People living their lives through Facebook/Mobiles etc

tea-tart-and-rice_3

I use facebook for local buying/selling pages. It is great for that. Not so much when arguments break out because someone claims they commented first, blah blah and a cat-fight breaks out over a 50p dress. I have "unfriended" a lot of people, mums from school, acquantainces purely because I do not have any desire to see a picture of their tea, their latest purchase or share in the tears of the latest relationship break up.

To be honest, I think the novelty of facebook is wearing thin now, my younger daughter is a lot less interested than my older ones were.

I personally think a lot of people no longer have boundaries, for example I am a regular visitor to car boot sales. Ive lost count of the times my eyes sting from people smoking weed walking around. When did that become appropriate I wonder? My other bug-bear is waiting for staff to finish a personal conversation, sometimes about facebook, before they look up to serve. Recently in TK Maxx I asked a sales assistant if she knew where such-and-such was and she shooed me away :eek:

stormbreaker

I have skimmed this thread but soooo glad I am not alone! But to add another thing that really annoys me is when people think it ok to answer their phones whilst sitting in MY livingroom! My sister and SIL for example will quite happy phone or answer phones and have a full conversation with someone whilst I toil to hear my TV. When my house phone goes I excuse myself and leave the room. If it is not an urgent caller, I excuse myself from them as I have company! I sometimes think that its me who is from a different planet!

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Lily-Rose_3

I actually do like FB, but a few people annoy me on there, for the reasons given above: people parping on about their private life, over sharing, putting too many pix up of their kids. But it is only about 4 or 5 people in my case.

However, I do agree a lot with the original post. My daughter (19) is at uni, and she came home for Easter, for a week before going off again on a 10 day trip with her pals. She came home on the 12th of April, and went off again on the 20th. And for those 8 days, she must have spent about 50% of the time on her mobile phone/smart phone, and her laptop too, talking to a lad she recently started dating, as well as 4 or 5 of her pals from uni. (Who incidentally, she sees ALL the time when she is at uni!)

I felt myself getting a bit irked by the constant looking down at her phone, even when I was trying to talk to her, going 'huh?' and 'Hmmm...' half the time I tried to to her. A couple of times I said 'who you speaking to?' And she snapped 'WHY?' I said 'I am just trying to make conversation, that's all.'

She seemed irritated and p**sed off that I was asking her who she was speaking to, and that I was interrupting her. I mean, she is only here for a short spell, before I don't see her again for 3 months. Is it too much to ask that she talks to me and her dad and listens too, and maybe spends a BIT of time with us? Her dad said 'she may as well have stayed at bloomin' uni! for all the interaction we're getting from her.'

I am not ashamed to admit this, but it made my heart sink and upset me. I had not seen her since the first week in January, I was looking forward to spending the week with her, and she didn't want to come out with me to spend a bit of time by the river, or go to the local park or come out for the day with us, because she was too consumed with talking on FB to her pals, and on facetime (or whatever it's called,) on her mobile phone, to her new boyfriend.

I didn't want to have a go at her, because I don't want to upset her or cause a fuss. And especially as she was going on her first holiday without me and her dad, and I didn't want to ruin it for her. But if this happens in the summer hols: I will say something. It's so rude and disrespectful, and as I said, I found it particularly upsetting as we have hardly seen her in the last 8 months anyway!

Over the 3 week Christmas break she wasn't too bad, because she didn't have a boyfriend then. It seems whenever she has a boyfriend, she gets a bit besotted, and nothing else matters!

Also, she seems to talk to us more when she is at uni, as she phones once or twice a week for 15 to 30 minutes, and talks on facebook chat or skype for an hour or so once or twice a week too. Go figure! What the hell has the internet done to people?!

Indie_Kid

stormbreaker wrote: »

I have skimmed this thread but soooo glad I am not alone! But to add another thing that really annoys me is when people think it ok to answer their phones whilst sitting in MY livingroom! My sister and SIL for example will quite happy phone or answer phones and have a full conversation with someone whilst I toil to hear my TV. When my house phone goes I excuse myself and leave the room. If it is not an urgent caller, I excuse myself from them as I have company! I sometimes think that its me who is from a different planet!

It's not you. A few years ago, I was at my friend's house and his mobile went. He excused himself and answered his phone elsewhere. I tend to do that too - partly because I want to talk to whoever in peace and not struggle to hear the phone over the TV or whatever.

lostinrates

Its a requirement of my husband's job he has his blackberry on him at all times. It goes off at any time of day or night.

He manages this socially by keeping it on silent but checking it every now and then. He is required to answer certain emails within a very short time frame. Its frightful but true.

He apologises, but has little choice.

I have a microbusiness which means I might need to be contacted when I am not at home. If my phone rings and I can see its a client or someone related to them or am not sure who, I apologise and take the call, away from to he group. As soon as I have ascertained its not, or not urgent, I wrap it up, either by providing info quickly or saying, I will attend to it as soon as possible.

The number of people who text others socially seems to have mushroomed out of control. When we have guests over I keep my iPad in the kitchen, and do tend to refresh page in there, or when others are , for example, in the loo, but I cannot imagine checking MSE or whatever if guests came.

Saturnalia

This thread has inspired me to do a big cull of my friends list and get shot of the ones I never hear/see anything from any more, the ones I added as "neighbours" for games I don't use any more, the ones that spam up my news feed with daily baby & wedding pix meaning I don't see as much stuff from my real and interesting friends, etc.

I also looked over my privacy settings and was happy to find one that stops your mates tagging you in photos without you accepting first. I have a dear friend who never stops taking pix and uploads the lot, I don't want everyone seeing the "tiddly on a night out" ones.

Someone else's FB silliness was my gain though. The lass who did my job before me was sacked after a few months for not only phoning in sick most Mondays and Fridays but befriending most of the office on FB and providing updates of "banging weekend! So hungover!" plus photographic evidence! So the company called me first thing in the mornings to cover her sickies and that's how I ended up going perm there.

The one that gets me huffing though is people going to a gig and videoing the entire show. Especially if they are using a tablet, it gets in the way of the person behind's view of the actual band playing live that they paid to see. Then you see these vids on Youtube etc. and the film is blurry and the sound tinny. It could be anybody on that stage. Why go to a live gig if you're not going to enjoy the moment?

Big_Tree

Facebook is for the sad, the lonely and the stupid.....

I got rid of my 'smart' phone about 18 months ago....

It's chewing gum for the brain. it's sad that millions of people seem to only enjoy chewing gum......

I'm only 31, so not from a different generation.

Buzzybee90

How is being on Facebook any different than being on a forum?

shoppaholic_returns

BigJockKnew wrote: »

Facebook is for the sad, the lonely and the stupid.....

I got rid of my 'smart' phone about 18 months ago....

It's chewing gum for the brain. it's sad that millions of people seem to only enjoy chewing gum......

I'm only 31, so not from a different generation.

I am a few years older than you, but i absolutely agree.

A really sad practise, TWitter is as bad, or Twa**er as i like to refer to it as!