreacleTracy

For anyone feeling lonely I recently posted a thread in the UK holiday section for a weekend away - I have booked a place in Norfolk for the weekend and just need around 15 others to come along, just for an escape away from the norm..... I used to do this regular before I had a baby and they were always good fun. Come along if you fancy it?!

System

Hi Rosie how are you today?
You and Pyxis talking of birds has made me notice them more
I'm lucky enough to have Red Kites locally, they're amazing, so graceful in flight I'd like to see one close-up but they never seem to land!

Zully

Deanied wrote: »

Try XXXXXXXX If you live in or near a big city there tends to be more going on than in more rural areas. There are lots of groups for lots of different interests.

Thank you SO much for posting this link, I think you just saved my sanity


I found with my last breakup I had absolutely no enthusiasm whatsoever for anything, took me ages to start getting back into things and pushing myself out my comfort zone to meet people and frankly, to do anything except mope at home.


it gets easier

dogcat_2

I think you can be lonely....anytime, even when you have a large family. I have never had many friends..not really through choice, just never really happened. I have moved several times in my life, due to divorce..bad neighbours etc. and I think sometimes the so called 'friends' just drift away when you move as I think lots of people are lazy when it comes to keeping in contact. I've always thought that it would be nice to have a really close friend who would always be there for me...and me for them...but it's never really happened... And I can't see it happening now at my age!:o

Pyxis

rosyq wrote: »

Hi Rosie how are you today?
You and Pyxis talking of birds has made me notice them more
I'm lucky enough to have Red Kites locally, they're amazing, so graceful in flight I'd like to see one close-up but they never seem to land!

Red kites!!! Lucky lucky you! I've never seen one!
Try some binoculars?

oldestgnome

rosyq wrote: »

Hi Rosie how are you today?
You and Pyxis talking of birds has made me notice them more
I'm lucky enough to have Red Kites locally, they're amazing, so graceful in flight I'd like to see one close-up but they never seem to land!

At Ladds garden centre in Harehatch they have a number of beautiful British (and further afield) birds of prey including a Red Kite you can see up close for free (you can give a donation) they also do amazing hands on experiences that pop up on Groupon every so often - I did one a few months ago it was awesome!


http://www.feathersandfur.co.uk/

Pyxis

oldestgnome wrote: »

At Ladds garden centre in Harehatch they have a number of beautiful British (and further afield) birds of prey including a Red Kite you can see up close for free (you can give a donation) they also do amazing hands on experiences that pop up on Groupon every so often - I did one a few months ago it was awesome!
http://www.feathersandfur.co.uk/

Yes! I treated myself to something similar about three years ago. Super opportunity! No red kites, though.

going_nowhere_fast

I dont feel lonely, have come to enjoy my own company, but i have and do experience feeling alone if that makes sense.

I have a small family and although there is no ill feeling between us we are not close. I long for the kind of relationship that others have with their family - a phone call just to moan about work or tell me about something funny that happened during their day, chat about what they are up to over the weekend or what they watched on tv etc but i have come to the conclusion you cant force people to be like that with you. We dont even spend christmas or new year together. I spend it at home, just me and my lo.

I have one friend who i see every few weeks and a few i see once or twice a year for a meal. I lost all my friends during my last relationship and its harder to make friends as an adult.

Im very independant so dont want constant companionship i.e. im not needy but it would be nice to have an occasional phone call or visit.

Gigervamp

going_nowhere_fast wrote: »

its harder to make friends as an adult.

I remember when I was on holiday once with my children. We were sitting at a train station in the South of France and my kids were playing with some toy cars and another child came up and just started playing with them. It struck me then, that kids don't worry about formalities. They'll just wander up to each other and play together.

If you did that as an adult, just wander up to someone and join in the convo or whatever, people would think it very odd and rude! It's a bit of a shame really, it would certainly make making friends easier.