I really messed up this time

time2deal

introubleneedhelp wrote: »

i have done a dna test and waiting on the results. i honestly did not want her to get pregnant, she already had two kids with two different men who are absent so i am now the third now and i am going to stick around for my child

Then you shouldn't have slept with her. Are you aware how babies are made?

quidsy

If your feelings for your ex were as amazing & true as you are now claiming, you wouldn't have been flirting on text & getting naked pics from another women. You have warped the actual reality, you never loved your ex, you just thought you did. True story.

Time to jog on.

introubleneedhelp

aileth wrote: »

I would've broken up with you even if I did believe it was 'just' flirting and naked pictures.

i do not blame her for breaking up with me, i was a real a-hole. i know. i just want to make it better. i know she is hurting right now and i feel so bad. i have started drinking every day to take the pain away, i cant sleep, eat and i kno wi messed up. i just really regret everything and i hate myself for doing this to the woman i love.
i sent her this email, dont know if she got it or if she'll respond.

"The first time Ifell in love with you is what u feel every single day . I can't stop thinkingabout u and it drives me crazy ( honestly not knowing if ur with someone ) .I'm just gonna be totally honest . I really hope I can see u on Friday . Ishall not be messaging u anymore cos I feel like it's getting too much . Willbe waiting for ur confirmation for Friday at some point "

i just want to spend as much time with her as possible so that she can see i have changed. i dont even mind fighting with her because i would rather be with her and fight than not be with her at all

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shegirl

You cannot make it better.Nothing in the world can remove or blank out what you have done to either woman.

Some may 'forgive' but imo this is too much to forgive and there was no real relationship to fix for forgiveness.

Leave her alone and let them both find someone who deserves them

pollypenny

Let us know when you're on Jeremy Kyle, OP. :cool:

introubleneedhelp

quidsy wrote: »

April 1st you say?

first friday of april. we supposed to meet up on the fourth and she found out on the 1st
she said the she thought it was an april fools joke being played on her

19lottie82

introubleneedhelp wrote: »

i know everyone is being honest and i know i should leave my ex alone but i cant. i honestly dont think i will be able to be happy without her.

Well, do her a favour and try. You're being selfish. You've hurt the poor girl enough. You have a daughter now to someone else, that won't disappear.

Let her get on with her life and be happy with someone else, who will treat her how she deserves

thorsoak

introubleneedhelp wrote: »

i do not blame her for breaking up with me, i was a real a-hole. i know. i just want to make it better. i know she is hurting right now and i feel so bad. i have started drinking every day to take the pain away, i cant sleep, eat and i kno wi messed up. i just really regret everything and i hate myself for doing this to the woman i love.
i sent her this email, dont know if she got it or if she'll respond.

"The first time Ifell in love with you is what u feel every single day . I can't stop thinkingabout u and it drives me crazy ( honestly not knowing if ur with someone ) .I'm just gonna be totally honest . I really hope I can see u on Friday . Ishall not be messaging u anymore cos I feel like it's getting too much . Willbe waiting for ur confirmation for Friday at some point "

i just want to spend as much time with her as possible so that she can see i have changed. i dont even mind fighting with her because i would rather be with her and fight than not be with her at all

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You don't get it do you - this isn't all about YOUR feelings - its about how you have made TWO other women feel! Real men who love a woman do not cheat on her, do not lie about loving another woman and have a child with her - and then cheat on BOTH of them. I'm really glad that you feel bad now - maybe you can start to feel some compassion for these two women who feel bad because of your behaviour. Do both of them a favour - and leave both of them alone - apart, of course, from paying maintenance towards your baby.

You deserve to feel bad. No sympathy from me, no suggestions about getting back with her - just advice that the next time you start getting into another woman's knickers that you use protection.







You don't get the message do you.......it

marisco_2

introubleneedhelp wrote: »

She has now stopped talking to me completely and has blocked me on everything so I cannot communoicate with her.

You treated your ex with contempt numerous times and did so knowing exactly what you were doing. The wise woman has seen through you and called a day on any connection with you. Hopefully for her she will have the common sense to keep things that way.

yvonne13_2

introubleneedhelp wrote: »

i know everyone is being honest and i know i should leave my ex alone but i cant. i honestly dont think i will be able to be happy without her. i am always going to be there for my daughter but i want my ex to support me through it. it does sound really bad when you read other people saying it back to you and you are all right she doesnt deserve me.
the mother of my child does not know that i was seeing my ex while she was pregnant. when i broke up with her i told her that i didnt see a future together but would be there for my child. she is the only one who doesnt think bad of me because my ex even said i was the devil.
you are all right, i will try and leave her alone

You didn't need her help when you were sneeking around yet you want it now!!!!
So you've jacked everything up for 2 seconds of fun only to turn around and have a blooming cheek by wanting your ex to support YOU!!!!!!!.

Even when you had the perfect moment to confess you came of with lies and half truths.......

YOU DESERVE EVEYTHING THATS COMING TO YOU MY DEAR.........