would this irritate you?

trailingspouse

I've just switched my joint account from one major high street bank to another. I spent 90 minutes on the phone with them, and apart from a couple of minutes for a security check my OH did not speak to them at all.

We've just received an acknowledgement letter from them - just a standard letter telling us that everything is going according to plan and giving us the completion date.

The letter was addressed to my OH and then me. As the one who actually spoke to them, I would have expected to be the first named in any correspondence. Am I right to be irritated?

camperdown9

Yes it would.

But in the grand scheme of things, I guess its not that big a deal. Life is full of stupid little announces, the trick is not to let them upset you. I am yet to get to that point but thats the theory anyway.

Thrugelmir

trailingspouse wrote: »

Am I right to be irritated?

If that's your level of concern you are heading to an early grave with a heart attack. More important things in life to worry about.

Chrisblue1962

trailingspouse wrote: »

I've just switched my joint account from one major high street bank to another. I spent 90 minutes on the phone with them, and apart from a couple of minutes for a security check my OH did not speak to them at all.

We've just received an acknowledgement letter from them - just a standard letter telling us that everything is going according to plan and giving us the completion date.

The letter was addressed to my OH and then me. As the one who actually spoke to them, I would have expected to be the first named in any correspondence. Am I right to be irritated?

At the end of the day, nobody got killed and we all went home for tea.:)

If this is the only thing you lose sleep over then count yourself lucky as personally, I've got much bigger fish to catch, never mind fry.

matttye

I doubt I'd even have noticed and definitely wouldn't have posted on here about it.

bambos

I wouldn't have noticed and prob not cared at all to be honest........mind you had I noticed I might have quipped at my DH something along the lines of 'now the accounts moved it's proof what's yours is mine and what's mine is my own' :rotfl:

But that's the jokey type we are tbh

comeandgo

I don't know if you are male or female but my husband does get a bit miffed when some joint items have me named first but it's because my name is before his in the alphabet. I don't care which of us comes first as one of the names has to.

eskbanker

Perhaps they were just complying with OP's username?

trailingspouse

Thanks all.

eskbank - it's ironic.

I admit that I did get irritated. And I admit that in the grand scheme of things worse things could happen.

But I also see it as symptomatic of much bigger issues relating to sexism, and in particular attitudes to married women.

I spoke to the bank in question, and they are in total agreement with me that Applicant 1 should be named first on the correspondence. The first guy I spoke to was genuinely shocked that it had happened. It turns out that an employee has taken it upon themselves to decide that the male named on the account should come first. It was escalated, without me asking, to management level, and (again without me asking) a complaint has been logged and a request for re-training made.

I'm very pleased that this bank is taking the issue seriously.

Maybe it doesn't really matter if I'm not named first (although years ago, when Halifax first issued shares, they were only sent to the first named person on joint accounts, so actually it does matter). Or maybe it matters very much indeed that all human beings are treated equally even when it comes to the little things.

libra10

=I totally agree with your comments trailingspouse, and similar has happened to me, both in banking and our energy bill.

Although I was the person who decided to change to Eon for our energy several years ago, and they never even spoke to my husband, they insist on heading all their correspondence to Mr Libra.

If I ever need to query anything regarding the bill they insist on asking my husband his date of birth, and a couple of other questions.

I deal with all our finances and have asked Eon to change to billing to my name, but it's not so straightforward! Talk about jobs worth!

I also agree that this is discriminatory and sexist. Although the suffragettes won the vote for women, and Germaine Greer, et al try to fight the cause, women still not taken seriously enough.

Ivana_Tinkle

Yes, it would irritate me too. I just bought a family membership to the National Trust. I did it all in my name, with my partner just named as the second adult, and the bank account from which the direct debit is taken is in my sole name. Yet when the membership package arrived, my partner is named first. We're not married, and my name comes before his in the alphabet. There's no logic to it at all and I do find it sexist and rude.