I really messed up this time

Confusedandneedhelp

1 thing I can say, the op has made me think I'm not all bad.

I know I love my ex, and whilst I don't know what will happen in the future I have enough respect to myself, to her and to any new comer to not get involved when I'm clearly not in the position to.

introubleneedhelp

i guess that's it then. i have made my bed and i have to lie in it. even though the comments have been the harsh truth i guess i needed to hear it because my friends and family have just been telling me to be persistent which i have done. you have all said most of what my ex has said to me especially FBaby. i will let her go and i wont persue a relationship with my daughter's mother. they both do deserve better.

thorsoak

introubleneedhelp wrote: »

i guess that's it then. i have made my bed and i have to lie in it. even though the comments have been the harsh truth i guess i needed to hear it because my friends and family have just been telling me to be persistent which i have done. you have all said most of what my ex has said to me especially FBaby. i will let her go and i wont persue a relationship with my daughter's mother. they both do deserve better.

But you MUST pay maintenance for your daughter - she is not to blame for the situation.

introubleneedhelp

yvonne13 wrote: »

And the cows jumped over the moon......Can you hear yourself OP? Stop telling lies to justify you being in the wrong.

i am not justifying, i was responding to a question where someone asked if she knew i had a gf when she was sending me the pictures and she did. i know i am in the wrong with all this. all of it is my fault, i know

Amanda65

introubleneedhelp wrote: »

i will let her go and i wont persue a relationship with my daughter's mother. they both do deserve better.

Don't pursue a sxual relationship with your DD's mother but you must maintain contact, see your daughter and pay for her.

introubleneedhelp

thorsoak wrote: »

But you MUST pay maintenance for your daughter - she is not to blame for the situation.

i am not going to neglect my daughter, i will continue seeing her and providing for her.

fivetide

FBaby wrote: »

Did you really not see the need to protect yourself sleeping with a woman who already had 2 kids from 2 different men and was sending you dirty pictures whilst you were in a relationship? You really did bury your head in the sand!

Seems everything else has moved on but I have to say if you are going to get it on with someone who, lets say has a different moral perspective than some - next time, wrap it in a rubber!

FBaby

I know you will hurt initially but if you learn from what has led toy to where you are now you can apply it to developing a strong relationship to your daughter that could be much more rewarding than any emotional relationship. But do appreciate that it won't be easy, you will must likely face conflicts with the mother of your daughter, likely to be much worse battles then what you've dealt with so far but this time don't ignore the issues thinking that if you do all the troubles will disappear on their own without any consequences.

marisco_2

Have some self respect and leave the woman alone. A man who has a very evident 'wants we he cant have' approach to women, is not in the least bit an attractive proposition. You had your chance with this woman and blew it. Accept that and move on, for her sake and yours.

mandi

introubleneedhelp wrote: »

i guess that's it then. i have made my bed and i have to lie in it. they both do deserve better.

This ^^^^^^^