How do you cope when you can't move?

Bassmunkeh

Btw has anyone suggested reporting your neighbours to the council? Is it worth a shot?

Ashagill

I live in a beautiful area, in my lovely childhood home. Unfortunately I'm 27 and having got a useless degree, work part time in my chosen industry for not much at all per hour, and still live at home with family. I am often really restless and very depressed still living under my mothers rule she still treats me like a child and I am not allowed to have friends over, have my long term 30 year old partner in my bedroom etc. The only solace I have found is by working as many hours as I can and spending as many hours with my friends and my partner, going to classes/workshops (free ones!) library events, volunteering at local theaters all until I can finish training for a higher paid industry.

Sighh.
I feel you though brer.

I can vouch for earplugs. My mum is hard of hearing and has very loud conversations outside my door at 7AM with my brother. Earplugs are the only thing that have worked.

slenderkitten

hi have you a complained directly to neighbours and/or complained to their landlords or the council. These days some councils offer a night service where they can listen to noise at night, or you could set up a video camera or your smart phone or a good enough phone to record what is going on.

cupboardie

My advice would be to use earplugs when sleeping and to block out the noise during the day. Or listen to music/TV using earphones or earplugs and headphones. I bought a headphone extension lead for two pounds from ebay so my headphones/earphones stretch to the TV.

It's not ideal but it's preferable to getting constanty wound up and growing a tumour!!!

Boppersmum

happyinflorida wrote: »

Possibly if you own your house and can't move, rent it out and rent somewhere yourself so you can move?

As happy in Florida quite cleverly says, could you rent your house out to someone else and use that money to rent somewhere else for you to live in until you get your finances sorted?

I did this when I wanted to move miles away from London for a while but I didn't want to let my little house go as I knew I would never be able to afford to move back with the house prices rising. It worked for me.

Perhaps you could rent it to the Local Housing Association? They don't pay top rates for rent but they do guarantee the rent for 2-3 years and look after the administration of it all.

I know it's not ideal , it takes a bit of sorting out and you would have to speak to your mortgage company, sort out the tax side of it and get landlords insurance etc but a decent letting agent or someone from Citizens advice would help you through the process.

At least that way even if you ended up living somewhere smaller for a while ( I moved from a 3 bed house to a 2 bed flat) it would be somehere you chose to live and you would get some peace of mind.

Good luck and keep your chin up... even the longest tunnel has a light at the end

gallygirl

Boppersmum wrote: »

As happy in Florida quite cleverly says, could you rent your house out to someone else and use that money to rent somewhere else for you to live in until you get your finances sorted?

OP has already answered this on several occasions:

going_nowhere_fast wrote: »

I looked at moving to rented earlier in the year and it wouldnt help for several reasons. I wouldnt be entitled to any financial help towards the rent which would be double my mortgage unless my house was repossesed.

I couldnt rent my own house out because the only people who would choose to live here are undesirables - i think my lovely house would end up trashed.

And finally if i did rent my budget would only allow for a small terraced in the kind of area im trying to get away from so im likely to experience the same problems.

Also the rental income would be taxable (albeit after mortgage interest etc deducted) making the gap even bigger.

Good luck OP, keep on keeping on :T

cupboardie

Please keep updating us if you find it helps.

winnoch

Hey. A few things worth mentioning about housing. Forgive me if this has already been said; i've only read a few pages of posts.

There's terraced housing and there's terraced housing; If your future move can only be to more terraced housing, try your hardest to get an end terraced house. That way, it's almost like a semi-detached house, in that you only have to suffer noise from one end and should have at least one or two rooms no directly connected to anyone.

Again for the future; consider moving far, far out of the city and commuting in. I did this when I bought my flat because property prices tend to plummet the further you are from the city and the cost of travelling is usually far less than the difference in property prices. What i'm saying, is that in a few years you actually may be able to afford a detached house if you choose somewhere a bit out of the way and off the beaten track; you may need to cycle or drive to the nearest bus stop or train station, but if it means getting a place you couldn't otherwise afford, well worth it?

In terms of 'now'. As well as earplugs, consider white noise. I work nightshifts and to block out random daytime noise I have radios un-tuned to give out a loud hiss and I have fans on. I try to cover as many frequencies as possible (white noise from big speakers for the bass to drown out thumps and bangs) and it leaves me in a cocoon of my own noise, which is predictable and far preferable to other people's unpredictable noise in my opinion!

going_nowhere_fast

Thank you for all your posts. I havent been on mse for a while.

Im still fed up but keep thinking of the end goal. Paying debts, saving here and there (pennies make pounds as they say) and reminding myself that every mortgage payment 50% is coming off the actual mortgage so is adding to the equity.

Feels like its going to take forever to move.

Have taken a posters advice and have bern making my house cosier so its nice to be in, if you ignore external factors. Still need big things like new sofa but have done the smaller easier things.

Was following another thread where they had spent time and money soundproofing their bedroom and it didnt work.

going_nowhere_fast

Struggling today. Had a lovely evening at a friends house then came back here - the noise is making me snappy and irritable. Have tv on upstairs and downstairs to try and mask it.

Must remember this isnt forever...