I really messed up this time

JoW123

introubleneedhelp wrote: »

i do not blame her for breaking up with me, i was a real a-hole. i know. i just want to make it better. i know she is hurting right now and i feel so bad. i have started drinking every day to take the pain away, i cant sleep, eat and i kno wi messed up. i just really regret everything and i hate myself for doing this to the woman i love.
i sent her this email, dont know if she got it or if she'll respond.

"The first time Ifell in love with you is what u feel every single day . I can't stop thinkingabout u and it drives me crazy ( honestly not knowing if ur with someone ) .I'm just gonna be totally honest . I really hope I can see u on Friday . Ishall not be messaging u anymore cos I feel like it's getting too much . Willbe waiting for ur confirmation for Friday at some point "

i just want to spend as much time with her as possible so that she can see i have changed. i dont even mind fighting with her because i would rather be with her and fight than not be with her at all

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If you were so happy and in love with her why were you in touch with the other woman in the first place?? Can you not see that even if you have changed she won't be able to trust you and it will always be in the back of her mind that you 'could' be lying again??

introubleneedhelp

shelley_crow wrote: »

Did you tell her you had a girlfriend when you were swapping dirty pictures?

she knew about my girlfriend. when we met up for drinks after my ex had broken up with me she asked if we were still together and i told her no and thats when it happened. worst day of my life in hindsight

FBaby

Do you realise they all your problems stem from you having chosen what looked at the time the easy option to avoid conflict? Unfortunately for you you are now paying the price. All this could have been avoided by dealing with the issues rather than running away from them.

From my protective there is no way I could be with the man I love having to accept that the most significant person is a child he had with another woman begins my back. I wouldn't be able to cope with the jealousy yet knowing that this little girl had even more right to his love and attention than myself. Thankfully I don't think I could still love someone who had lied to me as you've lied to her.

introubleneedhelp

thorsoak wrote: »

Have you told your parents that they are grandparents yet? What do they think of you?

my whole family is disappointed in me as they keep reminding me that i had a good thing with my ex but ruined it. everyone keeps telling me that i messed up, i know this and i have to live with it knowing that the i ruined the best thing thats ever happened to me.

Jenny484

You really are a prince among men.

I am not saying that it's a shame your daughter has been brought into the world but she will never have the chance to grow up in a family with both of her parents together. I am not saying you should stay together because of your daughter either. Clearly you don't love her mother.

Next time, use a condom.

introubleneedhelp

19lottie82 wrote: »

I think I know what will happen here. Your Ex will not give you the time of day, so you will go back to the mother of your child as an "alternative", even though she's not who you really want.

this is EXACTLY what my ex said. she said that she has a feeling i am going to get back with the mothe rof my child because i cannot be with her so i will go to her because she loves and appreciates me but i will not be truly happy because i will always regret ruining things with her

yvonne13_2

introubleneedhelp wrote: »

i do not blame her for breaking up with me, i was a real a-hole. i know. i just want to make it better. i know she is hurting right now and i feel so bad. i have started drinking every day to take the pain away, i cant sleep, eat and i kno wi messed up. i just really regret everything and i hate myself for doing this to the woman i love.
i sent her this email, dont know if she got it or if she'll respond.

"The first time Ifell in love with you is what u feel every single day . I can't stop thinkingabout u and it drives me crazy ( honestly not knowing if ur with someone ) .I'm just gonna be totally honest . I really hope I can see u on Friday . Ishall not be messaging u anymore cos I feel like it's getting too much . Willbe waiting for ur confirmation for Friday at some point "

i just want to spend as much time with her as possible so that she can see i have changed. i dont even mind fighting with her because i would rather be with her and fight than not be with her at all

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You havent changed you've always been the way you are now. No woman sends naked pictures out of the blue. You were seeing the woman for a very long time playing bf and gf and now shes got your child.....No words can discribe the betrail you've done to these women.
I find it sad that you have to say you're resorting to drink to get over your sorrows...I'm guessing your drinking coffee. Anyway enjoy your karma.

FBaby

Did you really not see the need to protect yourself sleeping with a woman who already had 2 kids from 2 different men and was sending you dirty pictures whilst you were in a relationship? You really did bury your head in the sand!

yvonne13_2

introubleneedhelp wrote: »

she knew about my girlfriend. when we met up for drinks after my ex had broken up with me she asked if we were still together and i told her no and thats when it happened. worst day of my life in hindsight

And the cows jumped over the moon......Can you hear yourself OP? Stop telling lies to justify you being in the wrong.

Amanda65

introubleneedhelp wrote: »

this is EXACTLY what my ex said. she said that she has a feeling i am going to get back with the mothe rof my child because i cannot be with her so i will go to her because she loves and appreciates me but i will not be truly happy because i will always regret ruining things with her

Please do not go back to the mother of your child as 'second best'. You have treated both women with contempt and disrespect. You deserve neither of them - and they definitely do not deserve to have to put up with you.