talk me down please

mellymoo74

Right am here. Have had a telling off. He's eaten half has gone for ablutions then he will finish rest and we will love

meritaten

Not sure if you are talking about OH or Mr Cat there melly!

mellymoo74

Lol Mr cat he's allowed to tell me off for being late

mellymoo74

That another man not talking to me.
Proper cob on.
I am being stared at, he's refused loves just had a blinky tho so he maybe thawing

meritaten

melly - Mr Cat was plainly telling you he wanted to go home with you if he got into car! of course he is 'pussed off'! you have to take him home sometime hun, and why not now? cats are adaptable and the time you have left to access MILs is coming to an end.

mellymoo74

Incase there is a porky princess created blood bath.
We are in a ground floor maisonette. Have mostly organised what will be Mr Cats private sanctuary.

He comes tomorrow day gives me two days to settle before back to work.
Think I'm walking him round on a lead lol.

The way OH brain works is 'fixate on something that need to be done, it needs to be done this way, in this order, any deviation means starting again anxiety levels rise.'
He has decided tomorrow at the moment he's hanging on by a thread (that's what the affair bull was about). So play along whilst chasing psychologist appointment

meritaten

ah - he felt he had no control about MIL illness and death then? he didn't. Cancer cant be controlled. and neither can other people. so he turns his mind to an environment he CAN control. he definitely needs help melly - and his previous actions are making sense now.

mellymoo74

OCD and anxiety I was expecting a relapse hence the nagging for psychologist and doctor appointments.
He had seroxat and did really well on it but one of the GPs decided he couldn't have it anymore and the ones he's been on for a few months don't work.

I shall be up at 6 to finish boxing stuff up. Told OH we will be getting T before they turn up to move the last of the stuff.

mellymoo74

Why such trouble with the physio he can't get his head round the fact OCD isn't just hand washing and light switches. OH needs his routine, cannot stop a task once started, can't cope with changing environment.
The reason why I want to move to MIL'S and not another bungalow is OH knows it so will cope.
The psychologist seemed to grasp this so am going to call next week.
OH was suicidal before MIL died, what do you think he's like.now the funeral is.over?
Currently distracting himself with thoughts of my cheating (thanks.MIL for teaching him not to trust)

mellymoo74

Today I gave been wrapping up breakables. Buying a little tray. And taking abusive calls from nasty nephew and SIL