Time to start out on my own

xJOJOx_2

Things are all nicey nice today, hopefully this will last.

Wrote a list off everything I will need to start up a new home. Put £20 in pot towards decorating stuff (hey it's a start)

Few coins in jar towards first shop. £20 in purse to get a few little bits to start me off.

Big aim is too not get into any extra debt whilst going through this process and once in the house and settled start paying some small amounts again.

Some bids on eBay, will need to list some more to die clutter before the move and get some pennies in pot ready to buy some bits.

Will be looking in furniture finders etc once I've secured a house. Just wish it was tomorrow so I can make a start towards new life.

GeorgieG_2

Good Luck JoJo.

Don't forget to check out your local Freecycle for furniture and other bits you may need x

Monkeyballs

Hi JoJo,

I've just read through your thread and felt I should pass on a few words of support.

You've given the guy chances and you have made a decision which is best for both yourself and the kids.

I can't help but notice that your latter posts have a slightly different "tone" to them so I'm guessing that you might be worried that he finds your words and comments so please do, if you haven't already, clear your browser history or even use the 'Incognito' function if it is available on your browser.

I'm not suggesting you need to tell us more than you already have but it's less fuel for the fire so to speak...

Some great advice from those above and I'm sure more will follow

MB x

Claire_Anna_Preece

Although I have to say I am in a slightly different situation to XJOXJO, I really need some advice myself. I need some clarity and advice as I think I'm losing my marbles. I hope XJOXJO doesn't mind as I don't really know where to post this message but if your partner who you dearly love doesn't give you anything but keeps on getting into debt, living in my house, driving my car, doesn't pay for food or bills but then has debt which he doesn't pay back but uses my address to get these loans, do you think he really cares? Or have I just lost my marbles? I need help x

xJOJOx_2

Hi Claire

Have you approached this subject with him or has it just built up to this point over time and you've finally reached the limit? X

solvencyseeker

Claire, you haven't lost your marbles - I think you might just have "seen the light"!

xJOJOx - have been thinking about you this weekend. Really hope you can make a new start for yourself and your children.

Best wishes to you both x

rugbychick81

Hi Jojo

Some pub companies offer specific support for people affected by alcohol abuse. They might have someone who can help you.

xJOJOx_2

solvencyseeker wrote: »

Claire, you haven't lost your marbles - I think you might just have "seen the light"!

xJOJOx - have been thinking about you this weekend. Really hope you can make a new start for yourself and your children.

Best wishes to you both x

Thanks. I'm in the right frame off mind to do so. Now matter how nice he is over the next few weeks I know it will come again to the same point so need to carry on and sort everything out x

xJOJOx_2

rugbychick81 wrote: »

Hi Jojo

Some pub companies offer specific support for people affected by alcohol abuse. They might have someone who can help you.

There isn't anything set up with my company as we're only small. However I know my boss will help me in any which way I needed. If things did turn nasty he would get him removed or put me into room somewhere depending on situation. He'll be gutted I'm going but I'll know there will be a job somewhere when I'm ready to continue.

Not talked to my boss yet but hoping to nip down and see him Wednesday to explain what's going on and that I'll be leaving x

skintygerlinky

Absolutely rooting for you and your kids JoJo. Keep posting here, everyone is supportive of you xxxxxxxxxxx