would this irritate you?

Katem

libra10 wrote: »

=I totally agree with your comments trailingspouse, and similar has happened to me, both in banking and our energy bill.
I also agree that this is discriminatory and sexist. Although the suffragettes won the vote for women, and Germaine Greer, et al try to fight the cause, women still not taken seriously enough.

It would irritate me too. I had an issue with Lloyds a few yrs ago where they wrote to my husband asking him to contact them about our joint account (a/c no was quoted). As DH doesn't have any interest in our finances other than "is there enough money to spend?" he asked me to call and deal with it. They refused to speak to me about this issue as they hadn't written to me, although they confirmed it WAS about our joint account.

I complained and they credited £100 into my account as a goodwill gesture. Probably why they bumped my account over to TSB

Cuckooclock

Well I agree my husband is hopeless at figures, never knows what we have in the back I do the lot. Always the letters are addressed to him first, does he open them, like heck he does. I know it's not that important, but yes it does niggle me.

gozaimasu

Everynamestaken wrote: »

I once waited around one minute like a lemon for 2 women to hold the door for them at the gym. They were talking to each other in there professional attire and I got no acknowledgment. I then held the other door for them expecting a 'thankyou' and got nothing once again.

I took exception because I specicially waited for them, and when I asked "would it not be courtesy to say thankyou, I got the bog standard reply of "young males today" bla bla.

The problem with society is the expectation. You expect someone to hold a door open for you. You expect a thank you if you hold a door open for someone.

If you don't like being expected to say thanks for something, then hang back and then go through the door yourself.

If you don't like dealing with people in front of you (or behind you) who may not thank you for opening a door for them, then hang back and wait until they go away.

If you held open one door for them and didn't get your expected acknowledgement, then don't hold the second door for them.

The courtesy/gentleman issue of opening doors for women is confusing. Women might not mind a man holding a door open for them if he goes through first, but might be offended if he lets her through first. After all, that's not gentlemanly, as the only reason he'd do that is because he's checking out her a s s

National Trust members - if you are irritated, let them know. We can't change societal dictates until we all make a stand, and yes, about the small things, because they all add up to make the bigger picture. Too many things have been left to go on for too long because no one could be bothered, or it's not worth worrying about yada yada.

The next step is to stop this archaic practice of joint accounts:rotfl:

Lily-Rose_3

innovate wrote: »

I can't believe this thread is still going. Surely there are one or two more important things in this world than the oxymoron of "my joint account", as the OP calls the account she and her husband hold together.

Yes I don't get this either, and I think someone must lead an incredibly blessed life if something as mind-numbingly trivial as this, stresses them out and upsets them to the point of properly complaining about it, and going on a rant about it.

It's 'Mr and Mrs,' and things ain't gonna change anytime soon.

I think it's incredibly petty (and frankly, bordering on slightly neurotic,) to make a big deal about this, but that's just my opinion of course. Who am *I* to dictate to people what things and events in life should make them lose sleep?

matttye

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Who am *I* to dictate to people what things and events in life should make them lose sleep?

A realist!

Lily-Rose_3

matttye wrote: »

A realist!

Probably best to have quoted my WHOLE post, (No 45) as picking the bit that 'you picked, made it look like it was something it wasn't.

I was being largely sarcastic, which would have been obvious if you had quoted my whole post and not just a few words.

libra10

Katem wrote: »

It would irritate me too. I had an issue with Lloyds a few yrs ago where they wrote to my husband asking him to contact them about our joint account (a/c no was quoted). As DH doesn't have any interest in our finances other than "is there enough money to spend?" he asked me to call and deal with it. They refused to speak to me about this issue as they hadn't written to me, although they confirmed it WAS about our joint account.

I complained and they credited £100 into my account as a goodwill gesture. Probably why they bumped my account over to TSB

My husband and I are exactly the same. He digs the garden, I pay the bills. He wouldn't know an ISA unless he could plant it in compost.

Unfortunately, Eon (our energy supplier) haven't offered any goodwill gestures regarding changing the name on our energy bill. Although, condescendingly, they have now listed my name on their system as someone they can speak to. Good of them considering that I organise direct debits, etc.

robatwork

libra10 wrote: »

My husband and I are exactly the same.

I'll take a small wager that you're not. Or that you don't understand the meaning of the word exactly.

To the OP - Mr. & Mrs. is a standard, de facto or otherwise.

Derek Batey died last year, but the phrase lives on.

trailingspouse

I actually don't mind being the 'Mrs' bit of a Mr and Mrs partnership. If I'd had a problem with being married, I wouldn't have got married.

But I do have a problem with not being treated equally, regardless of my title. Would the world really come to an end if the bank addressed their correspondence to 'Applicant One and Applicant Two'. Presumably this is what they do with same sex partnerships?

Lily-Rose - you are using some emotionally highly charged words to describe this, suggesting that I'm 'stressed out', 'upset', 'going on a rant', 'petty' and 'bordering on neurotic'. Really, no - just irritated.

ColdIron

trailingspouse wrote: »

But I do have a problem with not being treated equally

But you are asking to be treated unequally, you want prominence