would this irritate you?

PeacefulWaters

Goldiegirl wrote: »

Would you be happy with the sanitary protection items and thrush remedies being next to your razors and shaving foam?

Thrush remedies? Mrs PW told me to get something like that and looked mighty naffed off when I came home with birdseed.

Deneb

The formal and correct method of address would be to put the husband before the wife, e.g. Mr A N Other and Mrs B N Other or Mr and Mrs A N Other. I would guess that the bank feel that if they address it any other way they may get just as many complaints for being disrespectful, impolite or simply not following traditional protocol. Sometimes these days, it seems you just can't win.

I wonder if the OP is one of those women who get affronted whenever I hold a door open for them, seemingly incapable of comprehending that I was bought up to be polite and considerate and will hold a door open for anyone male or female if they are waiting to come though it. As I say, these days you just can't win.

Lily-Rose_3

I have been married over 20 years now, and no matter what, if something is for me and my husband, it ALWAYS comes addressed to Mr & Mrs A Jones. (Even though my initial is L.) Never cared TBH, as it's just par for the course as far as I'm concerned. I had a friend a few years ago, who insisted that ALL correspondence was addressed to Mr J and Mrs K Harris, and went apesh*t if it wasn't! :rotfl:

I think some women regard it as sexist, if the post isn't sent with 'her' name in as well. Never bothered me at all. But then I am very old fashioned and a bit of a traditionalist. And I mean, how bonkers would 'Mrs and Mr' Sound?! EEEEEEK, it's like Dec and Ant! :eek:

Lily-Rose_3

Deneb wrote: »

The formal and correct method of address would be to put the husband before the wife, e.g. Mr A N Other and Mrs B N Other or Mr and Mrs A N Other. I would guess that the bank feel that if they address it any other way they may get just as many complaints for being disrespectful, impolite or simply not following traditional protocol. Sometimes these days, it seems you just can't win.

I wonder if the OP is one of those women who get affronted whenever I hold a door open for them, seemingly incapable of comprehending that I was bought up to be polite and considerate and will hold a door open for anyone male or female if they are waiting to come though it. As I say, these days you just can't win.

Amen to that. I know a FEW women like that unfortunately. I know this will make some women cringe or facepalm - but personally, I LOVE being treated like a lady I like being called love and sweetheart and darlin' and I like having doors opened for me, and offers to carry stuff for me, and men offering to pay for things for me/buy me a drink. (The last thing though, I rarely take, as most people are broke these days, and I like to take turns in paying. )

mgdavid

trailingspouse wrote: »

I've just switched my joint account .....?

factually and grammatically incorrect; it is OUR joint account.
It has been custom and practice to use the order 'male name' then 'female name' since, ooh, about 1798 probably. Do you get uptight about the way letters are addressed to you both as well?

slopemaster

Deneb wrote: »

The formal and correct method of address would be to put the husband before the wife, e.g. Mr A N Other and Mrs B N Other or Mr and Mrs A N Other.

Traditionally, yes, Mr and Mrs A N Other.
(NOT Mrs B N Other, as that would be a widow's title. )

But, as this is the 21st Century, why assume the OP shares her husband's name?

slopemaster

trailingspouse - yes, it would and does irritate the hell out of me.
I am, however, amazed that your bank seem to have taken it seriously.
(Well done!)

We have had a joint account with RBS for nigh-on 30 years and they still insist on putting his name first although I asked them not to. (We have different names.) I've got mail forwarding set up in my name but the statements don't get forwarded because his name is first.
Annoying, but not as bad as our French bank, who insisted that, as we're married I must have the same name as my husband, and thus could not open an account in my own name in spite of showing them a passport!

PS I am, in spite of my username, female

slopemaster

mgdavid wrote: »

It has been custom and practice to use the order 'male name' then 'female name' since, ooh, about 1798 probably.

At which time married women couldn't own property.
Perhaps we've moved on a little since then...

libra10

slopemaster wrote: »

At which time married women couldn't own property.
Perhaps we've moved on a little since then...

......... But still a long way to go!

alanq

If I understand correctly, with mutuals it DOES matter who is named first on a joint account. Only the first named has voting rights and is eligible to receive demutualisation shares.