would this irritate you?

shortcrust

trailingspouse wrote: »

Or maybe it matters very much indeed that all human beings are treated equally even when it comes to the little things.

Wow. It's names on a bank account.

ColdIron

trailingspouse wrote: »

Or maybe it matters very much indeed that all human beings are treated equally even when it comes to the little things.

Even though you are asking to be treated unequally as first applicant?

NotRichAtAll

i like the way you describe the joint account as yours, if i was your hubby that would irritate me

switched my joint account

anotheruser

For me, it would depend who opened the account and what order they put the names there.
I would want it that way, and that way always.

libra10 wrote: »

I also agree that this is discriminatory and sexist. Although the suffragettes won the vote for women, and Germaine Greer, et al try to fight the cause, women still not taken seriously enough.

WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?

It's people like you that are ruining our country!

Men and women will NEVER be equal. You have wombs, we don't. I find it discriminatory and sexist that women have aisles in the supermarket dedicated to goods for women only. Might as well close the whole aisle off to men!

Smithers37

libra10 wrote: »

I also agree that this is discriminatory and sexist. Although the suffragettes won the vote for women, and Germaine Greer, et al try to fight the cause, women still not taken seriously enough.

Saying ridiculous stuff like this is the reason you're not taken seriously. Nothing to do with being a woman.

As for the OP's question... no it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

trailingspouse

Yes shortcrust - it's names on a bank account.

ColdIron - I am the first applicant. I'm asking to be treated like the first applicant. Seems reasonable to me.

NotRichAtAll - it is my account. Although I see your point. In some contexts I would refer to it as 'our' account, and in some contexts OH would refer to it as his account. It would take more than that to irritate him.

anotheruser - oh dear. The point I'm making is that if society can't manage to treat us equally regarding the little things (like names on a bank account) then what hope is there for the big things.

Ivana - exactly the same thing happened to me!! I wanted to join, OH wasn't bothered one way or the other, I did all the talking, paid with my own credit card - and lo and behold all the correspondence came addressed to him. Way to treat the customer!!

matttye

The way I see it, is why sweat the small stuff? You're never going to meet the person that reordered the names and it won't make a blind bit of difference to your life.

I wish this was all I had to worry about...

ColdIron

trailingspouse wrote: »

I am the first applicant. I'm asking to be treated like the first applicant. Seems reasonable to me.

Seems reasonable to me too and I'm not contesting the point, it just seemed a tad hypocritical to say all humans should be treated equally in one breath and then that you wanted more prominence as the principal in another

The reality is that these communications are produced automatically from a database and are likely sorted alphabetically (or something else more efficient for the mail merge) . The cost of doing anything else would be prohibitive

Goldiegirl

Does it really matter - you can't both go first, so one of you has to be second. But the account still belongs to both of you, and you can both operate it. It's just not worth getting riled about!

Goldiegirl

anotheruser wrote: »

I find it discriminatory and sexist that women have aisles in the supermarket dedicated to goods for women only. Might as well close the whole aisle off to men!

Would you be happy with the sanitary protection items and thrush remedies being next to your razors and shaving foam?