I hurt a stranger online unintentionally

meames_2

There is a website called Tineye that shows where pictures originate from. Someone I know on Facebook was using images to show us her fabulous life, tineye showed us otherwise! And that's from someone I Had known for almost 40 years.

voucher

Don't ever take a fence down until you know why it was put up, its published greatly all over the web about the horrors of online dating (not that it all is), im sorry but you should have known better grow up and move on simple.

yvonne13_2

voucher wrote: »

Don't ever take a fence down until you know why it was put up, its published greatly all over the web about the horrors of online dating (not that it all is), im sorry but you should have known better grow up and move on simple.

Please elaborate

savingmummy

Apart from the genuine people who use online forums/sites, people can be who they want to be and create a whole new life for themselves to draw people in.

Don`t feel bad! Feel relieved you never met in person, that would of been a shock and awkward!

Toucan_Pecan

giantmutantbroccoli wrote: »

You've made the right decision. When you interact with someone online, all you have to go on is their pictures and what they say about themselves - if his pictures are a complete lie, what else is he lying about? And that's before you even get to the other stuff you discovered online, which I'm guessing must be pretty bad!

Life is too short, frankly, and too fragile to bother with somebody who won't tell you the truth. Better if he hadn't used a picture at all!

I arranged to meet a guy from OKCupid who had a nice picture, was in his early 20s, lots of hobbies and a busy job. We discussed how to meet safely, decided on a cafe in a city near-ish me, he'd catch a train into the city and I'd meet him at the station and we'd walk to the cafe. All seemed well and good until the day before when I got a text saying that he wouldn't have time this weekend because he had to work, unless I could come round to his house? I suggested we rearrange for the following week instead, he said ok. The next week, on the morning of the day we're supposed to meet I get another text saying he couldn't make it - but if I could get the train into his city, we could still meet up. I was just about okay with this, and then he messages back to say his friend will pick me up from the station and drive me to his house so we can meet up. His friend who is in his 50s, and "actually really nice" even though he "looks a bit scary". At the point where a safe meeting in a public train station and onto a cafe became a car ride with a strange, much older man to go to the house of another guy I'd never met in person, I bailed. The guy deleted his profile the following week, and some searching around of the image he'd used turned up a cute guy on the other side of the country who definitely wasn't the guy I'd been talking to.
I felt, still feel, like I'd dodged a bullet there - and from what you say about this guy, you have too. You should feel good for listening to your instincts!

Jesus! that's absolutely terrifying. You should have asked for a photo of the scary man so you could "recognize him" when you met, and just alerted the website or even the police if you felt threatened. Sounds like a predator to be honest!

SailorSam

voucher wrote: »

, im sorry but you should have known better grow up and move on simple.

The Op did know better, that's why she wanted to check him out on Skype before going on a date.
Some of these people who probably make their living from scamming people can be very convincing.

duchy

voucher wrote: »

Don't ever take a fence down until you know why it was put up, its published greatly all over the web about the horrors of online dating (not that it all is), im sorry but you should have known better grow up and move on simple.

If you are smart internet dates can be checked out far more easily than someone you meet at a large social event or an art gallery (or a garden centre as you are into fencing) or anywhere else where you don't have friends or acquaintances in common.

People should take sensible precautions in all those circumstances- which the OP should be congratulated for doing not put down by silly people like you. I don't think it's the OP who needs to grow up but perhaps you do and maybe then you'd stop making daft judgmental comments about someone you know little about.

Pollycat

duchy wrote: »

People should take sensible precautions in all those circumstances- which the OP should be congratulated for doing not put down by silly people like you. I don't think it's the OP who needs to grow up but perhaps you do and maybe then you'd stop making daft judgmental comments about someone you know little about.

And also start following his/her signature which reads:

If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague

fivetide

Guy sounds nuttier than squirrel droppings.

Sit back and feel good you caught him out. What a muppet.

victory

It happens all the time, have you seen catfish?

You did right by 'calling him out' sure you may have not wanted to offend him/upset his feelings but he lied to you, you did right