I totally blown it guys :( - No I never! He likes me!!!

Oduliet

You guys are all so great. I just read page 6, and although I don't understand what you are talking about in exact detail, I find it so so charming to see how well you all get on together and can talk about anything.

I wish I was British.

daisiegg

Oduliet wrote: »

Guys!!! Third date approved for Friday :j we are going to watch a movie together. I've picked it so it better be good. Has anyone there watched Neighbors with Zac Efron? To me it is what I think a Brit would enjoy, but knowing my luck he will hate it and I fail again.

Who cares what 'a Brit' would enjoy? What do you think HE would enjoy? He is a person, not just a nationality, and you know him, we don't!!!

FBaby

Well clearly he is enjoying your company. Well he wouldn't if you constantly treat him like he is some kind of hero

Have fun and take it as it comes.

thehappybutterfly

Just to throw some more Scottish in.....

Oduliet, you sound lovely and Im really pleased you're going out again but I echo the advice you've been given and suggest you ca' canny and not get too full on with this guy. Not because I think it's going to end in tears but please don't declare undying love!

Ca' canny = be careful / take your time.

BTW - Im officially American although Ive lived in Scotland for 40 years, since I was 5!

Pyxis

Yeyyyyyyyy! Oduliet!! Tha's ma girl!

I'm SO pleased!

Now, I haven't seen Neighbours with Zac Efron, so don't know what it's like, but I don't think it matters!

The good thing about films is that even if it turns out to be a bad film, it's a discussion point! Afterwards, when you're having a bite to eat/coffee/tea etc. ( note the lack of alcohol!:rotfl:), if you sense he didn't like it, you can pretend you're film critics, and discuss why! Ditto, if it's a good film! Leads on to 'what makes a film a GOOD film, ie one that can appeal to different ages, backgrounds, etc. gives you something to talk about!


I second the other views from posters here, namely, PLEASE don't wear your heart on your sleeve, don't bring the 'L' word into it! (Another reason to stay off the booze on the date!)
See him as a potentially very good friend, one that he'll want to keep in touch with on his return to England.

Will he still be there on July the Fourth? If so, you could perhaps suggest doing/seeing something July-the-fourth-ish on the day. Something specific, though, not just a general invite. And get the invitation in before any of the other girls in the office do!

This is SO good - but small steps!

fivetide

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

Oduliet, you sound lovely and Im really pleased you're going out again but I echo the advice you've been given and suggest you ca' canny and not get too full on with this guy. Not because I think it's going to end in tears but please don't declare undying love!

Got to agree. He said quite clearly he isn't looking for a serious romance as he will be going at some point. Still, love conquers all and you never know. I would see this as a chance to have some fun and spend time with someone you like though. Don't set your heart on more at this point. Likely scare him away!

Neighbors should be ok if he likes bawdy comedy. Just knocked Spiderman 2 off top spot. The only issue is that missing U in Neighbours

Ozzuk

Relax a bit Oduliet, us guys 'tend' to like a bit of a chase, that potential for something to happen rather than the OMG I like you on date 3. Just enjoy the date, don't get heavy, you may be more attached to the idea than the guy at this point. Long distance is really, really hard, especially between countries, I know this from bitter experience. You are overthinking massively so just breathe, relax, have fun and enjoy his company. Oh...and don't drink too much

Izadora

Yay for date number 3. Although some Brit generalisations won't apply, it does appear that we're more relaxed when it comes to drunken stupidity :-)
As other people have said, try to enjoy your time with him without over-thinking where it might be heading and I hope you both like the film.

Orlando_Virgin

5 jagerbombs on the first date and you chundered? I'd be more disappointed that you were a lightweight than anything else!!:)

ScrimpingandSaving

I'm seconding everything everyone else has said. This doesn't just apply to Brits, but to people generally. If you come across as a bit desperate then they will run a mile.

You say he is due to return to the UK. So he may not be looking for a serious relationship but a friendship. You have to be prepared for that. This is not a movie where the girl chases the guy to the airport thinking he's gone, but then he she finds him sat there after he let his place go because he realised he was in love with her. This is real life and in real life that just doesn't happen.

Go with the flow. Don't fawn over him. Pick movies YOU want to see. Don't focus on his Britishness - there is no such thing. We are all different. There are many regions of Britain and each region has its own mini-culture if you like. You can't pigeon hole a Brit, this is very much a multi-cultural, open-minded country.

If you appear too vulnerable and needy, you might be taken advantage of and get your heart broken. So pull back a little, give him space, be independent and focus on what you want instead of forever looking at yourself through the eyes of others.

You are a very pretty girl who is obviously very loving, caring and funny. You would make a fantastic date for anyone, but I've seen a good deal many women like you walked all over by men in this country. They can spot vulnerability a mile off.

Do take this warning in the spirit it is intended. I think we can all spot that you are a lovely, genuine and warm-hearted person and that has made us a little protective of you because you seem so open. I would hate for this man to abuse that.

If he does - let us know where he lives